To think dh should have some perspective?

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First time in AIBU so please be gentle but honest....

Pretty annoyed with my dh but emotional and hormonal (38 weeks pregnant) so need to check if IABU.

Friday night my uncle passed away, he was in hospital seriously ill but everyone thought he had months if not years. My father (his brother) and my grandparents are of course heartbroken. I was not that close to him but am still devastated for my father, grandparents and cousin (who is in her 20s and has already lost her mum, so this is extra tragic). We were at my parents and then grandparents today, very emotional for everyone of course, felt drained and so sad for them.

When we came home my dh decided to work out our family budget, I'm pregnant with ds2 and we had been thinking we might need a bigger car. Dh works away in the week very long hours and was upset to see that we only have about 250 a month to put in savings/towards a new car (after taking out some money for disposable income).

I know he works really hard and has a point but I was so annoyed at his bad timing and lack of perspective! We are fit and healthy, can pay all our bills, are surrounded by loved ones, we have all the things that money can't buy. I just wanted to shake him! I am a SAHM at the moment and will go back to work in a year or 2 when it makes financial sense with childcare costs etc. so if this is the worst (touch wood) we're going to have it I think we are pretty damn lucky!

Could really have done with a bit of a cuddle/support this evening instead of dh feeling sorry for himself. So AIBU to be pissed off and in the spare room?

I'mScared.... Something gives me the feeling you are wasting your time a but there!

bei how is one thread on one website making herself centre of attention?

Bad timing, good intention... sorry for your loss, and good luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Beitou, I'd hazard a guess that you try to be centre of attention too, you just use a different approach. :)

Think you may have a point there hyperballad

Thanks for all the kind and/or constructive posts ladies.

I find it interesting that beitou said I was trying to get attention (which I was not, just wanted second opinions), when in actual fact she has managed to turn this thread around to get all the attention on herself. Think I will let any more of her comments go and perhaps others should do the same? Although thanks for being outraged on my behalf!

Are you incapable of being out raged your self?

OP, I agree with aldiwhore that it was a bit of bad timing, with a good intention. Give each other a hug, and good luck

Ignore the attention-seeking missiles.

I have just reported Beitou's posts on this thread and on other threads - not a single reasonable post amongst them.

Oh and I apologised to MNHQ in advance for my post calling a twat a twat.

Can anyone else hear this really annoying noise?

Beitou you fascinate me.

Op glad you seem to feel a bit more sorted. Hope you get a good nights sleep.

What, like a drone?

Yeah, sort of like a drone crossed with a whiney child. Wired.

Wierd!

Or weird even.
It's late.

beitou - you need to power down your laptop, step outside and reaquaint yourself with the real world. This is just the internet; just Mumsnet. You seriously need to get yourself a life, if it's all worth taking THIS seriously and winding you up THIS much.

A wired weird whiney child?

I'm trying to doze off so I've popped ear plugs in.

Yes that's the one :)
They are the worst kind.

OP - you are not being unreasonable; after a day like that I'd need a bit of a cuddle too. However, your dh isn't being unreasonable either; this may have made him realise just how temporary life is, and determined to get things sorted. (Sounds like my dh)

I might have to try to sell A Grip on ebay, Somerset.

A Grip, new without tags. Perfect for some Mumsnetters who have lost theirs. Can combine postage with my other offers, including A Life and A Fucking Sense Of Perspective. From a smoke-free home.

OP, i think YABU, but only a very little bit and understandably so given the situation. It doesn't sound that insensitive. Maybe after a day talking about a death your DH wanted to concentrate on life and giving you and the DC the best possible. Also if he works all week, then he doesn't really have much time to sort it before baby comes. good luck with the pregnancy.