Tickling

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AIBU to think that if tickling a child you should check to make sure they want you to continue, not assume their shrieks are playful? I hated being over-tickled as a child and it freaks me out, DH think it's hilarious.

YANBU. I absolutely hate being tickled. You wouldn't tickle an adult if they don't want to be tickled (at least you shouldn't!), why would you do it to a child.

Ya totally nbu, my kids both love being tickled and ds in particular will try to get me to tickle him, but they both have a safe word for stopping

I don't mind being tickled, but dp detests it.

yanbu

I used to be ticklish, until a 'friend' at seconday school did it so often that I desensitised myself to it. If people try and tickle me nowadays, they just get a paddington bear hard stare!
No op yanbu!

We have big tickle fights sometimes. DH is so tickly everywhere and is soon incapacitated, whereas he has to get me behind my knees which is more tricky. DD2 loves being tickled and comes back for more. But definitely it should be fun and not torture!

I had a distant teenage relative who would tickle my knees so much it hurt when I was about 4. Very odd.

I also hate being tickled but my DS loves it and asks for more. I think it's very important to give a child the chance to object and respect that they may not want you to continue.

YANBU

I am not ticklish at all, but my day add Dh are.I am very aware of how horrible it is to be tickled if you're very ticklish. I always make sure I am aware of the ticklees pain. But my gosh it's hard to stop!

That should be ds and dh

I really wouldn't know, I'm not ticklish anywhere and never have been :)

Sometimes I wish I was though, the people being tickled look like they are having so much fun and I can't join in :(

Yes I remember this. Yanbu!

Well I can definately tell the difference between laughing and crying so to me that would be the indicator to stop tickling them. I'm confused as to why u need to ask, do you not listen to your children?

they aren't all enjoying it tho extreme - they might look like they are laughing but actually they might feel like they are choking to death

it's not fun

YANBU. I hate being tickled, always have done. Can't bear watching children being 'forcibly' tickled either.

Never overtickle the children.

I never even thought of this before...

I am an absolute tickle-phobe. I can't bear it . I can remember being tickled by someone ,as a child, till I couldn't breathe, and I have never forgotten feeling like that
I would actually hurt someone if I was tickled like that ever again, I think.

"Well I can definately tell the difference between laughing and crying so to me that would be the indicator to stop tickling them"

I know that for me the laughing is involuntary whether I enjoy it or not, so it's not always easy to tell.

Personally I tickle a little bit then wait to see if they ask for more

I fucking hate tickling! It somehow feels wrong to see an adult put their hands on a child in that manner. I have four children, so not being precious, but the one thing I forbid any member of my family from doing is tickling.

We have a rule- stop tickling the -instant the ticklee says. The I instant. Even if it's a laughing no.

I hate being tickled too. I'm ashamed to say that I have hit someone too to end the tickling. Two guys at school trapped me and would not stop, despite my protests. They thought it was funny because I was laughing, but I was hating every second. That horrible feeling of not being able to breathe properly.

YANVU

YANBU

I can forgive it if someone doesn't realise it's time to stop, I've done it myself with my own child and felt awful.

Knowing and carrying on regardless is not funny, it's torturous.

Your DH is completely out of orderfor saying you were silly, but he DIDN'T see her face so I think he can be forgiven. I hope he's a decent enough sort to read this thread and see that it's just not funny at all. If he's not, well apart from anything else I hope your your dd clocks him hard on the nose, then laughs.

YANBU.

Anybody who tries to tickle me at all, ever, feels my wrath.

My eldest begs to be tickled, and the second I tickle him he cries... but he BEGS... My youngest adores being tickled, he has no Tickle Limit at all. Everyone has their own Tickle Limit, your DH has just discovered your dd's. He should now respect that limit, beyond it is torturous, horrendous.

God YADNBU. I had a creepy uncle who used to tickle me like that when I was little and I hated it - even now I freak out at the first sign of it. I've had to warn boyfriends in the past that I WILL lash out and get violent if they try it, I'm not at all a violent person but it's an instinctive reaction. Still can't stand that uncle either.