To ask if you would let your let your DD almost 13 go to an under 18 night at local nightclub

[scattermummy]

DD is 13 in January,she wants to go to an under 18 night at liquid in Newcastle with her friends.
I said no chance to her.
She says all her friends are allowed.I think she is too young.

However,I was brought up by strict parents and remember not being able to do stuff and by the time I was 15 ,I would just lie about where I was.

I had a friend who was allowed to do what she liked and I would go there and we would go clubbing and go back to her house.

Part of me thinks that if I don't want her to lie in future,maybe I should let her go and teach her to be open.

We could pick her up and take her,but I cant help feeling like it is a slippery slope and that she is only 12.

Sex around the dancefloor at underage nights??

The ones I remember were just ever so slightly more innocent.

Accessorising your halter neck dress with an ~Adidas tracksuit jacket.

Necking a litre of cider before entry and dancing to BeWitched and Steps whilst trying not to drunkenly scuff your white patent wedges.

I used to work at a club and we'd run an under 18s night during half terms/summer holidays etc. We only served soft drinks, all alcohol was removed from the bars into the locked cellars, and the beer taps and other booze advertising were covered up. Working behind the bar I generally served water and just kept an eye out for bad behaviour - there was very little of it. I also worked on admissions and had to alert security if any kids tried to come in drunk, with alcohol. There were literally one or two occurrences of this and they were taken to security where they were allowed to use our phones to call parents/a taxi. We also had a no smoking policy, although this was before it was banned.

HOWEVER. We were just students in part time bar jobs, the managers were just nightclub managers - we weren't CRB checked. I would let her but stick around in town perhaps, so that you can keep a sneaky eye. I went to my first under 18s night when I was 11 and it really was very tame. There was a lot of snogging though, but that's as far as it went. If you trust her, I would let her go until she gives you reason not to.

Ah under 18s at liquid, reminds me of my youth! I went to a couple of these when I was a teenager and there was always plenty staff, no alcohol and they were generally pretty tame. I think if you can trust her to be sensible then it's better to let her go to somewhere that you know where she is and who she's with

What halloweeneyqueeney said.
I went to one once when I was about 14.
There was booze, drugs and people shagging, there was even a 'shagging corner'
No way would I let my kids go and I am not strict at all.
Ours closed down as the police got called there so many times.

I would have said yes a few months ago but hearing more about the methods by which these gangs of men have found girls to groom and abuse I'd say an absolute 'No' now.

I would let a 13 year old go, but I would gauge opinion with other local parents first whose kids had been before.

The ones I went to (they didn't start up locally until I was 14/15) were like a school disco with slightly better music. No alcohol, and I wasn't quite at the stage of necking cider before I went out then, and there wasn't much in the way of snogging. There was quite a lot of flirting and eyeing up. I think my mum probably did pick me up. But then my mum used to pick me up when I was older at 11.30 when the student union kicked out (that I was illegally at aged 16/17 with fake ID). I didn't mind, I'd rather get home safely, for free and in comfort.

I think it depends what she and her mates are like.

but you will know that best.

I did always emphasis to my DDs, that any 17/18 year old man at these events was to be given a wide birth. I told them these men should not want to be hanging around with 13 year olds and if they were, they must be rather socially inadequate and best avoided.