WIBU to secretly think she was a bit mean?

[itwasallyellow]

Swimming today, ds has got a little friend there. Queuing up today I didn't even notice the little boy was wearing pink goggles, I vaguely noticed the boy say something about them being girls but didn't pay attention. Next thing ds laughs and points and says 'haha they're girls', little boy looks upset and says to his mum 'see I told you' tries to take them off and burys his head in her.

I was very embarassed and firmly told ds off and told him not to be so rude and unkind and it doesn't matter what colour things are, not to laugh and upset people.

But aibu to secretly think it was a bit mean to make the boy wear the pink ones if he didn't really want to, I'm bu aren't I?

The colour thing is a red herring

DD (2) has very short hair and is often called a boy. Now she is older this really annoys her and she tends to scream 'no, I'm a girl'

It was unkind of your son to make fun of the other child, for whatever reason. However, he's 4 and still learning about tact.

DesperatelySeekingPomBears: "Yes they are boredandrestless. Children are incredibly cruel. In fact, that's where we get the well known phrase "kids can be cruel"."

I'm not disputing that kids can be cruel, like another poster on this thread I have a child with autism who has encountered horrid cruelty from his peers at school. What I said was that it's not a fact of life that kids or boys are cruel as a sweeping general statement.

Young kids who don't know better can make one off comments, be reprimanded and learn from that experience, or they can grow up in home and school environments that accept or foster cruelty and negative stereotypes.

Yama "It is only when boys are taught that pink is for girls and therefore inferior that they go off it." Exactly! This sums up for me what raises my hackles about pink being for only girls - it seems on the surface to be an innocent thing until you realise it's being sold as inferior, it's for girls. Yuk. It's teaching young children that there is a hierachy with boys firmly at the top of the pile.

YY bored. That's why i said 'silly comment', instead of 'cruel' that everybody said.
On threads like this people always say to tell the child off for being rude or 'cruel' or whatever i.e. for calling a lady 'fat' etc. Imo that's not enough. It is like saying to the child 'your thinking is right but don't express it loundly'.