If somebody is in your house sat with their fingers in their ears

[Mosman]

Because your child is crying, would you be annoyed/offended ?
He's not being left to cry we are dealing with it but it irrationally winds me up more than the crying tbh.
Is it me or is this person rude ?

20 weeks?? 20 weeks??!!

Oh my giddy aunt!!!

You have my utmost sympathy. Make sure this very very very extended visit does not happen again.

Um - when I asked the question the op said she says it hurts her ears.

The first time I was in the company of one of them I didn't know. His girlfriend explained. I still didn't think it rude, I was concerned about his sudden reaction, but didn't think it rude.

I just came over all queasy at the thought of 20 solid weeks with my MIL. OP, YA-most definitely-NBU.

YANBU, your MIL sounds like a total chore and yes it is rude to sit with your fingers in your ears. If it hurts her then why can't she leave the room/house for a while?

20 weeks! You are a saint.

But if the noise is hurting MIL, then you do need to be a little bit more sympathetic about it. She could have told you though, rather than just put her fingers in her ears with no explanation.

20 weeks?

Feckin 'ell

That's childish behaviour. Ignore it or put her on the naughty step.

yanbu.

my dad does this.. though its when we are in the car (or a small space) and my 3 year old kicks off. theres no talking to him down. my dad has little paitcence when it comes to some noises.and he does this to stop himself from shouting. which is far better then when he shouts as he he sounds terriable scary when he does shout and feels terriable for shouting afterwards.
so i let it go with him

but with you. its a NEWBORN. you expect crying. and she could well move rooms. id have a word with her.

Look even if she has some kind of problem with pain in her ears she was being very rude. If your own MIL hasn't told you about this problem previously then it's her own damn fault if she's struggling now.

I really cannot be doing with this 'aw poor woman with disabled fucking ears' attitude when you know full well this isn't a stranger we're dealing with, it's a member of the family.

Why does EVERYTHING have to boil down to being disadvantaged in some way and not that someone's being an absolute tosspot??

/rant

I wish I could edit. I just realised that the phrase 'disabled fucking ears' is an awful thing to say and I apologise for using it. Feel free to report it for editing.

Depends if she has ear problems or not. I have tinitus and loud noises really hurt my ears.

I have to cover my ears when there's a crying baby near me because I have very sensitive hearing so it hurts my ears and gives me a headache after about 30 seconds. There's no way I'd plan to spend 20 weeks or even a night with someone with small kids though.

I remember your threads about whether she was going to go with you!

How's it going and is she definitely going to come home?

Has she contributed at all financially?

Oh is this the bed buying (or not) MIL?
We need full bean spillage.

Oh God. After three days fish and house guests start to stink, although my MIL was very rude the very first day she came to stay with us. No one can have any complaint about someone who is trying to stop their baby crying, only if the parents are not doing anything about it. She is rude, she should offer to help.

20 weeks! Omg! Hope your dh sorts her out. Personally I think she should say look, it was a huge mistake me staying this long. Can I change my flights? But sounds like this won't happen. still, sounds like she wont be coming again!

Ask her not to, or she can leave the room. She sounds very intolerant tbh. My dad was like this, so grumpy and expected to have everything revolving round him, even new borns. Good luck:)

Fuck. Me. Hard. 20 WEEKS?! Dont mean to rub it in but, Woah.

And just when I was having a shitty single parent day, I am reminded the beauty of this set up I never have to speak to my evil witch of a MIL EVER AGAIN. YEEEEEEEEEEESS.

I say pack yourself on a break or a few days too whilst you're at it.

I've just realised who you are op - I read and lurked on your threads before the big move

You are an absolute saint for going through with this - I'd have throttled my mil by now

What happened wrt the bed??!

And I thought I had the MIL from hell. She's got nothing on yours OP.

I also remember your other threads, what happened about the bed?

Can you sign her up for some charity work outside the home?
Something like voluntary sewer cleaning?

Come back Mosman, we need more details . How's life apart from MiL?