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Original poster

To be disgusted about the idea of an Anne Summer's baby shower?

44 replies

TM08 · 07/10/2012 23:27

I've just received an email inviting me to an old friend's baby shower. She wants it to be Anne Summers themed.

I am sickened by this tbh. I've never been to a baby shower before, but i just assumed it would be baby-related and presents should be blankets, bottles, baby clothes etc - not lube and vibrators.

I'm a bit of a prude anyway, so would decline even if this was a normal party. But I can see five people have already agreed to go. AIBU to think this is totally inappropriate?

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MummifiedBonkeyMollocks · 07/10/2012 23:29

Meh!
Each to their own!

slatternlymother · 07/10/2012 23:29

If it's what she wants, why not? It's not hurting anyone.

I wouldn't go if I were you though; you sound like you'd be clutching your twinset and pearls the whole time Wink

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2012 23:29

I think it's hilarious to be honest but then I've never been one for the whole baby shower thing anyway Grin

Clearly she's not either, which is why she's thought of an alternative one.

I'd just see it for the funny side whether I went or not.

Whitecherry · 07/10/2012 23:30

It's just a party! Maybe a baby shower alone is too boring!

DoMeDon · 07/10/2012 23:30

She wants people to celebrate her upcoming child by giving her dildos, am I getting that right? Are you sure she's not just celebrating and having an Anne Summers party? That would make more sense to me but still makes me queasy and I'm a bit of a go-er Grin

BabylonPI · 07/10/2012 23:30

Ew very odd! Not my cuppa, but each to their own!!!

MummifiedBonkeyMollocks · 07/10/2012 23:30

Now if she were having a Greggs and Fruit shoots party I would be horrified!

SundaeGirl · 07/10/2012 23:31

YABU. I don't much like Ann Summers but, honestly, your talk of 'appropriate' is very priggish. Presumably no-one under 16yo has been invited? Is it just pregnancy should be sex-free? Motherhood?

AnyFucker · 07/10/2012 23:31

ugh

I wouldn't be scandalised, tbh, I would simply think it was just a bit too "try-hard"

and swerve it

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2012 23:31

Now if she were having a Greggs and Fruit shoots party I would be horrified!

Really?

I'd be there straight away! Grin

McHappyPants2012 · 07/10/2012 23:31

without sex there would be no baby, and ann summer party is tame

MummifiedBonkeyMollocks · 07/10/2012 23:32
Grin

I prefer a Maccy D's personally Wink

Mypopcornface · 07/10/2012 23:32

What does she want? new lingerie for when she ca have sex again?
It would be more appropriated for a hen's night...
Decline and send a mothercare's voucher....or a pack of nappies

Original poster
TM08 · 07/10/2012 23:36

I think 'prude' might have been the wrong word. Smile I'm just quite shy and go red whenever talking about sex related stuff, so I couldn't imagine doing this in a room full of people i barely know.

But baby showers are for talking about the baby etc, aren't they? How could you comfortably discuss a new baby while ogling a platter of vibrators? Or if she's wanting to avoid baby talk, and make it a night about her, why merge it with a baby shower at all? Why not just have an Anne Summer's party?

The mind boggles. She has had two kids already - both baby shower-less - and has had lots of Anne Summers parties, so i just don't 'get' it. I think it's a bit icky. But then I'm basing my perception of baby showers on American shows/movies' portrayals. All tea, biscuits, lots of baby talk and baby pressies etc, so maybe the UK has a different approach. I probably am BU.

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WorraLiberty · 07/10/2012 23:38

I think she's being ironic

She clearly doesn't like baby showers (can't blame her there) so she's holding an Anne Summers instead.

Teeb · 07/10/2012 23:39

How do you think the baby came about in the first place?

AnyFucker · 07/10/2012 23:39

the best way to be "ironic" re baby showers is to just not bother at all, IMO Grin

DoMeDon · 07/10/2012 23:40

A baby shower indicates some focus on a baby (not the baby making process) - I don't think YABU to think it's ick - it is. Sounds like she just enjoys looking at naff underwear and playing 'shecksy' games - agree with Any it's a bit try too hard.

McHappyPants2012 · 07/10/2012 23:41

ann

AnyFucker · 07/10/2012 23:41

the baby came about by having sex, which may or may not have included the utilisation of naff nylon thongs and large pink plastic pretend penises

WorraLiberty · 07/10/2012 23:42

There's no irony whatsoever in deciding to give something a miss! Grin

Personally I would have gone with a takeaway party where everyone orders a chinese dish of their choice and we all pig out accordingly.

AnyFucker · 07/10/2012 23:43

  1. sex leading to conception of a baby

  2. Anne Summers juvenile (I'm mad and uninhibiited, meeeee) try-hard silliness

the two do not necessarily go together

AnyFucker · 07/10/2012 23:43

I would attend a pig-out Chinese baby shower Smile

Viviennemary · 07/10/2012 23:44

Personally I am disgusted at the idea of an Anne summer's anything.

PickledFanjoCat · 07/10/2012 23:46

Are you not allowed to have sex if you have a baby then? Bit late at that stage.

I hate showers, hate ann summers but yabu.