Or just plain thoughtless to take a dessert to a dinner party

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the host is 6/7 months preg and asked for me to take the pud - I've made a Cassata, which includes 4 tbsp of Grand Marnier and 3 tbsp of espresso coffee. Should I take something else too???

Personally I'd happily eat that in pregnancy, but if it's her first one (!) maybe you could take some fresh fruit and cream as a stand by?

Ask her?

If she says she'll eat it, there's no need.

A tub of vanilla icecream, maybe?

But it sounds fine to me, anyway. And delicious, tbh.

I think it would be petty and fussy to refuse to eat such a minuscule amount of alcohol as part of a pudding but you never know with some people. So I would probably take something else just in case.

I would eat it.. it is a miniscule amount of alcohol really..

I think saying someone is petty and fussy because they may have chosen to not have any alcohol at all is rather mean. Often, when it is your first baby, you don't want to do anything "wrong" and giving up alcohol is a pretty common thing to do.

No, she will absolutely not eat that, and you should not expect her to.

And it to me. I will have it, just so it does not go to waste.

I once made a mississippi mud pie to take to a friends for desert, it had in it, rum and coffee, but like yours, very little. As I was pregnant myself at the time I didn't think for a second that it would be a problem for anyone upduffed, but one of the other guests was, took a mouthful, spat it out, cried, and we had to spend the rest of the evening persuading her she wouldn't have done the baby any harm x a million.

So, proceed with caution

I get that people don't want to drink alcohol while pg, I didn't either. But I wouldn't have refused a small helping of a dessert that contained it. That amount in a whole pudding, then the amount you'd eat of it, it's basically a flavour not something that would get you drunk.

I can't see a problem tbh.

I think its not a great pudding to take to a pregnant woman's house but then I didn't really drink anything in my pregnancies.

So I would take something else too. And if its not tonight I'd got to a little more effort than just a bought tub of ice cream as I'm assuming the pregnant person will have gone to some effort herself.

I'll have you know that buying a tub of icecream counts as extreme catering in this household.

I was going to say the same as MCB, taking some fruit or icecream when it is the host that is pregnant isn't fair. I would ring her and explain that you made it then realised it wasn't suitable and ask her. She might be fine with it.

Well it does here to be honest - I just walked to the village shop specially

But god - I didn't even eat shop bought tiramisu when pregnant as was so scared of the alcohol - I was crrrraaaazzzzy in all 3 of my pregnancies.

I like Carte D'or vanilla best. You could stick a flake in it for 'best'.

It is suitable though, so what is the problem?

GoSak some pg women prefer to avoid alcohol and caffeine

4tbsp of alcohol and 3 of coffee in a dessert for however many people does not remotely count though, does it? Not to non-hysterical people.

Well, more importantly, you should always take two puddings when you say you'll do pudding in case someone doesn't like one. (I wouldn't want to eat that, not because of the alcohol but because I will only consume coffee hot, black in a mug - I do not do coffee in stuff, however if there was no other option offered, I'd eat it because I'm not rude, I might pretend to be on a diet to excuse having a really tiny bit).

Pick up a cake as an alternative option.

I think you need to add some extra toppings, some shellfish, rare steak, unpasteurised cheese and a sprinkling of raw egg. Really seal the deal.

HTH

Take it but get an alternative too.

Sounds too lovely not to take, but something else for the host and anyone else.

oh, and do you put ricotta cheese in yours? Because that's also a one pregnant woman are told to avoid... All in all, other than throwing a raw egg and a lump of tuna in, I'm not sure if you could make a pudding that ticks more of the 'foods pregnant woman are told to avoid'...

Lokabrenna - thinking along the same lines!

I didn't drink at all in the first trimester and only about 2 glasses in the whole of the rest of it. I would, however, have eaten a portion of that pudding at 6-7 months. But as has been said, ask her and you'll know for sure.