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To think (hope) Eastenders portrayal of social services (Lexi & Lola story) is wrong?

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MoonlightShadows · 05/10/2012 20:10

I am watching it at the moment and am finding the Lexi/Lola storyline quite disturbing, I can't imagine social services really carry on like this and think it's an unfair portrayal.

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WorraLiberty · 05/10/2012 21:11

Isn't that a little OTT cbeebies?

I can understand how TV shows can be emotive, but 'horrific' to watch and you were in tears?

Why didn't you switch it off then, it's not real you know Confused

Also, what recent events do you mean?

If you mean April Jones being abducted while playing out in the street, I don't see a connection at all?

Unless you mean a different story?

MoonlightShadows · 05/10/2012 21:11

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athenie · 05/10/2012 21:12

they can go for a emergency protection order, in the episode the social worker got concerned when lola shouted at the baby that would of been when she went for the order and it would of been granted that day to put the baby in temp care for 72 hours. as lola was already on a child protection plan so it can easily be granted its a private court

GrasshopperNchipmunk · 05/10/2012 21:12

Well, I thought the whole thing was a crock of shit, and the producers should be ashamed of themselves for portraying the profession so poor and inaccurately. What a way to scare the shit out of young single parents with social work involvement Angry

IneedAsockamnesty · 05/10/2012 21:14

athenie that would not be enough to get a epo, judges are not stupid.

parno · 05/10/2012 21:15

Having never had any contact with sw's I hope to god this isn't an accurate portrayal. I have tried to reassure my dd who was watching the tail end of ee that is was just a silly story that was totally made up. She was quite upset by the story line. Maybe as well as commenting here complaints should be made to the Bbc then their researchers may think twice next time. Doubtful.

athenie · 05/10/2012 21:16

the icing on the cake was when she punched the girl and reported her, so they would of gone back and got it. judges arnt stupid but they deal in that subject only so.

cbeebiesatemybrain · 05/10/2012 21:18

Yes worra that is what I meant, probably ott but I have a 6mo dd and it upset me. Obviously I know its not real but thats how it made me feel.

Fakebook · 05/10/2012 21:18

I cried watching that. The sw is a bitch in the programme. Tutting at a bit of nappy rash.

cbeebiesatemybrain · 05/10/2012 21:20

Also how the hell did the sw strap Lexi in the car and drive off so quickly? I want one of those car seats!

GrasshopperNchipmunk · 05/10/2012 21:21

Sockreturningpixie - the police don't have to justify to a judge, Police Protection Order aren't court ordered. Not that it matters, all just adds to the crapness that is eastenders

Fakebook · 05/10/2012 21:21

Maybe it's an isofix seat with one of those maxi cost belts. They're very easy to close.

athenie · 05/10/2012 21:22

it is upsetting because within different districts the social services do act differently and in the end its the manager that gets the fainal say even tho they never see the family and just read on a peice of paper but it does happen. good parents do get the brunt of it as they are compliant and let them in in any case record record record anything said in your home for acurate conversations as not all social workers get pad and pen out and thats very worrying they go off memory and considering they have about 30 cases each it has to be a must for noting convos down

athenie · 05/10/2012 21:25

i think a dominos pizza is in order of this horrible tv episode

Fakebook · 05/10/2012 21:26

Whenever I see social workers on a programme I always automatically think of baby P and Victoria Climbe, and how they weren't saved.

DeenaDee · 05/10/2012 21:30

We used to have a case load of 136 families for a team of 4 - I used to put in 70 hrs a week to keep up with home visits/paperwork. I know for a fact that I had colleagues who would fudge their paperwork without having contact visits -I understand why they did it, but I could never have lived with myself if something happened to one of my clients due to my lack of attention. I am shocked that Lola's worker had the time to keep showing up!

IneedAsockamnesty · 05/10/2012 21:31

i was refering to this perticular storyline, it will be challenged course it will. hence the judge comment no chance they could get away with saying it was required.

in rl its really rare for the police to remove a child unless they actually directly see a danger,thats why if a sw asks them to in advance they will usually expect the sw to deal with it via the court. the police removing would not be used unless the child was in actual danger right then.

re the car seat. i expect she didnt have one and will claim it was a short journey and a emergency

Rowanhart · 05/10/2012 21:33

I stopped watching EE tonight because I was so upset by it. Sad

The baby storylines arevtoo much for me at 34 and a bit weeks. Won't tune in until all over...

That and the kat and Derek storyline makes me billious....

perceptionreality · 05/10/2012 21:34

Well I have a very challenging child with ASD and I was advised by someone on the SEN board to be very careful about asking SS for a care assessment because her child was taken away.

Also that recent thread on here where a child was taken because of a bruise??

It doesn't make me feel trusting of SS tbh. The Lola storyline was deeply upsetting - I totally agree about the irony of Michael being the one who really needs SS because he doesn't actually want his own child!

perceptionreality · 05/10/2012 21:34

Sorry, I meant to say nearly taken away

needanswers · 05/10/2012 21:38

In my limited dealings With SS I found the SW judgemental, factually incorrect and also downright deceptive in her report (I am the innocent parent of a victim), her factually incorrect, offensive report, took me to the edge of suicide. To add insult to injury - she had signed the report off as being authorised by her manager - when her manager was actually on leave and had never seen it.

DH and a close family friend met with her manager, who promised an "addendum report" correcting all the errors in the initial one - we have never received an amended report.

wibblywobbler · 05/10/2012 21:38

I have had contact with parents where a social worker has made stuff up, even when the parent produced paperwork from independent people at the school to prove the social workers notes were incorrect they weren't changed. Another family had a social worker look round their house, the whole house was spotless and the social worker looked at every room apart from the parents bedroom, in the notes it made no mention of how clean the house was, just that the parents bedroom was messy, except the social worker didn't look in that room

I was told by a solicitor specialising in children's law that since Baby P over-reactions and bullying and intimidating behaviour by social workers is par for the course

So I do believe a social worker would tut over washing up and nappy rash

margerykemp · 05/10/2012 21:40

I dont watch EE. What is the storyline?

CrikeyOHare · 05/10/2012 21:43

I actually came on to say exactly the same thing.

The way that social worker has been behaving would probably see her sacked (or at least spoken to by her bosses) in real life. Child protection is NOT about fucking nappy rash, washing up and whether great granddad has a job. If it was, most babies in the country would be on the CPR.

In real life, Lola would be getting glowing reports at conferences for her care of Lexi.

My sister is a social worker - and honestly, this portrayal is the polar opposite of how real social workers behave. They are there to help, not judge, unless there's very serious cause for concern.

This storyline has really made me furious.

CrikeyOHare · 05/10/2012 21:46

Whenever I see social workers on a programme I always automatically think of baby P and Victoria Climbe, and how they weren't saved.

That's understandable. But you are ignoring the many thousands of babies & children who HAVE been and continue to be saved. That there are shit SWs (& nurses, doctors, police officers etc) is without question - but the vast, vast majority are conscientious and dedicated.