AIBU to think it's really stupid and pointless when people lie about their age

[BenandBolly]

I just got a automatic reminder of a friends birthday that said "Annabel is 30 today" but the thing is she's not she's 33. She also claims to be 3 years younger on her facebook and her husband even wrote Happy 30th on her page The thing is her facebook is full of old school friends including me so it's not like we don't know.

AIBU to not really understand why people do this?

Disclaimer: This is meant to be light hearted after all the terrible news at the moment.

amandine07 A good friend who is the same age has definitely had that reaction when meeting men- literally they start backing away when they realise she is the other side of 30, she looks young for her age too

Oh yes, the backing away. I can imagine thats why a lot of women lie about their ages. It really is horrible. I mean, you don't ask them to chat you up, and answer honestly when they ask you your age, and when you tell them, they back away as if they're afraid you're going to pounce on them or have suddenly developed horns on your forehead.

People think its nice to look young for your age, but they've obviously never experienced the backing away...

I think that says a lot about the general perception of women by some men...as if anyone the other side of 30 is automatically going to start pressurising about marriage & babies 2 weeks into the relationship!
Those men should not flatter themselves :-)

In fact, on this tangent, it's such a shallow approach from a bloke- if he likes the look of you enough to start engaging in conversation & flirting, but then immediately once he knows you're age, it's game over.
How utterly ridiculous!
I debated this with OH the other week- one of his best friends, who is 30, saw a friend's photo on FB & immediately he started 'making enquiries' asking if she was single.
Then I told him she was 32 and straight away he said- no, that's too old for me, not interested anymore. I was fuming! Him and OH didn't seem to the the fact it was an indirect insult to me, being 34.

Is it any wonder women feel compelled to lie about their age these days?!

Men probably think unmarried, child free women in their 30s will want marriage and kids asap, one explanation for them fleeing. I would always tell them my age. If they reacted adversely I'd regard it as a useful nobhead filter.

I don't mind people asking my age, but since I was 21 really other people seem to think you should mind.

Really annoys me when people describe your 30s as "old". Not even half way through life, so how is that even possible? You're a child, and then you're old? What about just being "grown up"?

I think it's probably a joke - you know, "30 again, hahaha" - if, as you say, she is friends with a lot of people from school.

My mum always lied about her age, until recently, when we were together and were both asked our age. I answered honestly '27'; mum took 9 years off and said '40'. The asker looked horrified - 'Oh ChelvisMum, I hadn't realised you'd had a teen pregnancy Oh Gosh'. Mum was mortified and had to confess, it was hillarious!

Perhaps she feels like she missed out on a big 30th party and will stay at 30 until she gets one

I have false bd on fb and other sites as well. I was always told not to put real names, dob, address and so on for personal safety on-line.

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I am afraid it's doesn't look like it's a joke as there is an update photo with a cake with 30 on

I've got 4 ages. The age I feel (96) the age I look (95, especially first thing in the morning) and the age I actually am (32) however if anyone asks, I'm 29....

I don't put my age on FB at all. Why would you? I just have day/month.
(It's Saturday in case you are wondering & I will be 45 :))

I don't put relationship status or anything like that on FB either. But getting loads of FB birthday messages is a lovely part of modern life so I do put the day on there.

I have a friend who turned 50 a full 4 years after she was actually 50, and when I asked her, isn't it a big birthday this year? she bare faced lied about it. Each subsequent year I wondered will this be the year of the 50th? OK luv, whatever gets you through the day. It's amazing how the age gap can shorten so drastically over a 10 year period though isn't it?

I agree OP, it is pointless and it's a waste of time and ever diminishing energy feeling anxious about the inevitable. The alternative to ageing isn't exactly enticing is it?

I can't understand it either.
My in laws are all cloak and daggers about their ages. Weirdos!

In saying that though they aren't the only ones. I wished a colleague a happy birthday a couple of years ago and was promptly told to shut-up!
She's almost a year to the day older than me and told me I had to stay at my age for a few years because she was staying 32 and people knew she was older than me. Apparently her mother and all her aunts stayed 32 for a few years.

People are nuts!

A cake? That is seriously weird then!