Smoking dope in pregnancy

[mummahubba]

Would you stay friends with someone who smokes dope every day while she's pregnant? Yes I'm being judgy, but I just think this is appalling. Thoughts?

I think offering support and a non-judemental listening ear would be more useful than disowning the friend. A friend of mine did smoke weed throughout all 4 of her pregnancies. I didn't exactly encourage her but I didn't judge her either.

I would also find it difficult not to be incredibly judgy about this. I'd be wondering about the effect to the baby.

I wouldn't be able to stay friends not because I strongly object, but because I would lose too much respect for them. Our ideas would be too different.

But then I would feel the same if a friend had an abortion.

I find it very hypocritical for people to be pro choice but then anti choice when it comes to smoking in pregnancy.

Jeez, don't you relinquish the right to behave so irresponsibly when your body becomes the vessel for another human being?

You don't become a totally different person overnight when you become pregnant, no.

I couldn't respect someone who behaved like that. I am very anti drugs

Its been proven that it doesn't have a bad effect but also I think yabu because it doesn't affect you and she is doing nothing wrong to you (or the baby)

I couldn't be friends with someone so immature in the first place.

She sounds like a poorly educated, scumbag to be honest so I wouldn't socialise with her anyway to be honest. Would have nothing in common.

Jeez, don't you relinquish the right to behave so irresponsibly when your body becomes the vessel for another human being?

No. We aren't incubators, we are human beings, and keep all the rights we had before getting pregnant.

Not hypocritical at all Freddo. No person is harmed by an abortion at 6 weeks (to my mind) whereas if a woman smokes throughout pg and gives birth then a person may be born with lifelong health problems. You may disagree with the first premise but there's no contradiction between the two.

Would she give a newborn baby a spliff? The silly, selfish cow!

My "friend" use the term loosely smoked it throughout her pregnancy . Full on stinky skunk.
The doctor "told her " it would more harmful to give up than it would be to carry on smoking it .

It's up to you if want to continue the friendship . I keep my "friend" at arms length she's a bit of a twat
I don't agree with any kind of smoking or drinking whilst pregnant but who am I to judge . Her body I suppose

The problem with weed is the knowledge about. People always say to me that smoking weed is LESS harmful to an unborn child than smoking a cigerette.
This sounds bizzard yet people actually belive it because the effects of weed on the body are sooo misunderstood. Of course either smoke is not wise to inflick upon a unborn baby but one is legal and one is NOT well in the Uk anyway.
As a social worker I work with quite a few young mothers to be. This subject is very very common and all the young ladies have very little knowledge of what damage just one joint can do .
Anyway so for my ramble but rather than just losing your friend maybe help her understand the facts abit more and be there for support. Its not nice knowing what harm may be being caused but maybe with you around you can offer advice and help if she needs it :) After all it is an adictive, illegal drug she is using.

They say a glass of wine is okay during pregnancy, if weed was legal they would say it was okay too. It has been proven not to harm the baby, it can benefit a pregnant woman. "Would you give a newborn baby a spliff?" No but also, would you give a newborn baby a cup of tea? Chips? Come on.. the majority of you would tell someone they are being unreasonable if someone asked if they should stay friends with someone who eats fastfood while pregnant or had a glass of wine. Cannabis is quite unknown to a lot of the people saying 'yanbu' and that the woman is selfish

Thats not true at all.

The risks start from growth problems and go as bad as leukemia .
This is what I was saying people just do not know the facts.

To those who say cannibis is not harmful to the fetus, where are you getting your info from? As just this week the following was posted in the rcm-royal college of midwives magazine
"Writing in the journal Drug Testing and Analysis, co-author Dr Delphine Psychoyos from the Center for Genetic and Environmental Medicine at Texas A&M University said: ?The emergence of bioengineered crops and novel, medicinal marijuana strains means that marijuana is no longer what it used to be in the 1970s and early 1980s, with some new, high potency strains containing up to 20 times more THC, the psychoactive constituent of marijuana.?

He added that the potent THC levels are potentially harmful to embryonic development, as early as two weeks after conception.

?This is because these psychoactive chemicals have the ability to interfere with the first stages in the formation of the brain of the fetus; this event occurs two weeks after conception, earlier than before signs of pregnancy appear.?

Research from the past five years has shown that marijuana exposure during pregnancy has been associated with anencephaly, a non-sustaining life condition where a large part of the skull or brain is absent,

It is also associated with neurobehavioral deficiencies, such as attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, learning disabilities and memory impairment in toddlers and 10-year-olds.

The researchers are calling for greater awareness among pregnant women about the availability of highly potent marijuana and the risk it can pose to their unborn child, even before a pregnancy has been confirmed."

"Would you stay friends with someone who smokes dope every day while she's pregnant?"

No.

But then I'm pretty judgey about tobacco smoking as well.

DH smokes weed regularly and I've always indulged now and again. Have been doing so for the past 25 years.

However I didn't find out i was pregnant the first time until 22 weeks so I never knowingly did it while pregnant, in the same way I didn't smoke (used to do this before first pregnancy), drink and made a real effort nutrition wise. I don't agree with the idea that you relinquish rights once you become 'this vessel'. But I did feel that during pregnancy I needed to do what I could to be the healthiest version of myself because if the baby takes everything from you, giving it good quality supplies is the best start.

So I would tell her that I think its very irresponsible and I think that even I would struggle to remain friends with her. The majority of my friend smoke weed as do SILs etc and I've not known any of them to do it in pregnancy, I know we would all be quite shocked if one of us did.

Hm, OK, perhaps that "Jeez..." thing sounded a bit rash and judgey (my least favourite thing normally). Whereas you may still have the right to behave irresponsibly, it makes me so sad that someone might make choices which are not in the best interest of their unborn child. Of course you don't overnight become a different person when you become pregnant, but many pregnant women are able to put the needs of their baby first and where necessary exercise a degree of restraint. I accept that there are all sorts of circumstances where this is problematic, and I really do believe that most people make the best choices they are able to make in their particular set of circumstances, but I personally feel that I'd let someone down if I hadn't flagged this as a concern and offered some support.

Tobacco smoking is more harmful than smoking weed, smoking weed with no tobacco would be ideal (instead of with)

NO ITS NOT!!!!!! If you smoked it fair enough that was your choice but do not state LIES on here you will give people false information there is no need.

Smoking weed is not no where near safe , it harms you and it can harm your child !

Sunshine.. it isn't lies it is scientific.. its a fact that it is safer than just tobacco

To be fair, you're both talking shit.

No its not .