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Original poster

to think DS will die?

88 replies

Flojo1979 · 01/10/2012 16:32

Ok so he's perfectly healthy normal 7 yo.
And I've always been pessimistic about stuff, like every time I get on a plane I wonder will this be the one to fall out of the sky, I won't go on fair rides etc cos I'm convinced MY cart will derail etc.
Balanced with that tho, I dont worry when I get behind the wheel of my car.
Anyway, DS is having an operation tomorrow just a simple routine thing, but I can't help thinking what if, what if, what if and what if he doesn't wake up etc.
I know I'm being unreasonable but I need a bit of hand holding! I'm a single mum so I don't have a DH to hold my hand so pls will someone be the voice of reason!

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Flojo1979 · 02/10/2012 17:57

He's not back yet :(

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Flojo1979 · 02/10/2012 17:58

They could be trying to resuscitate him right now for all I know :(

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Chubfuddler · 02/10/2012 17:59

He will be absolutely fine op.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/10/2012 18:00

Flojo - please do not panic, I am sure he is fine.
(((hug)))

I worked as a nurse for 6 years. I cared for lots of children having surgery. Not even 1 had any issues during theatre.
Complications are very very very rare.

Please take a deep breath. He will be back in your arms before you know it. xx

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Flojo1979 · 02/10/2012 18:02

Thanks, I just hope they come and get me straight away and don't leave him down in recovery with a load of strangers wondering why his mum isn't there.

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helpyourself · 02/10/2012 18:04

Oh poor you OP! Can you google funny cats or something to distract yourself...

Chubfuddler · 02/10/2012 18:04

Are you in the ward day room? No harm in asking at the desk if they can ring down to recovery.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/10/2012 18:05

Our policy was as soon as the child is awake they ring the ward for mum / dad etc.
They never leave a child to get upset, as it makes monitoring them more difficult.
((hug))

Haemadoots · 02/10/2012 18:06

Hope you are ok op am sure he will be back in the ward soon :)

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Flojo1979 · 02/10/2012 18:24

Been to ask, feel like I'm mithering.
Daft things keep going thro my mind, like what if the surgeon is tired after operating all day, what if he's in a hurry to get back for his family and tea and botches it.
DS was so hungry and dehydrated.

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LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/10/2012 18:29

Flojo - if the surgeon had been too tired he would have cancelled the operation. They want your child to be well and come through the operation well.
Please don't worry. I know that is hard, but you need to try and relax a little.
Your son will be absolutely fine! xx

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/10/2012 18:31

Do not worry about him dehydrating whilst in theatre. If they think he needs fluids they will put fluids in to his canular.
((hugs))

bizzey · 02/10/2012 18:32

op I was in the same position as you a few months ago .....felt like it took ages before I could see ds in the recovery room .....but all was fine ...they just didn't have any porters to take him there from theater

But they didn't tell me that at the time ....hope he is ok and you can give him a big kiss soon

solidgoldbrass · 02/10/2012 18:33

Oh poor old you, what a rotten situation. Have a virtual Wine and one when you get home. I'm sure all is well but can understand how upsetting it is.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 02/10/2012 18:35

A bit of virtual handholding. Every minute feels like 3. I remember DH and I trying to watch TV whilst DS2 was having his tonsils out and really struggling to concentrate (even on daytime TV).

Hope its not much longer.

Scaredbutdoingit · 02/10/2012 18:46

from here.

He's honestly going to be fine.

He's got a whole team of people with him, and all the equipment and drugs they could possibly need at arm's length.

Surgeries are overall immensely successful when you get down to the number crunching. Even more so when the operation is a routine one (that everyone will be very familiar with), and the patient is young, fit, and healthy.

Its natural to worry though, because you love him so very much . But it will be fine!

thebody · 02/10/2012 19:19

Hugs and positive waves xxx

twolittlemonkeys · 02/10/2012 19:21

Lots of positive thoughts coming your way for your DS and you. xx

LynetteScavo · 02/10/2012 19:25

You say you don't have a DH to hold your hand, so I will say what my brilliant DH would say when I start thinking like you are.

"You are a loon. DS will be totally fine. He needs this OP. He needs you strong and there for him. You are a complete and utter loon, and it's a good job we all love you."

[thinks]

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/10/2012 20:13

Hope everything is ok OP and you are busy cuddling your little boy xx

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Flojo1979 · 02/10/2012 20:51

Oy less of the old solidbrass !

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Flojo1979 · 02/10/2012 20:53

He's fine, bouncing round the place now!
Huge thank-you!

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nellyjelly · 02/10/2012 20:55

I too was terrified when my 20m old had a GA but tbh we had to wait until 12.30 to go down to surgery as they were so busy and he was manic due to tiredness and hunger! By the time they took him down it was a relief! He was fine.

SoulTrain · 02/10/2012 20:59

Flojo very glad your little boy is ok.

I'm very glad I found this thread, my DS is having an op in 2 weeks and I'm becoming consumed with anxiety about him not waking up. It's horrendous Sad.

My DS is 16 months, how will the put him under? Keep having nightmares about them pinning him down to put a cannula in. He's a sensitive little chap and became hysterical today at the dentist because the Dentist looked in my mouth. I just imagine it to be so traumatic. Any advice appreciated!

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 02/10/2012 22:09

Glad he is ok OP :)

Soultrain - with your so being under 2 they will most likely choose to use the gas induction. This means there will be a mask to hold over your sons face. Where I worked we used to sit little children on their parents knee for a cuddle, then put the mask as close to their face as possible till they drift off.
He might cry and get upset, but the nurse who comes with you should try to distract your child with toys/ books.
It is quite a quick event. He ight get a bit wriggly/kicky as he goes off to sleep. Don't worry it is completely normal. You have to keep in mind he will probably not remember much of the event (I have had 2 ops and can't remember anything beyond meeting the anaethetist. I had one gas and one injection - so tried both lol).

If they choose to do a canular (which is unlikely given his age) they will sit him on your knee with his arm behind your back out of his sight. Then destract at the front. They should put Ametop (numbing cream) on his hands either way so he should not feel too much.
Then they put a bit of water in the canular, and then the anaesthetic (looks a bit like milk) goes in. And he will drift off.

Please try not to worry, your son will be in safe hands. Ask the anaethetist to explain what will happen, they are usually very approachable. xx