To think this absolutely slovenly and disgusting

[PaygeTurner]

I was in the playground today, and a girl of about three said to her mother 'Mummy I need to got to the toilet'.

The toilets were 100 yards away at the cafe, clean and maintained.

Her mother said 'Would you like to go in a nappy instead?'

So without moving from her seat, she put a nappy on this girl.

She then said 'I've got a nappy on'

Another (younger) little girl in the park said 'I've got knickers on.'

The mother stayed sitting where she was until her younger daughter (about one) started crying because she wasn't being supervised and got hit while standing at the bottom of the slide.

I think she muttered something about having a hangover.

My dd was very potty trained by 2.9. However little miss fusspot the darling girl would not have sat on a public toilet if there was any hint of a wee smell for years. She was four before she would sit on a toilet at all because she was scared she would fall down it. We relied on friendly drains for years and just had to deal with dirty looks from judgemental people. Never had an accident though.

Even now, at 14, she will avoid using a public loo if possible and there is only one block she will use at school.

Payge you have absolutely no idea why she chose to put a nappy on her DD. She could have just been potty trained and her mum knew she had no chance of getting her baby in the pushchair and walking with the 3yo to a toilet in time. She may have a bladder infection. She may have a phobia of public toilets.

I know most of us get a bit judgey of situations we have little knowledge of, but this takes the .

In case I haven't been clear enough - YABU.

TBF mine are nearly 18 and 14 now. When they went to nursery/playgroup at two and a half, they were not allowed to do a whole day (9.30 - 3) until they were potty trained. It does rather focus one's attempts at it although both mine did it quite spontaneously and with little difficulty and I can't say I actually trained.

As for the lady in the park. She's mad big disposables are expensive and cloth nappies need washing. Toilet hugely easier.

I guess child might be scared of strange toilets without toddler seat. I don't know, I have pretty unfazzable DDs.

Clam doesn't the evidence say that enforced early potty training of the old days leads to more problems like constipation and bed wetting in later years? its not necessarily lazy parenting, some research it quite heavily and choose to wait until the child leads it (I couldn't because use a preschool that doesn't take nappies but think it would have been better to do it a more child led way)

OP who knows?, I know one child who will hold it in until they're in a nappy, literally until it hurts them so much they cry! they can stay dry in between asking to go but they won't go on a toilet!

FWIW, I do sometimes carry a nappy for my 4yo DD. She is only just 4yo and we had a recent roadside incident where she refused to wee on the grass/being held up, so a nappy was our saviour (she still wears them at night). She does sometimes get scared of public toilets due to hand dryers or the smells (strong bleach or Dettol).

It sounds like this mother was having a rough day, but at least she was with her kids at the park, not slumped on the sofa at home?

halloween I've no idea, but I will pass the message on regardless to my mother, next time she starts banging on about the good old days.

Poppywearer has nailed it.

'Would you like to go in a nappy?'

Could have been their code for 'do you need a poo?'

Some kids don't poo in public loos.