To think its ok to go out with people of opposite sex?

[Geordieminx]

Dp and I have been having a "discussion"

In the interests of fairness this discussion stems from a work colleague asking me to his hotel for a quick dinner after work (expenses). This colleauge is married, and probably at least 25 years older than me. He thought I was single. Dp thinks he is "after me" I disagree but hey ho.

Anyhow. I say that it's perfectly acceptable to go out for lunch/coffee with a friend/ work colleague no matter their age/sex/sexual orientation whatever.. If you are in a relationship then you have trust. It shouldn't matter who it is.

Dp reckons whilst its fine to have girl friends, and go out with female work mates, should it be a hetro male then this crosses a line, and isn't acceptable...

He suggested MN as the voice of reason, and reckons "I'll be surprised at the outcome".. I laughed.

So what do you think?

The 2 people that agreed with him are right, all eve rest of you are wrong

We have had a chat. I have told him that it's a deal breaker, not necessarily for today but going forward he needs to trust me (he says he does) and realise that people can have male and female acquaintances and friends without anything untoward happening.

I have told him that it's a deal breaker

I think you've been very generous by giving him a chance to address things, OP. I'd have dumped him for this comment alone:

he wouldn't be happy about me going on a course or whatever and staying in the sane hotel as a male colleague

There's another thread on MN at the moment about a woman's partner trying to sabotage her career plans. This comes under the same category.