To not want children constantly pestering my 4mth old baby

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I'm sick to the back teeth of people letting their children pester my baby while they do nothing, why do people think they have a right to let their children touch my baby without checking it's ok with me first?
We have had this situation happen alot since we had dd, i would not dream of allowing my other dc to touch someone's baby without asking, we have been to dd2's swimming lesson tonight and had to contend with a child of about 4 trying to get the baby to hold his hand whilst he tried to put his other hand in her mouth as his mum sat chatting and ignoring the situation, this is not a one off incident this kind of thing seems to happy all the time at the minute, it drives me crazy!!!

it's not about being miserable or precious. The bottom line is that some people don't want older children pawing at their babies (regardless of germs) whilst others don't mind. It's different strokes, that's all...

Babies adore attention from anyone, especially other children .Start thinking of your PFB as a person in her own right not your chattel

either way, whatever approach you take, we are imposing our own ideologies on our children and, in doing so, it could be said that, from either perspective, are treating them as 'chattel'

i, however, would never be so rude.

and, yes, my dc is my precious first, and last.

It's what happens.

Especially at school pick up time. New babies are relatively rare as most siblings aren't 5+ years apart.

Recently two came along together, they get mobbed. They don't seem any the worse for it.

They are third DCs so used to bigger children.

omg i feel the same i have to say it really pisses me off, my niece (who is 18 months old) is costantly trying to hug and kiss my little girl (who is just coming up to 3 months old), the first few times is ok but then it starts to really annoy me as she will keep coming back every 5 seconds for more, and the other day she actualy sqeezed her and made her cry so i am now having to watch very carefully that no one lets her near her because im completely sick of it. i actualy said no hands the other day when i allowed her 1 kiss . she also sqeezes her feet and pulls her ears and has almost knocked a hot brew all her and herself which is also something else i have to watch, but no one else seems to be bothered either which makes me want to sceam, as if it was the other way around it would not be the same!

People are getting so uptight these days. They are children who want to welcome your child. Nowt wrong with that.

YANBU at all. I hate it when kids paw at my baby, it gets him so stressed and mums don't care at all.

Awh ^^ not at 18 months thats soo young.. I have a 17 month old and it would make me real sad knowing an adult basically wanted her to 'piss off' or that she was 'in the way' They're still too young to understand that a baby is anything other than a toy at that age.. But obviously parents should supervise to ensure no harm is done to either baby (also why did an 18 month old have access to a brew )

But yeah with kids of 5/6 and up that would get irritating but its still not the kids fault rather the parents. I probably wouldn't mind the cooing, the hands in mouth would get my goat up because thats just a bit weird imo.. I always stop my kids if I think they're pandering someone but thats always adults.

Don't be so daft OP.

Really - just wrap your dd in cotton wool

Meh. I've got a 3.5mo baby (although he is my second so maybe I'm overly relaxed) and I think it's quite cute when toddlers/older children are fascinated by him. However I must say that most of the time, mums/kids wait until I've said 'Would you like to say hello to the baby?' before they do anything. Maybe I'd be as annoyed as you if they did it without checking.

How about carrying him in a sling where possible? You can restrict access more easily then :)

YANBU, I wouldn't want my DCs touching someone who is probably sitting in their own urine and faeces, has never washed themselves in their entire life, has probably been rolling around on the floor and can't blow their own nose. Not to mention the amount of time probably spent fishing around inside a warm, damp bra.

Oh wait, you're worried about the baby?

I used to like my DC getting attention from other children. But then I know not everyone is like me. I always think uptight people are prob hungry. OP are you on a diet/quite thin?

I think it's rather lovely, but I used to get blood boiling rage at strangers (adults) wanting to hold/paw at my sleeping baby in her pram. So I sort of do see where you're coming from, but they are only children. Agree with Herrena re a sling, will make it much easier.

Yanbu. I hate it.

why has this old thread been revived. I answered without checking the date. Curses

my two hated it. I learnt to say please don't touch her she doesn't like it... though wimped out of saying that about ds recently, who really does not like being touched.

having seen more than one reception child with their hands down their pants/knickers then no I would not like it either. sometimes the thought of where their hands might have been is worse than how germy they really are.

yes she is a person. you don't generrally walk up to people in the street and touch their faces etc. so a bit of space and permission is required for children too. carefully supervised cooing fair enough, children are facinated by babies and it is ok to say please do not touch or remove a childs hand gently if you or she don't like it.

what was it like with dd 1 and 2?

Oh no......zombie thread. Didn't check the dates either.

This thread makes me really sad. I would think interaction between toddlers and babies is good practise in social learning and benefits everyone. I can understand not wanting a sleeping baby disturbed so just say so. Hover, while giving guidance, to ensure neither is rough with the other (baby is just as likely to do a painful grab or poke ime). It is a chance for the toddler to be exposed to guidance from a stranger/someone other than her usual caregiver; a very good thing imo.