to feel vindicated

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Have just given birth to a gorgeous healthy baby girl weighing 8 pounds. My pregnancy was uneventful and I was well througout. Planned section was also without complication.
However thoughout my pregnancy I was constantly reminded of the extra risks due to my increased BMI. Now this pregnancy wasn't planned so I didn't set out to put my health or my unborn child at risk.
AIBU to feel a little sad that scaremongering took away some of the joy away.
Incidently I am also back to my pre pregnancy weight so I suppose I must have been careful to take care of myself. Also plan to lose more.

Sorry missed a question. Elective section was due to having 2 previous sections. They were both emergency sections and I wasn't overweight at the time.
Maybe vindicated not right word. Of course I would not advocate getting pregnant when overweight but when it happens accidently you can only make the best of it.
This is what I did by eating healithy and not gainnig too much weight. I would have done this with or without the scary leaflet and constant reminders.

Spinal went in 1st time and wound healing better than last time when was not overweight.
Thank you for congratulations.

YABU. You got lucky. Smoking for 40 years and not getting lung cancer does not mean that people shouldn't stop smoking, or that medical professionals shouldn't advise them to.

It's great that you had no problems, but you were more likely to, and the people whose job it is to look after you and your baby did their job properly. You should be thanking them, not complaining.

She wasn't saying that at all MrSunshine, and she's said she maybe used the wrong word. Which she did.

She's not saying 'oh well I'm overweight and it went okay for me so its okay'

She's saying she wasn't happy with the way it was drilled into her (which I've seen myself and its really unpleasant) when there's not much she can do about it whilst she's pregnant. Unlike smokers and drinkers.