To not want my pregnancy announced in the school newsletter?

[Ghoulelocks]

That's the jist of it really. I'm 6.5 months and even reception children have spotted the huge bump, parents I see on gate duty daily know. It's hardly a secret, but yet I'm not comfortable with my personal life being subject to being in the newsletter.

The Head wanted to announce it and I really had to put my foot down and he just didn't understand why. I guess part of it is also I feel like it's tempting fate with early congratulations, as well as being a free target for gossip and comments.

Of course once dates and cover arrangements are set I think it's reasonable to share Mrs X will go on mat leave starting on xxxx and her role will be covered by Y (I am in a non class based role)

At our school they only mention that "Mrs X will be going on Maternity Leave on X date and we all wish her well". Nice and simple.

I wouldnt be comfortable in reading "Mrs X is expecting her first baby in X, congratulations!!". i would think "Well you knew already and I dont care!"......not really :o

But I would be wondering why the big announcement as it isnt anyone elses business, but obviously the ML is relevant so that is different.

Oh I forgot, the do put in afterwards that Mrs X had her baby boy/girl in X month, congratulations to her and Mr X. But that is because the kids do nag to know if their teacher has had their baby yet, so that is ok I think.

YANBU in not wanting your pregnancy announced in such a public manner.

YABU to think it will make you the target of gossip. Not being funny but do you not think parents at the school gate have more important things to think about than a pregnant member of school staff that is not even in the classroom? At the end of the day... they've all been there, done that wrt pregnancy, maybe several times. IME once you've had a couple of kids, you're nonplussed towards other peoples pregnancies, I am anyway, I really am not interested unless it's friends or family.

And how is 6.5 months 'early congratulations'?

And if you mainly write the newsletter, then surely you can decide when and how it's announced and this is all a non-issue apart from the head badgering you a bit.

Do many parents really read the newsletter anyway? I only scan my DDs schools one for important dates/parents evening, maybe I'd be interested if her teacher was going on mat leave but that's it really, I'm not interested in what goes on in back office.

I'd regard it as 'early congratulations' because the baby isn't here yet.

Obviously, this is my personal feeling, and other people differ, but I would have regarded people congratulating me at 6.5 months pregnant as terribly bad luck.

filetheflightoffancy is that even legal.