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AIBU?

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To think that pre-school should not be giving ds (3)...

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lecce · 24/09/2012 20:22

a fucking stick of rock .

I have been flamed on here before about not wanting sweets given out at school so I am interested to see whether people think this is a step too far.

It was only his second session today and he came out with a stick of rock - the ones that are about the size of a biro. Surely they might as well just knock his teeth out for him?

I am prepared to admit the odd Freddo here and there is not the end of the world but this is not something I would ever give to such a young child. We were not told whether it was given by a teacher as a reward or whether a child brought it in - it was just in his bag. Tbh, if a teacher has given it to him I wonder about her judgement.

Oh, and dh (sahd) broke off a small bit for him and when I got home I put the rest in the bin. Dh plans to buy him a small chocolate bar as a replacement tomorrow if he asks for it.

AWBU?

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WorraLiberty · 24/09/2012 20:24

Your DH has given him some and plans to buy chocolate for your DS?

I can't see the problem here...it's all a bit pot, kettle, black.

If my child came out of school with a rock the size of a biro I'd smile and tell him to enjoy it.

Lilyloo · 24/09/2012 20:25

Whilst not a great thing I am guessing it was from another child for their birthday, hence putting it in their bag so you can decide if it's suitable or not.

buggyRunner · 24/09/2012 20:25

I think you're a bit OTT with this. If it was put in his bag then you have the choice weather he eats it or not.

I would be more if they gave him cordial to drink that a stick of rock. If it was aregular occurance then I would not be happy though.

AnnieLobeseder · 24/09/2012 20:26

PFB much? Seriously, it's one stick of rock. Sweets are fine for children you know. Generations of them have coped just fine on sticks of rock.

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lecce · 24/09/2012 20:27

Why is it pot, kettle, black? I don't really know why he gave him any but it's difficult when they know they have been given it, isn't it? He only plans to buy him chocolate IF ds mentions the rock. If this hadn't happened, no chocolate would be bought. I think chocolate is nowhere near as bad for teeth as rock.

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WelshMaenad · 24/09/2012 20:27

Not my choice for a daily snack, but once in a blue moon wouldn't bother me. Chunk of cheese after he's eaten it (neutralises acids on teeth to stop him brushing away softened enamel) and good brush of teeth.

WorraLiberty · 24/09/2012 20:29

It's a small treat that contains a lot of sugar

But it's not a small stick of rat poison so I do think you're going way OTT here.

I'm quite sure your child has a toothbrush.

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lecce · 24/09/2012 20:29

He's our second child so not pfb. If this had happened with ds1, especially with dh having given him some, I would probably have spontaneously combusted with rage at this point .

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FredFredGeorge · 24/09/2012 20:31

WorraLiberty I guess Chocolate is considered a pretty good food for a baby (lots of milk solids, cocoa butter, all good, but rock being nothing but sugar is considered bad 'cos it's just calories which the toddler doesn't need 'cos PFB's these days are ferried around everywhere in prams and cars rather than running about.

KellyElly · 24/09/2012 20:33

You are being completely OTT. Its a stick of rock not a lump of crack. If you don't want him to have it then don't let him. You sound very uptight. And no its not difficult if they know its been given, you just day no if it is not something you want your child to have. Simple.

KellyElly · 24/09/2012 20:34

say not day

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lecce · 24/09/2012 20:34

Yes that's right, the only reason I don't want him sucking on a stick of solid sugar for 30 minutes or so is because I fail to ensure he has adequate excercise . Really don't see your point.

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Asamumnonsense · 24/09/2012 20:35

Wait until you get to Primary then :-( my DD is in year 1 and September is full of birthdays. 2 birthday parties today so 2 slices of cake each were given to kids today. I made her eat one only..

Emsmaman · 24/09/2012 20:35

Everyone's focusing on the sugar but I would be more worried about it as a choking hazard? I don't know what 3yo are like as my DD is 18mo.

We have received a party bag from another child at nursery with age inappropriate toys and sweets, just chucked it in the bin without DD seeing it.

MummyPig24 · 24/09/2012 20:36

I'd let the kids eat it. I know they have a healthy varied diet and a few treats are not gonna kill them. Relax!

exoticfruits · 24/09/2012 20:37

You are going to spend a lot of time upset in the next few years. If he has a healthy, balanced diet a small stick of rock isn't important. He doesn't have to have it all in one go and you can clean his teeth afterwards. Making it a 'bad' food will make it instantly desirable.

Meglet · 24/09/2012 20:37

I wouldn't let my kids have rock, it's not even that nice. They don't have sweets either (one of the upsides of DS's allergies!).

Just bin it. At that age you are still in control.

FamiliesShareGerms · 24/09/2012 20:38

Wouldn't be my choice of sweet for a 3yo, so I'd probably give them a bit then bin the rest. With no chocolate substitute.

YANBU to not want him to have it, but that's why it came home in the bag rather than them all tucking into them during the day, so you can decide whether to give it to your DC.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 24/09/2012 20:41

It wouldn't be my choice but I don't see the point in getting het up about it. If he is coming home with some every week then you would perhaps have a point.

RecursiveMoon · 24/09/2012 20:41

YANBU, I'd be really cross.

Surely a stick of rock is one of the worst things for teeth, and a choking hazard as well?

I don't understand the semi-MN consensus about children and sweets , and I don't see what the hurry is to give very young children lots of refined sugar.

Rubirosa · 24/09/2012 20:42

I wouldn't let ds eat a stick of rock either, but it wasn't given to him it was in his bag for you to decide. So I don't see the problem.

exoticfruits · 24/09/2012 20:44

I don't think that you can expect DCs to have adult tastes, Meglet - I don't like rock now but I did as a child. I think it is entirely counter productive to label foods- eat healthily and it really isn't important.

Sirzy · 24/09/2012 20:44

I wouldn't give a 3 year old rock personally. If DS came home with it from nursery I wouldnt give it to him and would have a word with nursery the next day to check where it was from.

NameChangeGalore · 24/09/2012 20:44

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Yabvu. Just face facts your child will eat sweets occasionally in his life. What will you do when nursery give him jam sandwiches? Eh?

kinkyfuckery · 24/09/2012 20:45

YANBU - I don't let my kids eat rock either, I'd be just as well handing them a bag of sugar and a spoon!

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