to have asked "Are you a rapist then??"

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Out having a cigarette at work - with resident neanderthal. He was talking about doing some work at the local nurses residences and came out with the line "well, it's not surprising that they go on all the time about young girls getting raped - I mean they were wandering about with their arses and tits out - I could have done anything to them..." To which I replied "Only if you were a rapist - are you a rapist then??"

He went on to say "Well they were all drunk, anything could happen to them, stupid bints" - again I replied "They could only get raped if there was a rapist there - and it wouldn't matter to him what they were wearing."

He changed the subject - utter twat

Colleague said I was wrong to suggest he was a rapist - I think I wasn't. Was I??

yousankmybattleship can you point out where the OP was slinging insults because I've read the post and I can't see it?

What I see is someone less worried about being "nice" and more worried about putting ignorant, insulting creeps like him in their place.

Well done OP. Oh, and you didn't call him a rapist so I don't know what your colleague was banging on talking about either!

'the leading cause of rape is rapists' to point out to the next idiot who spouts similar rubbish...

YANBU, It's amazing how many people, women included still believe the 'asking for it' stuff going by workplace discussion. :(

Well Done You.

Brilliant response

I am going to remember this next time I am talking to someone that starts spouting this crap I am looking at you Mr Ex.

I'm impressed.

Of course YANBU

I wouldn't expect him to see that, but it's sad your non-neanderthal colleague didn't get it.

I'd be interested to know under what circumstances he would consider a woman to not be at fault. It's just too easy to find reasons why the woman should not have let it happen; she wore the wrong clothes, she was too friendly, she was silly enough to walk back to her car alone, she didn't check the taxi driver's credentials, people like this will always find some excuse to move all or part of the blame to the victim (survivor?).

Wouldn't have done it without you all - thank-you.

Good for you. I once got this attitude from a man who was himself wearing tiny shorts twas the 80s. I wasn't brave enough to point out that there are men who rape other men and did he think he was 'asking for it' because I certainly didn't. Weird that he chose the spout this crap at me since I was wearing combat trousers, DMs, several piercing and a shaved head twas the 80s.

I think you handled him really well! you didn't suggest he was one at all.

I think you responded in a really clever way that actually might make him think a bit

Genius!

YANBU at all

What a fucking TWAT. Him, not you. Honest to fucking god.

Respect! Good on you.

Attitudes like this make me so - shit.

Nice work OP.

Bloody good work. Of course you have the right to say whatever you want, especially in response to such unpleasant views coming from him. Lots of people would have let him chunter on unchallenged. I'm not sure I wouldn't have. But I will feel better, hopefully, about doing this myself if I end up in such an awful conversation.

I applaud you!

Absolutely loving "the leading cause of rape is rapists"! Well played, OP.

Well done you hope he gives what you have said some thought

Bravo! YADNBU. Shame you work with such arseholes

Excellent work.