We hired a nanny on the basis of a recommendation when we moved abroad. I work partly from home so I'm sometimes there at the same time. I popped downstairs when they came home from the park/ shops a few minutes after I heard them come back to find that buggy had been folded and put away, shopping (just milk and juice) had been put on the countertop, nanny had hung up her coat and taken off her shoes and DS (age 2) had been left in a dirty nappy.
Having a chat apparently she'd known he'd had a poo at the supermarket and rather than change him felt it was more appropriate to wait the twenty minutes until she got back and then faff around for a bit. I didn't get the impression it was the first time either. They had a change bag with nappies and wipes and there are a bunch of cafes/ eateries next to supermarket several with babychanges and there was cash in babybag to be used for drinks/ snacks whilst out and about so she had a choice of to change on a bench or in a bathroom. It just would of required a tiny bit of proactivity.
To me it's bordering on neglect. I just don't understand why anyone would leave an upset little boy to ferment in his own poo when the situation could be easily remedied but apparently "other parents don't want her to change children except at home" which seems like utter bollocks to me.
She's been with us less than a month and there have been other issues so I suspect I'm going to have to bite the bullet and let her go but AIBU.