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AIBU?

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Original poster

USA - okay?

47 replies

cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 19:55

DH has just fit back from a trip to Germany. He has said he would like to take our DS 15years to USA for a week. Leaving me and DD 13months at home.

I can understand they want a trip together and to be fair I'm not up for taking DD away at such a young age such a long way.

AIBU in not wanting them to go??

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TalkinPeace2 · 23/09/2012 19:58

YABU to not go as well.
Toddlers are fine on planes.

notsofrownieface · 23/09/2012 19:58

Where in America? Has your ds been before?

AnOldieButNotSoGoody · 23/09/2012 19:59

Why don't you want them to go?

Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 19:59

San Diego

Yeah we've all been before

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Ragwort · 23/09/2012 19:59

Why wouldn't you want your son to have a holiday with his father Confused - is it because you don't want to be home alone with your daughter; does this mean you don't get a 'family holiday'?

I have lovely memories of going away with just my mum when I was 15, we went to Paris, my father and brother stayed at home.

My DH and DS often have holidays away together, they enjoy a hobby that I have no interest in and I love being home alone.

I think it sounds fab that your DH wants to take DS to such an exciting place, and with the age gap between your children it might be quite tricky finding a holiday you all enjoy.

Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 20:00

I don't want to be left by myself with DD for a whole week!! It would prob be fine

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Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 20:01

Yeah I'm being selfish arent I ?!

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AnOldieButNotSoGoody · 23/09/2012 20:01

Yabu.

A week is nothing.

Let them go with your blessing.

hermioneweasley · 23/09/2012 20:02

With a nearly grown up DS I think I would brave the flight and have a family holiday

kinkyfuckery · 23/09/2012 20:02

It depends on your reasons for not wanting them to go...

puds11 · 23/09/2012 20:02

Doesn't your son have school?

Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 20:03

They could go in half term

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LittleBairn · 23/09/2012 20:03

I'd agree to them going but on the understanding that you will also have your own holiday/mini break and your DH can look after the kids.

Sirzy · 23/09/2012 20:03

Go with them then!

monsterchild · 23/09/2012 20:04

Ooh, San Diego is fun! If you don't want to go with Lo, why not let the boys go and have a girls week in? Do you have friends/family that can come a visit? it would be an opportunity for me to have my sister visit and we'd get up to lots of fun!

or I'd just lie around and be slobby and happy...

Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 20:04

Littlebairn I suggested that I went away for a week and DH said no!!

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TalkinPeace2 · 23/09/2012 20:04

so you DONT want to be in the USA for Halloween and November 1st?
You DONT want your toddler to have a play on the beach in San Diego in October
You would rather stay here ?

Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 20:05

I suppose a week isn't that long really

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Lucie99 · 23/09/2012 20:06

YABU to now want to go! Sod that ... I'd take DD and let your husband and son go off on day trips whilst you and your DD did some lovely things together. San Diego has a fabulous zoo, museums, shopping and at 13 months DD will still nap so you can have some downtime too.

SlightlySuperiorPeasant · 23/09/2012 20:07

This would probably be my initial reaction too, along with "so where's my holiday?!" but on reflection I'd be happy for them to have male bonding time. A week isn't long at all and I'd be more concerned that it would be a waste of money for them to go for such a short time, especially factoring in jet lag.

ScariestFairyByFar · 23/09/2012 20:07

Let them go, book a couple of nights in a near by hotel for you and dd and they'll be back in a week what's the big deal?

Original poster
cheekypickle · 23/09/2012 20:07

I would love to go but I'm scared about taking her on a plane!! And worried about her routine getting out of sync, wide awake at night on holiday etc

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AnOldieButNotSoGoody · 23/09/2012 20:07

Why did he say no Hmm

kinkyfuckery · 23/09/2012 20:08

What is your DS expected to do with himself whilst your DH is having his afternoon sleep?

notsofrownieface · 23/09/2012 20:09

Aww I wanna go to San Diago looks at bank account wails

It's a week, it will be some father son bonding time, maybe you can take him away somewhere next year for some mother son bonding. He is 15 how many more chances are you going to get (i'm not trying to upset you Smile )

If not make it a family holiday do this Grin

YANBU but ABU at the same time (if possible)