to hate living in the country?

[Hullygully]

IT'S SO BORING I HATE IT I HATE IT

Hully, I too think YABU.

Books. Music. Long walks. Gardening. Small sensible domestic things, like chopping wood and planting veg seeds. Make your own bread, jam, furniture. PEACE. SILENCE. Freedom from consumerist world of High Street. Ideally, fewer NEIGHBOURS. Get to know yourself. Get to know dcs.

[shocked] at that comment. Did you say anything Hully?

We could have had a fabulous time Huls. There's a couple of neighbours I could have introduced you to that would have given you years of mirth. Our coffee mornings would be legendary

We moved to the country 2 years ago. It's not far enough from other folk though... considering croft on remote Scottish island.

Might adopt an otter while I'm at it....

Gardening. Small sensible domestic things, like chopping wood and planting veg seeds. Make your own bread, jam, furniture. PEACE. SILENCE. Freedom from consumerist world of High Street. Ideally, fewer NEIGHBOURS. Get to know yourself. Get to know dcs.

KILL ME NOW

Bobby - No, I didn't, tho my jaw hit the table.

It was my first meeting and I am already enough of an oddity. I thought I'd wait till three meetings in when they've got used to me...

I've come across a lot of ignorant language here.

One example is our gardener refering to black people as darkies
I asked if he realised how offensive he was being, he said he could say what he liked. I gave him a bit of a lecture chat.
Two weeks later he used the same phrase, so I told him we didn't need a gardener any more.

As he lives in the village it's a bit awkward, and I'm sure he's spread a few corking rumours about us. Don't care.

I don't like gardening.

I've been there and done that. Just another bloody maintenace chore after a while: hoover, put washing on, shoot a darkie, weed.

While agreeing with all the SHOCKED comments on 'working like a black', I suppose at leas the bigot sees that, erm, blacks actually work as in do a lot of the gruntwork all over the world. Might even lead to some awareness that htis may not be a matter of free choice?

There used to be a feminist saying, 'women are the world's blacks...' (obviously pretty stupid since, erm, you can be a woman and black) - still at least goes against the more usual racist idea that nonwhites are lazy???

You can do gardening in a city or town. You can make jam and bread in an urban setting.

I'm thinking of selling up now

When we lived in the country my dh worked at the local tv station. They employed a young black girl (a friend of ours) to do the weather ... and they got written complaints from members the viewing public. Obviously these were just a few nutters and not everyone who lives outside of large cities is racist, but it was honestly one of the things that made me want to scream about living there.

I'd much rather live in Bristol than London. Birmingham seems nice, but last time I went I was quite taken aback by the racial tensions there (considering what had happened a few months prior to that, I shouldn't have been I suppose). It was horrible.

Bath and environs are lovely; you can get to London with ease, Bristol is nearby, and the schools are good.

You can buy jam in towns and cities, whereas you have to travel miles to buy jam in the countryside. That is why so many people make their own jam in the countryside.

Same with chopping wood - you have to make your own fuel as well in the countryside as there are no gas pipes and electric fails a lot.

In fact, you have to make a lot of things for yourself in the country - including making your own fun because that is also in short supply.

sympathise, Hully. And we live in a relatively enlightened rural area. Even some non-white folk .

My DPs are planning to retire to nearest big-but-vair-civilised city and I am JEALOUS.

OHmygod, Mintyy. But there are racist twunts in cities, too. I used to live in Reading, home of skinheads.

My country garden is way bigger than my city one was, big enough to grow fruit for jam .

Today is def. the weather for looking on the glum side, hully.

Bath is insanely expensive. Birmingham is a seething cauldron of race loathing. Oxford has a disempowered underclass and some VERY deprived estates where they understandably loathe the rich denizens of the university (though I love the multiethnic Cowley Road, bless it). Norwich used to boast it was the Uk's 'last white city'. Exeter is MILES FROM ANYWHERE and full of tourists and holidaying families. York seems lovely, but it's not exactly cheap.

I could not possibly live in a town or city, too much noise, hassle, pollution, cant park the car, no greenery or freedom. I much prefer being out in the sticks with practically no running costs, free to grow my own food and do what I want when I want without fear of being called a noise nuisance or being kept in check every time you open your mouth.

Hully, have you been hosed down today. I'm worried about you.

here

My parents moved to the wrong kind of country.

The local BNP were rash enough to post a leaflet through their door in the local elections one year. My mother was baking in the kitchen. She was so angry to see what the leaflet was she threw open the door and chased the man down the road, in her apron and with hands all floury, to give it back to him. He was pretty scared apparently-not used to that kind of reaction. 'Round there you are liberal if you vote UKIP.

The harvest is brought in by people from Poland, Lithuania etc who work all hours for minimum wage. All the local doleites complain about foreigners taking their jobs, when the reality is they wouldn't be seen dead in a field.

Aw it's lovely at Christmas though isn't it?

Lovely walks in the snow, collecting holly & mistletoe to make your house all Country Living

Oh Hully, I feel for you. The country sucks. London rules. Sorry, that probably doesn't help.

Just move back. Whaddya mean, easier said than done?

Lovely walks in the snow???? collecting holly and mistletoe???

I'm going to have to hide the thread. I'm getting palpitations and flashbacks to the horrors of my life. I should point out that I live in a rural village about 3 miles away from one of the most crap cities in the UK so hardly 'countryside'. It is, however, shit

I feel your pain, Jins. You can collect holly etc in the city and then pick up a takeaway on the way home.

THAT is living. THAT is civilisation.

yanbu. We moved from a huge ugly city to a cute little village but I know that I like it partly cos it is right next to a city (where i work) so it doesn't feel like the arse end of nowhere. You can just walk into the city when you want to feel people buzzing around you.