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to tell my baby to not shout in the supermarket?

45 replies

newmummytobe79 · 21/09/2012 15:13

Ahhhh! I can't win!

Baby is just over 1 and has a habit of shouting VERY loudly whilst we're shopping and then laughing about it.

I have people who tell me how gorgeous baby is and how it's just a 'finding their voice' exercise ... and others that look at me in disgust :(

I do tell my baby to stop shouting/no/don't do that etc etc ... but I feel like my life is spent constantly telling off!

I know baby isn't being naughty (much!) and will eventually understand the word no (please tell me this is true!)

But I see parents just ignoring shouting kids and wonder if I should do that?

Thoughts please :)

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/09/2012 15:15

people who look at a 1 year old baby in disgust for shouting are officially loons.

aldiwhore · 21/09/2012 15:16

I LOVE to see and hear babies having a joyful holler in the supermarket. I used to talk to my boys (actually I still do) and sing songs, let them choose things from the shelves and generally involve them. I got disaproving looks (could have been my paranoia I gues) and comments (actual comments).

You can't win. So long as your baby is doing nothing illegal or dangerous then ignore others.

Saying that, if an old lady gives you the evil eye, your baby has probably made her hearing aid scream, so forgive her! (That could be said for anyone with a hearing aid...)

cornzy · 21/09/2012 15:17

let him shout all he wants - miserable feckers

newmummytobe79 · 21/09/2012 15:17

Thank you fanjoforthemammaries (Grin at your name!)

I sometimes want to laugh ... and sometimes want to cry! It is normal I'm guessing then! :)

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valiumredhead · 21/09/2012 15:18

I think I would go with distraction rather than suing no every time he did it and just try and ignore everyone else - you won't please everyone all of the time.

newmummytobe79 · 21/09/2012 15:19

hahaha at the hearing aid comment! Although I find it's the old dears that are the kindest :)

I shall think feck em indeed :)

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 21/09/2012 15:23

DD used to have whole gaga conversations really loudly with mystery other babies in other aisles!

Ignore the evil eyes. Its a supermarket, not a library!

TwinkleReturns · 21/09/2012 15:24

My 18mo still does this! I just talk back to her and used to smile and make comments like "are you telling me all about it? clever girl" which soon kills any glaring comments! Its all about learning to communicate and is an important part of development. I would not advise shushing, it sends the wrong messages to a child who is just trying to do their own version of talking!

Kalisi · 21/09/2012 15:37

My DS did this every single day in the restaurant on holiday. We had a complete mix of people, those who were visibly annoyed who would swap tables to get out of earshot and those who adored him and would deliberately sit next to us every day. It was pretty embarassing and we too tried a number of things to stop it. Eventually we stopped caring what other people thought and suddenly it wasn't as interesting to him to scream any more Angry

RaisinDEtre · 21/09/2012 15:46

why would you shush a baby?

also remember that your baby sounds loud to you the parents but actually it's a really tiny sound

skyrocketsinflight · 21/09/2012 15:51

a 1 year old cute, and you can put up with them being loud. Especially if they are happy when doing it. I would generally just smile at the happy shouty baby.

A most likely 3/4 year old singing/shouting for an entire 40 minute train journey after a 12 hour day at work. Awful!

I do admit to glaring at the child, and considered getting off and waiting about 30 minutes for the next train. Was nearly smacking my head of the seat in front in frustration. As there was nowhere else to sit and couldnt face standing at the other end of the train.

ChunkyPickle · 21/09/2012 15:52

Ha yes, DS was probably annoying an entire Starbucks yesterday when I put on an episode of his favourite show to keep him quiet while I spoke to someone, but instead he found it super exciting and kept yelling and giggling very loudly as things happened on the screen (along with Mumm mumm look!)

Anyone who has a problem with little ones being loudly happy is a grumpy toad.

MabelLucyAttwell · 21/09/2012 15:52

Discipline begins at birth.

katykuns · 21/09/2012 15:52

Chances are, if you ignore him (and pay attention when he is at a normal volume) he will stop shouting anyway.

I personally think its adorable hearing babies babble whether its loud or not... sod everyone else!

Thumbwitch · 21/09/2012 15:54

So long as it's not that ear-splitting shriek that some babies achieve, I'd let him off. Ear-splitting shrieks are to be discouraged at every available opportunity though. :)

ChunkyPickle · 21/09/2012 15:55

Ah, yes, I too would feel differently if the child is a shrieker..

FunnysInLaJardin · 21/09/2012 15:56

I would let him shout, anyone who has had children will understand exactly and will no doubt smile and the others can keep their noses out. I realised this with DS2 who undoubtedly is frowned upon for being 2.5. However I don't give a shit Grin

DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 21/09/2012 16:00

My DS does this, I just cheerfully talk back to him "is that so DS? And what did he say when you told him that?"

I'm sure people think I'm mad but meh, DS and I love our shopping jaunts.

bigsnugglebunny · 21/09/2012 16:02

Ah supermarkets make such good echoes and the acoustics are interesting for small people. We have this too and I just leave her to it! Don't worry about the grumps - if they don't like it, plenty of supermarkets are open late enough for it to be after most babie's bedtimes! Smile

But older children running amok... that's a whole other thread!

HarlotOTara · 21/09/2012 16:03

Ignore there are always miserable buggers around. I love to hear the sound of a happy shouting baby. Your baby is find his/her voice and is being happy.

BlueSkySinking · 21/09/2012 16:04

Try distraction

Kalisi · 21/09/2012 17:28

ooh er @ Mabel! Ill just assume you were being ironic Hmm

Pandemoniaa · 21/09/2012 17:31

People are miserable fuckers. A jolly baby is a joy to see and hear. But you can try distraction if the noise levels start to get to you.

LST · 21/09/2012 17:32

You wouldn't even hear shouting over my 10mo in the supermarket. My ears almost bleed Grin

crazygracieuk · 21/09/2012 17:37

You should only worry about baby shouting in sensitive situations like funerals, wedding vows...
Personally I would not tell my child to be quiet unless they were doing a Meet The Fockers "Ass-hole"'.

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