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AIBU?

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To think DP is being very silly?

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DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 21/09/2012 09:47

I have bought DS a pair of green stripey leggings for crawling around the house in. Apparently they are all the rage in Japan, they are quite tight so won't wrinkle down when he is crawling/cruising but are quite boyish in that they are green and blue striped with diggers and a large sports jersey style number on the bum.

DP has expressed his displeasure in ne "dressing DS like a girl". I've told him he's being ridiculous and asked what he'll do if DS ever asks for a pram or dolly. He responded that DS will not be allowed one. He, apparently, doesn't think DS will catch the gay, and can't explain his aversion to the leggings. He's being ridiculous, isn't he?

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pictish · 21/09/2012 09:49

Yes.

Sarahplane · 21/09/2012 09:55

It sounds like they're very practical and he's being silly.

WinklyFriedChicken · 21/09/2012 09:56

Yes, but he is allowed an opinion on what his son wears.

Sarahplane · 21/09/2012 09:56

The pram thing is very silly too. Grown men push buggies too not just women.

ripsishere · 21/09/2012 09:57

He is being supremely stupid in fact.
One piece of advice I came across in the past week, that may interest your DH is aimed at helping parents spot if their children have caught gay.
Boys will be wearing tight v necked tshirts and carrying large handbags, girls will only associate with girls.
HTH

BlackberryIce · 21/09/2012 09:58

'catch the gay'!

They sound cute!

Trills · 21/09/2012 10:11

DS will not be allowed any "girl toys"?

He is BVU.

I only hope that DS naturally fits into all of the "boy" stereotypes that your DP expects him to fit into, or else he'll not have a particularly pleasant childhood.

TantrumsAndGoldAndOrange · 21/09/2012 10:17

My ds1 had a pram, a dOlly, a kitchen and an iron when he was little.

He is now 14, plays football and rugby and AFAIK has not caught the gay.
But he used to love pushing his dolly around though.

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DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 21/09/2012 10:22

Oh believe me, if DS wants a dolly, a dolly he shall have. Now excuse me, I'm off to buy him some pink, sparkly tights to keep his legs warm...

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ScrambledSmegs · 21/09/2012 10:49

at 'catch the gay'.

YANBU.

BertieBotts · 21/09/2012 10:52

HIBU, if he wants to choose some clothes for DS I'm sure he's more than welcome to!

DP said that my clothing choices for DS are getting a bit babyish now! I told him to butt out, he can always buy DS some clothes if it's that important to him, but he's 4. Until he's old enough to have an opinion I will choose his clothes myself

SoleSource · 21/09/2012 10:52

Yanbu

SoleSource · 21/09/2012 10:52

Where did you get the leggings from?

OscarPistoriusGirlfriend · 21/09/2012 10:54

I had leggings like that for DS2, they were great! I got mine at house of fraser made by some scandinavian company.

Fakebook · 21/09/2012 10:57

Silly. Had the same problem this week with a friend saying I'd scar DS for life by putting him in tights. Dh loves Dd's hand me down tights on DS though. I think your Dp is being dumb.

Roseformeplease · 21/09/2012 10:59

My son's favourite toy was a Hoover and he was not in any way scarred by owning it.

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DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 21/09/2012 10:59

I got them from eBay sole, £1.92 with free shipping!

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tutu100 · 21/09/2012 11:02

My ds2 who is nearly 4 will only wear leggings! Absolutely refuses to wear any other kind of trousers as they are not soft enough. I can understand him. I think leggings are excellent for kids as they are comfortable and not restrictive. I buy him plain coloured girls pairs. Luckily my DP isn't fussed (even if he was I would still let ds2 wear leggings as his comfort is more important than dp's thoughts).

Dp was a bit aghast when I got ds1 a toy pushchair and baby, but that quickly went and now he'll walk ds2 round the shop pushing it (ds2 is pushing the toy pushchair - not DP).

Even wearing leggings there is no mistaking ds2 for a boy. And you can tell your DP my leggings wearing boy is one of the most rough and tumble (and dirt attracting) boys you could meet so I don't think it's doing him any harm.

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DesperatelySeekingPomBears · 21/09/2012 11:15

Here's the link sole

http://item.mobileweb.ebay.co.uk/viewitem?itemId=280964164275&index=15&nav=SEARCH&nid=14219028861 link

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Arithmeticulous · 21/09/2012 11:28

DS had some of those, wore them as leggings but the nursery insisted on putting trousers over the top - which they wouldn't have done if he were a girl

OxfordBags · 21/09/2012 11:47

I don't get what's with all these idiot men thinking that a boy pushing a toy pushchair will make them gay - do they not push their own child's pushchair, then (mind you, if they are that ignorant they could be the sort of macho idiots who won't!)? Does pushing their child's pushchair make them gay?! No.

Sexuality is decided in the womb. Please can people point this out to the 'gay-makers' in their lives?! Although, interestingly, researchers have proved that the ONLY factor in life out of the womb that sometimes pushes a male towards homosexuality is having a father obsessed with hypermasculinity and not letting his son be his true self, because it makes the child fixate on and desire male love and attention, which carries on for the rest of their life.

Incidentally, ELC does a blue pram, for anyone who feels the need to placate a stupid DH/DP who is weird about their son having a pram. Personally, I'd dump anyone for being a thick, narrow-minded homophobe, but a blue pram could be a middleground...

Aspiemum2 · 21/09/2012 11:51

Kids should wear what's comfy and practical for them. Exp is always moaning that dd1 never looks smart (she lives in leggings and trakkies) but personally I think she looks fine. She's 8 and chooses what she wears, she knows what she finds comfy to play in and I'm not going to force her to wear something that irritates her!

CaptainHetty · 21/09/2012 11:53

He is BVU. Even more so for the not allowed dolls comment.

Also, I had some of those leggings for my daughter (and would have used them had she been a boy as well!) and they were great.

TiggerWearsATriteSmile · 21/09/2012 12:09

My DS wore green and navy striped leggings.
They were fab.

He's now walking and as we have two girls he pushes a buggy.
Admittedly, it's usually for transporting tractors, blocks, the odd doll if he needs to but it's no big deal.
Gay leggings, he doesn't believe that surely.

lynniep · 21/09/2012 12:18

My DS2 has also refused to wear anything that is not made of jersey this year. I bought him some supercute 'pants' (sort of like baggy leggings with elasticated bottoms ) which are navy with white stars like these and they are worn to death. Its proved quite tricky finding stuff (apparently tracksuit bottoms don't cut the mustard -they have to be lighter than that) because he's growing out of 'baby' sizes (he's nearly 3 now) and the Scandinavian stuff is quite expensive. I think he looks adorable. If you can't wear colourful leggings when you're 2, when can you? DH thinks he looks ridiculous, but turns a blind eye as he's not prepared to dress him himself...

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