Nanny loves 4yo dd and vice versa, but I feel the nanny is less patient with DS at times (DS is 1).
Nanny has been caring for DD since she was about 1, one day a week.
She used to do lots of activities with her but now just takes her to park and seems to make very little effort with kids when at the house. She is a nice lady and has been through difficult times in the past, and I feel very sad about wanting to let her go. But I really feel that she is not putting in enough effort with the kids to warrant her rate and I am a bit frustrated at times with her attitude. I feel that I could get a really amazing bright energetic nanny for the same rate and have the kids really stimulated.
She is a bit older and I feel she would be very sensitive/hurt/offended if I tried to tell her to do more, or to correct some of the minor issues I have a problem with - she is inflexible about working times and I would really prefer to have someone who could help out in the early evenings - and I think she is just slowing down a bit generally. I am quite conscious that winter is coming and I don't want the kids plonked in front of the tv because it's dark at 330 or 4.
However, this nanny is a very calm influence, can get the kids to eat anything, is very patient and loving and has a good relationship with them.
She seems to be good enough for my kids but not nearly good enough for me.
What to do?