DH waking me up as I'm keeping him awake.

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I make a funny clicking sound in my sleep. It drives DH insane. It is not loud so doesn't wake him up but if he wakes up he cannot get back to sleep and gets cross and so wakes me up, I go back to sleep and start doing it again so he wakes me up, and repeat, repeat, repeat.
I feel bad for him. I have sleep problems myself and sometimes find it very difficult to sleep and know how awful it is. But on the other hand I can't help it and him repeatedly waking me just means that we are both shattered the next day. I am cross that he woke me so many times last night despite knowing that the night before I had a terrible nights sleep.
So as not to drip feed I have noticed this only happens on work nights. I think he feels under pressure to get his x amount of hours sleep in knowing he has to get up for work and this makes him react to the noise I am making, whereas on a Friday/Saturday night he just rolls over and goes back to sleep.
AWBU? And any idea where we go from here?

Well to be fair, the pillow solution would solve mine.

As I said, I am not thinking rationally when I am in this position, I just want the noise to stop, anything that will make the noise stop...

See the GP. I would be fuming - sorry! My DH snores and it drives me mental.

It's not fair on your DH or you.

He gets earplugs? (The wax ones from Boots are brill.)

I swear by these too, Euphemia!

www.boots.com/en/Boots-Pharmaceuticals-Muffle-Wax-Earplugs-5-Pairs-_1129526/

I use them every night - I can sleep in any hotel room when I'm away with work, even if it's over the bar or next to the lift; and when I'm at home, I don't get disturbed when my teenage sons come to bed or by the dawn chorus.

Problem solved.

I willadd - the snoring doesn't wake me every time but it does if I'm stressed. Doesn't mean DH shouldn't fix it.

Jodie just where do you get the bit about not caring for my DH?

And I am not trying to absolve myself, I really, really hope the GP can do something for me otherwise it's separate beds for us. I am just pointing out that me not being there did not make any difference to his quality of sleep so I think he should try to help himself a bit too. He works very, very hard and cares a lot about work. Sometimes he can't switch off. This sort of thing is not good for a person.

Thank you Ladyindisguise. I think you are explaining better than me.

The seperate bed thing is not actually unpleasant OP.

I keep our spare bed made up with lovely fresh sheets and that room is just as nice as the master, so neither of us feel like it is a 'punishment' or whatever if we sleep in there.

It is also the study and DH has been known to just go to bed there if he has been working late into the night. He knows being that tired will be a trigger for bad snoring, so he manages that.

If you can sort out a seperate bed for one of you to retreat to, do it and make it nice. It really does help because it means at least an occasional good night's sleep which is sometimes all I need to reset to myself.

You can go to the gp and get the clicky thing sorted.

He needs to sort out how he's dealing with stress/ insomnia.

Waking up your partner 10 times a night because you're pissed off you can't sleep isn't ok. He could move, go sleep somewhere else, whatever. But he's choosing to keep waking you up to make a point.

Oh snores badly all the time without his mouth guard and sometimes with the mouth guard. My dd snores badly too. I get woken and mega frustrated regardless of whether it's holiday/weekend/am working next day/day off. Christmas last year was awful, we visited my parents and I spent 2 nights in a room with oh and dd. I had next to no sleep, and I didn't have to worry about getting up or anything, oh and my parents were all on hand for dd.