To think it is unreasonable to let DCs play out at this time

[TheQueenOfDiamonds]

My mums next door neighbour gets up very early. She is often outside in her garden at 6am, sweeping and things.

She often has her GC over, and she sends him out on the garden to play.

This morning she had him and his friend over and they were out playing at 8am and being very loud and banging things.

AIBU to think this is a bit rude and that people with young children should consider that childless neighbours may enjoy a lie in on a sunday morning, and don't want to be woken up early by shouting children? I think 9/9.30am is reasonable to be making the sort of noise that your neighbours will hear - I'm sure most parents would be pissed off if neighbours continually woke their children up in the evening?

YANBU.

YANBU

YANBU I don't let my DC out till 11am, noisy buggers that they are. Doesn't stop my neighbour mowing his fecking lawn at 8.30 am though!

I'm a bit on the fence really. On the one hand, I hate being woken up early by antisocial noise but on the other hand, I don't find the noise of children playing particularly irritating (probably because I'm so used to hearing it!). There are definitely worse things to wake up to at 8am on a Sunday (like someone on my street who decided to trim their hedges starting at 7:30am last weekend!).

Soon it'll be too cold and dark to be playing out in the garden at 8am, so I'm going to go with YABU I think.

YANBU, it's selfish.

9.30am onwards is early enough for a Sunday morning

8am is not too early for children to play outside, imho. Much more of an issue is 6am loudness.

YANBU

I don't let mine out until around 10ish, and usually only then because one of the other neighbours kids have knocked for them.

Kenleee - I see your point, but then I have to think, how would you like it if, say you put you DCs to bed at 7.30pm and your neighbours continually woke them up by having friends over and making loud noise (say they were in their garden talking loudly/laughing/gaving a bbq) until 9.30pm.

Would you say the same then?

8am is fine. No reason not to be outside playing.

And BBQ's outside at 9:30pm are also fine.

I don't think 8am is early for children to be playing in the garden, no. YABU.

I don't think it's too early. Better than them lazing about

I have a 9am curfew (or whatever the opposite of curfew is) on weekend mornings. I don't know what time the neighbours get up but I don't think anyone can complain about 9, 6 otoh is too early at any time imo.

But if they weren't in the garden playing at 8am then they would be in the house and possibly the bedroom playing. Which would still disturb your mum.

I'm afraid that children don't come with 'mute' buttons so, unfortunately, if you live next door to children you have to expect that there will be a certain level of noise earlier than there would be if the NDNs were child free.

YABU I think. If they'd been making noise at 6am, that would have been different but 8am seems perfectly reasonable to me. Our DS is only 8mo so too young to be out playing, however the NDNs kids were out on their trampoline at around that time this morning and it didn't strike me as UR.

They don't have to be lazing about though, there are indoor activities they could do?

By law is it not 11pm that you can make a fair ammount of noise until? Most people would not do that out of consideration though, I think early mornings, one day a week isn't a big deal to keep the noise down when others are trying to sleep.

(For the PPs who mentioned lawn mowing, she does that between 6 and 8am too).

8am is fine. YABU.

Desperately - When they're in the house you don't hear a peep funnily enough, the only time they've heard anything inside the house was when she obviously saw something scary and was screaming "hit it with a pan" and a strange noise I heard about 2am once.

My next door neighbour is often out, letting the dogs out, at 6ish. Her GC also play outside. Maybe I live next door but one to your mum

To be honest it doesn't really bother me, and my bedroom is at the back so I hear it. Dogs can be heard when they're inside and barking, kids can be heard when they're inside and playing noisily (and this is a 1930s house so good solid walls).

I don't mind noise outside in the evenings either, it's life isn't it - live near other people, you have to put up with their noise. If the neighbours are having a BBQ and still outside at 9 then so be it.

I would feel differently if they were having big parties that went on all night but a bit of early morning / evening noise is fine. I'm not silent in my house after my children are in bed either and they don't wake up all the time.

OP's mother obviously doesn't live in the countryside where she would be woken up by cockerels crowing, cattle lowing, sheep bleating, horses neighing, ducks quacking, chickens clucking ...... what else is there? Oh, yes. Pigs snorting.

Noisy children in the garden at 8 am. Yes I think this is anti-social and inconsiderate. I think 9 am is quite early enough for children to be disturbing neighbours. (Po face mask firmly on!)

I don't think 8am is UR full stop, I just think people should consider their neighbours. If your neighbours are up then fair enough. People with children usually expect some consideration for their childrens sleep.

Personally I wouldn't notice myself as waking me is like trying to wake the living dead.

Also never had my children woken up - so I'll admit I'm only assuming people would expect others to consider their children? My DD is profoundly deaf so despite having the noisiest neighbours ever before I had DS and moved, it was never a problem.

I'm the only person who wakes DS up forgetting that I can't do the hoovering round this one as he sleeps!

YABU

When my childless neighbours stop playing music loudly with the doors and windows open and talking and laughing loudly in the garden until midnight, then I will worry about what time my DCs are making a noise in the morning.

YANBU any noise before 9 am and any lawn mowers or hedge cutters before 10 am at a week end is antisocial.

Yanbu, nobody here is even dressed before 8am on a weekend unless we're going out somewhere.