to think in-laws birthdays are not my responsibility?

[SheelaNeGoldGig]

I remember and sort out cards and pressies for my side but I think it is DHs responsibility to sort them out for his side.

AIBU? He thinks I am.

So would I Ephiny - I find it a pita.
And I agree 'it's just something that needs to be done' is a smokescreen.
It's just something that needs to be done...bywomen. Men, apparently, don't have to do it.

Except in my house.

YANBU however I do sort out everyones birthday here as he would not remember. Not a big deal only once a year.

I must be one of those rare people that enjoys finding a present for someone that I know they will like, whereas my husband sees it easier to just give them money. So he gives me the money, and I have an excuse to go shopping.

As I am the one who does the food shopping, I just pick a birthday card up when needed.

We have done it this way for all our married life, it is never a big drama.

YANBU

We both do it for both sides, if it's coming up to someone's birthday in DPs family and I see something they would like then I'll get it and it's done and it's the same with him and my family

I assume you get a card/pressie from your in-laws? i.e they see you as family and dont just leave it to your parents?

I think it is just a family task to be allocated like everything else. if you have a fairly equal spread of responsibilities, then i can see it is fair enough for DH to be responsible for his family and you for yours. In our house (we work similar hours) it tends to work that way for birthdays (generally only do cards). I seem to end up doing most of the christmas shopping though for both sides (and our DC). I dont particularly mind this as i am generally better than him at choosing presents (I like to think!) and have a good idea of the kind of things they like. If I am out shopping anyway and see something I think his mum will like, it is easy to pick it up. DH does tend to do a couple of shopping trips though (he needs to get my present afterall!), invariably last minute, and will get for people I have not yet bought for. Usually this will be people on his side of the family, but he would (say) buy for my brother if I give him ideas.

For some reason, buying clothes and pressies for the DC has always fallen in my court. That is kind of odd if you think about it. We do have girls, but am pretty sure it would be the same if we had boys. I dont mind because (1) I enjoy shopping for the DC, and (2) he does lots of other stuff - much more housework than me!

YANBU. There are so many of them, I tried doing some of it but always forget. I am sure MIL thinks I am very remiss. I forgot one of my DN's birthdays recently (in my defence there are 7 DNs and I was busy at work), MIL phoned me to remind me, I sent a present and card, only to find out that DH had already sent an identical present and card, so she got two! Oops!

thanks mrsjay

My brother always send the cards and gifts from his family. In fact I wouldn't even recognise my SIL's handwriting - I have never had anything from her.

I adore my nieces and nephews and am really good mates with my BILs and SILs so am happy to wish them a Happy Birthday. Likewise my PILs.

I loathe doing the dishwasher, hanging up washing and ironing. DH mainly does these jobs (although he is bored by them too).

Stuff that needs doing. Not a big drama.