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my daugher wants to rent a holiday house for her 16th birthday party with BF?

61 replies

teatimes · 13/09/2012 09:47

she's planned this with her best friend, whose mum is fine with it trusting her daughter completely. they've found somewhere 6 miles from home and I'm the only one raising concerns. am i being unreasonable?

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OTheHugeManatee · 13/09/2012 09:48

Who's going to be liable for the deposit costs if the party trashes the place?

HeathRobinson · 13/09/2012 09:50

Ha ha ha ha ha.

squeakytoy · 13/09/2012 09:50

I very very much doubt that the owner of any house would allow this for one moment.

And if they lie, then they are likely to face a hefty bill for the damage that is bound to happen.

I would be absolutely furious if someone rented my house purely for a teen party.

TunipTheVegemal · 13/09/2012 09:51

YANBU!
It's stressful enough handing back a holiday house when you've been staying there as a family. The idea of what might happen to it with a teenage party happening there doesn't bear thinking about.
And I can't believe the owners would be happy if they knew that was what it was for, would they?

CrackerJackShack · 13/09/2012 09:51

Wow....Does her Mom smoke a lot of pot, cause I can't think of any other reason she would be so...mellow?

I would never let my 16 year old rent a holiday home for her birthday, and I know for a fact my friends and I would have trashed it when we were 16. (And I was a GOOD kid!)

HeathRobinson · 13/09/2012 09:52

16 yr old's party.

WhatYouLookingAt · 13/09/2012 09:53

She's 16, she can't enter into a contract to hire. Unless the owner is a moron. She wouldn't be held legally responsible.

Also, she's 16. Say no!

OneOfMyTurnsComingOn · 13/09/2012 09:53

I would be very, very concerned. You may trust your daughter but you have no idea who will turn up, even gatecrash.

A scary thought.

Shesparkles · 13/09/2012 09:54

YANBU , the othe rparent is either completely deluded or completely mad! It's not even what your own kids get up to that you worry about, it's the guests.
It would definitely be a big fat NO in this house, no matter what the friend thought-I'm quite happy to bt the unpopular mum

IvanaNap · 13/09/2012 10:05

Nowhere will rent to 16 year olds. Likewise an insurance company would laugh you out of the door / off the phone.

Mrsjay · 13/09/2012 10:06

they won't get to rent it they are 16 unless the mother is going to lie and book it for them, I wouldn't be happy about it tbh YANBU

SoldeInvierno · 13/09/2012 10:08

Good luck to the owner!

piratecat · 13/09/2012 10:11

no chance. why are kids so entitled these days. I would have been lucky enough to have had party with no adults there at that age!!

They just want to get pissed and have sex, in someone elses house. If she were 18 then maybe so, but there will just be bunch of mates turning up, alot prop under 16 i would have thought.

Just too risky on all counts.

Birdsgottafly · 13/09/2012 10:12

If you cannot trust your DD, then don't do it.

My DD is nearly 17 at 16 she could be trusted, some teens can. She minds my mothers house whilst she is away and has done from 15.

She wouldn't hesitate to phone someone if uninvited guests turned up, but that depends on who you have in your family to go and sort things out etc.

It is unfair to criticise the other mother unless you know her DD and her circle of friends etc.

If your DD has never been put in a position of trust then this isn't the situation to do it in.

Mrsjay · 13/09/2012 10:13

I think pirate Is right this wil turn into one of 'those' parties it is only 6 miles away from home it isn't in their house, it will end up on twitter it will be a disaster,

Lovecat · 13/09/2012 10:13

I bet they haven't told the owner a thing - most won't rent to large single-sex or even mixed groups if it's not an extended family get together.

Mrsjay · 13/09/2012 10:14

some places won't rent out to under 21s mixed sex groups

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt · 13/09/2012 10:14

Well this is a bit of a daft idea.

I can't imagine any owner would want to rent their property to a couple of 16 year olds. They could be angels who plan to play Monopoly all night whilst drinking cherryade, but I can't imagine any landlord or letting agent would take that chance, tbh.

If my dd suggested this I would be 'err, that would be a no'.

ethelb · 13/09/2012 10:18

my sister tried this and they found a house who was willing to take them (after looking for MONTHS) and then the owner pulled out a month before (when he got some sense)

sue52 · 13/09/2012 10:18

I have a couple of holiday cottages on my land. There is no way I would let a 16 year old within a mile of them. The owner can't know the true plans for the rental.

TunipTheVegemal · 13/09/2012 10:18

....and even if they were, they would probably spill the cherryade and not know how to clean it up without it staining.

YouOldSlag · 13/09/2012 10:26

You are right to be concerned. Since your DD is under 18 the signatory will be liable for all the damage. Presumably that will be the other girl's Mum so more fool her. Keep your daughter safe and don't let her go, you are being very sensible here.

I'm just shuddering at memories of newspaper article about Facebook parties that end costing 10k in damages.

Also if she's 16 she is under age for drinking and smoking. I know that doesn't stop a lot of 16 year olds but if the police are called there could be all sorts of serious legal trouble for you as well as your DD.

SirGOLDBoobs · 13/09/2012 10:32

Not a chance in hell.

julieann42 · 13/09/2012 10:59

YANBU...I wouldn't agree to this either! I mostly trust my daughter but it's the thought of the others and the mob mentality that would worry me!

ZillionChocolate · 13/09/2012 11:03

Definitely not.

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