my daugher wants to rent a holiday house for her 16th birthday party with BF?

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she's planned this with her best friend, whose mum is fine with it trusting her daughter completely. they've found somewhere 6 miles from home and I'm the only one raising concerns. am i being unreasonable?

No way. They can do this when they're adults and able to book and pay for the rental themselves (and take responsibility for any damage/mishaps that may occur!). I wouldn't be facilitating it for 16 year olds.

That is insane and I was also a 'good' teen. I would let them rent it, then make a phone call to the letting agent about a week before the party tbh. But then I am evil

Complete madness!!! Would end in total disaster and no way would I allow it.

If they dont want a party in their own home then tell them to go halves and hire like a church hall or something like normal people - why do they need a whole house??

Thank you so much! I was being made out to be the villain in this and the consensus here speaks volumes.

Me and my mates spent a weekend in a caravan on a site once when we were 15.u it was ace!! Wouldn't want my daughter doing it though!

Could be the other mum has only "agreed" to it because she knows it's not going to happen. Property owners are (understandably) very picky about who they rent their house out to. There's generally "No stag/hen weekends permitted" on the ads you see, can't imagine anyone will be welcoming a crowd of teenagers with welcome arms. Unless they have a burning desire to get a picture of themselves standing cross-armed in front of their trashed house in the Daily Mail.

It would be a very expensive party. On top of the obvious costs for the holiday house, you'll have to pay for the alcohol and then the damage done by the drunk teenangers.

YANBU

This is a reasonable proposition from your daughter if she and her friends are paying for the whole thing themselves + damage (assuming that at 15 they have found well paying jobs outside the home) and if the owners of house are happy to rent the house out to 16 year olds for a party.

So basically it might just be feasible in an alternative reality involving flying pigs.

YANBU, no way would I allow this. I might just book her a centerparcs villa for her 21st!

"That's a lovely idea sweetheart. How do you propose to pay for it?"

That should stop the idea in it's tracks

A bunch of 16 yr Olds won't be able to rent a house on the open market-it'll only happen if it is AC relative lending them it or a stupid adult puts in the booking.

My response would be...um, let me think about it and you gather more information.

Thinks that I've had to"think about"in this easy re dd1 have fizzled our as I hoped they would!

Most holiday rentals contracts specify "no parties" (as we found out when trying to find somewhere we could invite all our friends for a get together while we were visiting the UK).

Don't be so negative about her proposal. Turn it into a positive. That's the golden rule of parenting, right?

So, something along the lines of, 'of course you can darling. You can do it either over my dead body or when hell freezes over.'

Simple!

This would be madness. We have just about finished clearing up after my daughter had 'a few friends' over on Saturday night when we went out for a meal. We came back to 30+ people and 2 policemen at our house. Total breakages amounting to about £140.

Or an even better positive

Oh darling, great auntie Mildred, both sets of grandparents and other aunties and uncles will be so pleased to be there. What a lovely idea to spend your savings on a party for your families. I'll call them now

madness. don't let her do it.

I wouldn't be too sure that the other girl's Mum has agreed either - I've lost count of the number of times DD's friends are being allowed to do something, only to run into the friends' Mums and finding out that actually no they're not! Helps that am friends with a number of DD's friends Mums though!

If she can find a property owner prepared to rent her a property then she can do it. No? Oh no, because they will want to rent it to an adult.

No

That is a complete sentence.

Hahahaha

No.

Just, no.

As Downton says: "it's a complete sentence"

But laughing at them as you say it is funny.