Selfish whinarsery

[solidgoldbrass]

I am being a selfish whinyarse. Or at least I want to be one and feel like one, so I want to whine here.

One of my friends is dying of cancer. And now I have a 'suspicious' lump in my nork. I am very frightened, but I think I am probably much more frightened because my friend has terminal cancer and therefore I am worrying that I have it too, and because she is so ill I can't whine at mutual friends because they are already worried enough about my friend. So can I please whine on here and have some hand-holding?

I've only just seen this SGB. So sorry about your friend, and I do hope all is ok with you. I am sure it will be. But can understand how you feel, of course.

Not whiney, understandable and frightening.

Fwiw I had these 18 months ago. The ladies on the tamoxifen thread on here were soooo brilliant and understanding and helped me through the horrible 'waiting for the appointment' bit. Mine was nothing I am happy to say but those ladies were the best virtual friends I could have hoped or wished for. I'd recommend a visit.

And good luck.

Should also have added that my duh has just had testicular cancer. Incredibly rapidly dealt with and happily requiring no further treatment than observation. During the time he was ill I was convinced that I was seriously ill too the Macmillan nurse told me that it is normal and that your awareness is heightened due to (in your case) your friend being ill. Hope this us true for you too.

Thinking about you SGB...x

Another hand here SGB. xx

Sgb I am sorry about your friend. It's not me me me to be terrified. I found a lump about four months ago and was scared. Very scared. Mine turned out to be a lymph node that they want to leave for six months and see if there are any changes in that time. I check it almost every day and it hasn't changed but I am always aware. Hand holding and fingers crossed its one of the many types of lumps and bumps that aren't anything serious.

Definitely not whiney. I can't think that anyone wouldn't be terrified.
You are being rational, not unreasonable. If my hand will help, it's there for the holding.

Thanks all. Hospital appointment is Thursday morning so not long to wait now. I am trying to keep busy and occupied and not plan my funeral and snivel to myself brood.

You're really not being a selfish whinyarse at all.
I'm so sorry.

Sorry about your friend. Best of luck for thursday.

You're not being selfish at all. My Mum was first diagnosed with recurrent breast cancer 20 years ago and is still fighting with a smile on her wonderful face, so here's another supportive hand for you.

If it helps at all, if they were really worried they probably would have rushed you in more quickly, so hopefully that's a good sign. Catching it early these days is a great thing to do and even if it is bad news, it's not the end of everything yet so try not to worry xx

Here, have one of these from me: I know you'd expect nothing less

Much love to you, I'm sure you'll be ok. Everything crossed for you.

What's a nork?

tit

not you, Panda

Not being selfish or whiney at all. I had pains in my left breast recently and plucked up courage to go to the doctor who had a poke around and said it was muscle pain (disclaimer, I am muscle free). But I was very worried.

I also had a recall from my first breast screening because of a suspicious shadow but it turned out to be a fold of fat

I felt like Munch's Scream after my recall, and bizarrely wanted to sleep all the time.

Hand hold for Thursday, and sorry about your friend.

sgb, you are aware that referrals for breast lumps are always massively quick, don't you ?

just in case you were under the impression that it meant there was anything sinister in how promptly you are being followed up

aren't you

Aw SGB ofcourse you're not being UR, you're worried - whine away!

sorry about your friend.

Thanks anyfucker

Not selfish at all. I'm currently waiting for test results - it's for something very serious but I am unlikely to have it, if that makes sense. I hate it. Hospitals/doctors/any medical setting freak me out too. My mind is in overdrive - what if? etc. Hope you find out what the deal is soon, and that everything is fine.

I'm so sorry about your friend SGB

I'm not very good with words so have a manly punch on the shoulder and one of those hugs where you slap each other on the back slightly awkwardly x

good luck to you too, Bertie

Not whiney or arsy at all! Let it all out, that is what we are here for.

When confronted with this in your life it's only natural that it brings up all kinds of fears.

For what it's worth, I'm 57 and both my last breast and cervical tests were o.k.
(Not that I've had nothing to contend with in life!)

Keep thinking I'm going to fall off my perch any time!! It just reminds me to enjoy life NOW! TODAY!

((SGB)) if you have any hands left to hold, am around all day (your night assuming you're uk) for some earlyhoursohshit support.

Breast lump referrals are always hugely fast (the NHS does a few things right!) so don't read anything into how fast you're being seen. Eat well, sleep as well as you can and while you're supporting your friend, don't forget to be good to yourself too. If you can.

Oh poo.