To think that a man who abandoned his pregnant wife and children and went to live in another country, leaving them with no means of support, has no right to get on his high horse about "Govt Handouts"

[Inertia]

On FB (I know, I know).

Relative of mine has become Mr Republican Party, banging on about how he supports himself and other people shouldn't expect government handouts.

It's easy to support yourself when you've fucked off to another country leaving your pregnant wife, your children, your debts, the mortgage on the new house you insisted on moving to; it's easy to pay your own way when you regularly fail to send any maintenance payments. Working not an option for her though, with childcare costs far exceeding what she could earn.

Luckily we still have (just about) a support system in place to make sure that the children he dumped don't starve, and both sides of the family are able to offer some practical and financial support. But how fucking dare he begrudge support to families in exactly the same position as his own children!

See, this is why my ex thinks my family and friends think he's a decent guy and I'm the one who causes the shit. Cause no one ever pulls him up on his shocking behaviour (apart from me) everyone is still his Facebook friend etc etc it dosent stop everyone telling me what a massive shit they think he is. Don't tell me, tell him ffs. So yes tell him he's a Dick.

"I know a woman who survives on handouts from the state. Her dh disappeared and pays nothing towards his kids'. He lives near you now I think, and it's interesting as his kids have the same names as yours and his name's very similar to yours too. Oh! It is you!"

Please call him on it, he is in deep denial and this is the only way. His other friends in his new life may have no idea what a hypocrite he is.

I posted a response . And now I seem to have broken FB because I can't make it reload to see what he's said.

Reloaded but he's ignoring me...

good on you :0

As someone said, if you post it as a comment on a status where lots of people have already commented they will get it as an email...

Well done inertia

Ooh x-posts!

Yay

Good. Hope his new friends and new girlfriend if he's got one see it.

New wife SoftKitty, which seems to have exacerbated the situation. Posting the details would out me completely, but she is behind a lot of the withholding maintenance.

Good for you, OP!

Oh, we'll done!

that would be well done

I was going to ask what kind of woman marries someone who'd do that to his ex wife and kids, but she sounds as bad as him . My ex left me while I was pregnant and doesn't see my DS or pay maintenance. Unfortunately there's a lot of them about .

I bet he'll just delete it all!

Well done for saying something.

Good for you!

I hope he'd had a lot of comments before you posted so they all get the email with your comment

What exactly did you say?

Save a screen capture. Then you can always upload it again for people to see, if he has a hissy fit before deleting. And more importantly, you can share it with your poor ex-relativeIL

Sorry your D-whoever is such a waste of oxygen. That's always tough. Good on you for not sinking into comfortable denial, which seems to happen depressingly often.

Ooh good for you!! What did you say?