To make DH sleep on the sofa

[igsisgreenngold]

Am just so tired and fed up. DH needs to leave the house at eight to get to work. He can dress quickly and often gets up at ten to eight. He sets his alarm for five past seven every day, and then snoozes while it goes off every four minutes until he finally gets up. I am wide awake from the first time it goes off. We have argued over and over about this. He has made a change - he used to set it for ten to seven.
I am on ML with baby who is bf and wakes between two and five times a night. I do all the wakenings. I can't lie in after he goes to work as I have Ds to get up and do school run with. Every minute of sleep is precious to me, and I'm so angry I "waste" 40 mins of sleep each morning.
AIBU to ask him to sleep on the sofa till he changes this habit, or am I being petty?

I think you have a point there, snooze buttons were only invented in the 80s, it may have been a key factor in the decline in productivity of the Western world!

Morning OP. Any luck with 'D'H?

I had missed yesterday that your baby was actually IN THE SAME ROOM when he's hitting snooze. This makes me feel a bit killy. I suspect he may resent your 'lie in' and wants to make sure you're up as he's up.

If this is the case, may I suggest a trip to B&Q to purchase a shovel, rope and concrete

What time do you need to get up, I would guess before 7.50 to get the baby and dc ready for the school run?

Hello, my what a murderous turn the thread has taken! Well I'm parking the shovel for a day or two till I see how this pans out. Had the "talk" last night, strangely found I could be more calm and rational due to having moaned/bitched about him all morning on MN! He says he really wants to be up a lot earlier, and that I can take charge of the alarm clock. So this led this morning to him rising at 7.30, and me setting the alarm fo 7.15 on my side of bed (unfortunately also baby side). So, I pressed snooze only about 3 times and he got up. Then I got up at 7.45. Viewed this as a great success, until I realised I had only actually added 10 mins to my sleep time, pah!

MrsTerryschocolateorange, can I ask which brand of alarm clock you have with an adjustable snooze time (so I can buy one!)

I do appreciate the time you have all taken to reply, and for thinking I am (mostly) reasonable. And very sorry for all the snorers' partners, no advice (except to send them to the doctors) but lots of sympath.

Glad to hear its going in the right direction OP. My ability to turn small niggles into a full on row after sleep deprivation is quite amazing!

My husband is not yet under the patio

I will check. I'm in Canada so may not be available in the UK. Shovels are universal, however

take hammer to bed with you if he does it again smash up the alarm with hammer.

bollocks youve sorted it out, ive been desperate for years for anybody else to pull the smash alarm up trick in 1988 i did it to my brother as every mornign his very very loud clock used to go off at 5.30am he never got up untill i made him at about 7 but his clock was so loud it used to wake me up even being in a different room.

since 88 hes called me the hammer attacker as apparently nobody else would ever be so extream.

Why don't you go to bed 40 minutes earlier?

You sound trying.

tinkertonk she does 2-5 night waking every night which her DH does NONE of. Then he repeatedly wakes her in the morning. DC can't help waking her, DH can. He is trying, not her.

How mean tinkertit.

wonders how many night feeds tinkertit does

wonders if tinkertits thinks before posting

Gets up at ten to eight and leaves for work at eight. Two minutes to clean his teeth, about the same for a shit and to get dressed. Does he actually shower or was before he leaves for work?

was - doh. wash.

Red maybe he saves his shit for work.

That way, you get paid to shit.

"He has a bath at night"
Eww. Does he not know how much people sweat at night. Thank god he drives and he doesn't inflict it on other commuters!

My OH does exactly the same thing except alarm at 6, get up at 6:50 then panic, turn on all the lights and wake the baby (who is currently waking every hour). But he is sympathetic and supportive about my lack of sleep! I tried the one snooze then it goes off thing. He just sleeps in and panics even more pluses I don't go back to sleep anyway because I'm worried he won't wake up.

Sapphire my DH too has a bath/shower at night at gets up and goes in 10 mins. He is not sweaty or smelly!

I am old enough to remember when (as a child) I just got a weekly bath! And that was probably in the water my siblings had used

We did the same thing again this morning, although I'm still annoyed that I'm holding the alarm clock it does mean that I know its beeping is for a finite time only. Not perfect, but a big improvement thanks to all your advice!

I will keep an ear out to establish when the bowel relieving takes place, I have never noticed.

I know I'm late to the party with this but my alarm clock is the Sony Dream Machine. You can get a 10, 20, 30, 60, 90 minute snooze.

Oh thank you, sounds ideal. Will google. It's dh's birthday soon, think it would be a nice present for him?!

Who on earth would want a 90 minute snooze though? (Maybe my baby)

hmmm tricky what ive done in the past is set a very loud alarm on the other side of the room AND left my hairbrush on the floor AND slept in the other room with the baby the fallout is funny (but i was the only one on the house so he couldn't tell ME to leave it was my house!)

YABU and selfish.

My advice would be to get up when the first alarm goes off, get DH his breakfast and morning coffee, do his packed lunch for work and wave him off to work at 8am.

That's surely better than wasting 40 minutes!

Uh huh, Wonga. How completely non-goady of you :)

He is being selfish. You really do need your sleep after being woken 5 times a night with baby. I would keep changing the clock alarm time when he is asleep to 7.45. Do it every day if necessary. Failing that move the alarm clock downstairs with him.