I am a single parent in a new relationship. I have had a couple of bad relationships in the past and for the first time I have met someone who is kind, generous, respectful, mature - and I love him. He ticks every single box.
Anyway, a couple of weeks ago he asked if I could get a babysitter so he could take me away for the Friday night until Saturday. I asked my mum - she agreed.
I said "are you sure it's ok?" she said "yes, definitely, I'm glad you've found someone and really hope it works for you! definitely I'll look after the kids."
So - a few days before I call and say "still ok for Friday?" she says "yep! still fine!" I say "are you sure? because he's booking it today so you need to tell me now otherwise" and she said "no it's definitely fine!" so I tell him he's ok to book - he pays upfront. I tell her he's booked it. Low and behold, the DAY BEFORE we're due to go she calls and says "don't want you to be mad or think I've done this on purpose but I can't have the kids on Friday, I don't feel up to it" !!!!!
It's like she deliberately waited until the worst time possible to do that - when it was all booked and paid for and too late to arrange another babysitter.
I was seething.
Anyway as it happened, I managed to find another sitter. For that reason, I probably got over it quicker than I normally would have.
So, this Friday coming he's taking me to see a band and we're staying over. I asked my mum weeks ago about this and she said it was definitely all ok for the kids to stay there. I said "are you sure? because I don't want to happen what happened last time" and she said "oh no, it's definitely ok this time, I was just feeling off last time".
So we book everything. We also book a breakfast thing as my mum said it was fine to come back at 12pm on the saturday.
She called this morning and said "you'll have to pick the kids up at 9am Saturday morning now as we want to go shopping" !!! It's a two hour drive meaning we'll have to set off at 7am after a night of music and drinks and obviously we can say goodbye to the money we've spent on booking the breakfast now!! why the fuck say its ok to do it if it isn't?? I swear she's trying to fuck this up for me. Part of me thinks she doesn't want it to work out. When she split with my dad she went on a marathon of dating - one crap bloke after another and eventually settled with one she didn't like all that much because she preferred it to being alone. And THIS is why she hates the thought of my relationship working out.
So, up to now it's just the Saturday morning cocked up. He is going to be really happy at having to drive at 7am after a boozy night isn't he. I know it comes with the territory of having kids but if she'd said ORIGINALLY that she couldn't do it, I wouldn't have been bothered. It's the messing me about and making me look unreliable that is pissing me off. I can guarantee she'll pull out all together by Friday so I'm looking for alternative babysitters already.
I know the solution is to stop asking her to help but AIBU to be pissed off that she acts like this?