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To be annoyed that taxi ranks don't let families in first.

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LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 11:39

More like a rant really, sorry if it was covered before.

When we came back from holiday with the Eurostar, we went to the taxi rank. I had DC3 on the sling on my front (4 months), a backpack on my back and the babybag on the side, while holding the hands of DC1 and 2 (aged 2 and 4). DH had 2 large suitcases, a backpack and bag. I told DH we will go to the front immediately because priority is given to families and seriously with all our baggage you could tell we were not taking the piss.

When we got there, there were the paralympic guides helping people get into the taxis, when she turned to us and asked : 'Oh sorry, who came first'. There were these Carrie Bradshaw-like fashionistas to go in front of us. I told the guide that we just came in, but usually families with babies usually go first. She told me she never heard of that, and that unless we were disabled or something..........
Then one of the fashionistas took a look at all our baggage and said it's fine we can go, at which her friend said : 'Oh no, are you sure?'. Eventually we were let in, but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become?

In France, there are signs all over main taxi ranks, that you let the pregnant, disabled, families with babies and tots, etc. go in before. We even naturally get called to the front by the usher as we arrive.
I realised that people in london are less keen, one day we did that, and some guy rushed to the taxi to go in front of us, and the taxi driver turned him away and told him : 'don't you see those people need more help?'.

Even before I was pregnant and had kids, I always left the lift, seats etc. to the mums and elders, so all this behaviour surprises me.

OP posts:
LadyBeagleEyes · 10/09/2012 13:26

When your juggling all those kids, your life is just not the same as when you could go get shit faced with your work bosses and make buddies with them to get that promotion
What on earth has that got to do with taxi ranks?
I don't think Op is a troll BTW, i just think she's a bit odd.
And I'm not going to report because the thread is hilarious Grin

Chubfuddler · 10/09/2012 13:27

Just think, one of those fashionistas could have been pregnant.

This thread is bonkers. Bankers, fashionistas, disabilities, France is better than the UK. it's got everything.

imonthefone · 10/09/2012 13:27

no one carries their pregnancy notes around with them so they can flash them and skip queues Hmm

you are not pregnant anyway

good point by someone up thread-what if the 'devoted follower of fashion' (i looked it up Grin was on her way home after a long business trip to see her family/kids?

Actually what if she was PREGNANT with morning sickness?? Youd never know

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 13:27

Look, it's perfectly simple. You just need to apply for the British Special Person pass. They send you a little sparkly sticker.

imonthefone · 10/09/2012 13:28

ephiny I just started to think the same....

are you ok OP?

DawnOfTheDee · 10/09/2012 13:28

I've come up with a points system. Whoever tots up the most points gets to go first.

Babies - 20 points for a newborn, 19 for a 1 month old, and so on up to the age of 1.

1 year old = 8 points
2 year old = 7 points
and so on up to 8 year old = 1 point.

If you have 2 dc you get an extra 5 points.
3 dc = 10 points

DH not with you = 5 points

Pregnant = 10 points for 9 months pg, 9 points for 8 months and so on.
Add 5 extra points for any additional pregnancy related conditions such as spd, chronic morning sickness, etc. However, you must have a doctor's note with you to prove this.

Same with disabilities - doctor's note required but you can get up to a maximum of 30 points.

Elderly - 1 point for being 65 then 1 additional point for each additional year of age. There will be a fitness test at the rank too and depending on how many jumping jacks you can do a point will be deducted for each.

I can't see it not working quite frankly. Grin

EarnestDullard · 10/09/2012 13:29

I don't understand why being a family makes you less able to stand. Disabled, elderly, heavily pregnant; sure, those things might make standing in a long queue difficult or uncomfortable. But not having children with you. I know children can get a bit antsy if they have to wait, but most families accept that that's just, well, tough. You put them in a pushchair or pick them up if they can't stand still. And you put your cases down on the ground. Maybe it's a bit of a faff but it certainly doesn't entitle you to the same treatment as disabled or elderly people imo.

Gigondas · 10/09/2012 13:29

I am now more sympathetic as the op has the burden of carrying her entitlement plus chips on
Her shoulder about the carefree lives of
The childless fashionista or shitfaced
Worker . There is no way she could queue with that plus her kids etc

Scholes34 · 10/09/2012 13:30

Anyone waiting for a taxi wants to get somewhere fast. You've an option to pre-book if you know what time you're arriving at the airport/station. We Brits queue very well and very fairly, and it's at the discretion of the person in front of you whether you can make your way up the queue. Some people will be kind and let you through, others not so, but you don't know their reasons for not letting you through and it's not your business to know. Quite simply, they got there first.

Don't write off the entire nation because you weren't allowed to the front of the queue. There are lots of small acts of kindness take place daily, giving up seats on the tube, letting people ahead of you in the supermarket queue because they have fewer items, etc.

Waiting for an overnight Greyhound-type bus about 20 years ago to go from Toronto to New York, as soon as the bus arrived, so did an armed guard to ensure no-one queue jumped. I don't think that armed guard would have taken kindly to your trying to push in, OP.

dysfunctionalme · 10/09/2012 13:30

I was amazed you had the courage to think this, nevermind post it, then I remembered that when you arrive in NZ, there is a special fast lane at immigration for families. And I have been hugely grateful for this lovely lane when travelling with young children. So you are not alone in your thinking, but somehow I think you're fighting a losing battle in here.

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 13:30

Madbuslady - how do I apply? I want a sparkly sticker!

FrankWippery · 10/09/2012 13:30

Hahahahahahahahaha. You what?

Purple2012 · 10/09/2012 13:31

You sound very entitled op. Why should you get priority? Your choice to have kids. Just deal with it.

imonthefone · 10/09/2012 13:31

See dawn i agree newborn= most points, but from 6months IMO points should drop off, then more points for toddlers...my babies were easy peasy up to about 1 year old. I think 1-2.5 year olds deserve more points than maybe 4-12 months....Grin

ChestyNut · 10/09/2012 13:32
Hmm

You really are being rather ridiculous!

Having children does not give you VIP privelages.

Queue like everyone else and if you can't cope with queuing with children I suggest you give the holidays a miss Angry

expatinscotland · 10/09/2012 13:32

How about booking a taxi in advance next time? Just use your phone while in the train.

YABU.

blackpoollights · 10/09/2012 13:32

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Northernlurkerisbackatwork · 10/09/2012 13:32

'When you are disabled, you get that parking ticket from the NHS even when your disability is not very clear.

Pregnancy and having babies is not a disability ofcourse, but can women stop making as if all is great, when you are dying with nausea and are so slow you feel like your walking through sand? '

Ahh yes - curse those people with their disabled badges when they have LEGS that work. Hmm

OP - I defy anybody to feel crapper than me when I was pregnant. Sick, unable to eat and with my pelvis falling apart. It passes. It goes away. Disability doesn't.

Get a grip.

flibbertigibbert · 10/09/2012 13:33

YABVU - for all you know one of the Carrie Bradshaw types could have had a bad back and been desperate to get in a taxi.

imonthefone · 10/09/2012 13:33

Actually, it has just occured to me that when I was in India, there were 'women only queues'. Is that still the case?

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 13:33

I'm quite pregnant and have a toddler

We both are "less able" to stand on bumpy, turney busses/trains because both of us are less balanced than a non pregnant able adult

We both need the toilet NOW sometimes

But OP please explain why we are less able to stand at the taxi rank?

coolerking · 10/09/2012 13:33

Littleturtle, we know, its a parenting website, the majority of people on it are parents. I have three children myself, 5 and 2yo twins and I wouldn't ask this. I don't need to get into a cab first, yes its easier but not neccessary. Why couldn't you wait? If you are heavily pregnant its different, no argument with that but you aren't pregnant and you are mixing up two issues.

I have chosen to have children its not someone elses issue but mine to manage. If someone helps me, lets me go first, I smile and say thank you. If they don't its their choice. I've not chosen to go abroad with mine as I didn't want to try to manage mine at an airport /. train station because I think it would be hard work. Next year we will go abroad, they will be older and it should be easier.

Yes, life changes when you have children, not sure what going to get shit faced with your boss has to do with this thread?

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 13:33

Works in coffee shops, supermarkets, ticket queues two minutes before a train is due to arrive, everything. Just waltz in and tell them it's how they do it in France, you'll have no problem!

Bue · 10/09/2012 13:33

This thread is the highlight of my day so far.

DawnOfTheDee · 10/09/2012 13:34

iamonthefone

Welcome to the taxi rank priority points system committee. Have you brought biscuits? I'll make you a Brew

Grin