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To be annoyed that taxi ranks don't let families in first.

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LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 11:39

More like a rant really, sorry if it was covered before.

When we came back from holiday with the Eurostar, we went to the taxi rank. I had DC3 on the sling on my front (4 months), a backpack on my back and the babybag on the side, while holding the hands of DC1 and 2 (aged 2 and 4). DH had 2 large suitcases, a backpack and bag. I told DH we will go to the front immediately because priority is given to families and seriously with all our baggage you could tell we were not taking the piss.

When we got there, there were the paralympic guides helping people get into the taxis, when she turned to us and asked : 'Oh sorry, who came first'. There were these Carrie Bradshaw-like fashionistas to go in front of us. I told the guide that we just came in, but usually families with babies usually go first. She told me she never heard of that, and that unless we were disabled or something..........
Then one of the fashionistas took a look at all our baggage and said it's fine we can go, at which her friend said : 'Oh no, are you sure?'. Eventually we were let in, but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become?

In France, there are signs all over main taxi ranks, that you let the pregnant, disabled, families with babies and tots, etc. go in before. We even naturally get called to the front by the usher as we arrive.
I realised that people in london are less keen, one day we did that, and some guy rushed to the taxi to go in front of us, and the taxi driver turned him away and told him : 'don't you see those people need more help?'.

Even before I was pregnant and had kids, I always left the lift, seats etc. to the mums and elders, so all this behaviour surprises me.

OP posts:
imonthefone · 10/09/2012 13:17

OP IF you were with 3 kids and lots of luggage on your own then it would be a different matter-maybe Confused

why on earth do you think you 'need help' or are 'less able to stand' when with your OH and kids??????

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 13:18

I stood for 30 mins in the queue at WhSmith at Stansted when a woman tried to queue jump to buy a paper, saying she must go first as she had a plane to catch, ffs

Grin I must try that one. OP, when you do your blatantly entitled and unempathetic queue-jumping taxi thing do you say, "I have to go first, I have to get home as I don't live here!"

Trills · 10/09/2012 13:18

She had a plane to catch? In an airport? How unusual!

Hammy02 · 10/09/2012 13:19

I don't see what difference the number of kids or parents makes? They just have to stand.

margerykemp · 10/09/2012 13:19

British society is quite anti family and anti children compared to other cultues

It was all that thatcherism of 'children as an individual choice' like a ferrari rather than a valuable asset to society

purplehouse · 10/09/2012 13:19

OP, that's just not how it works. I would never have expected to jump a taxi queue when my children were small.

It was your choice to have children, the holiday and method of transport was also your choice. Personally, I did not choose to go on hoilday until my youngest was 2 because I knew it would be hard work, particularly in situations like the one you have described.

We recently flew abroad. We were unable to book our seats online (website problem) and when we got to the airport, I was seated with my DS and then 9 rows back from us, DH was seated with DD. I wouldn't have dreamt of complaining!

I would point out that the UK is a much more densely populated country than France and we often have to queue but people are mostly good mannered about it. Take some reponsbility for yourself and your family and do not expect other people such as fashionistas to make way for you as though you are royalty.

BartiiMus · 10/09/2012 13:20

I did find it funny one day in H&M in Paris. The downstairs bit is the maternity section. 3 pregnant women were queueing to buy clothes and a fourth came along and walked straight to the front saying that she was pregnant and therefore a priority Hmm Shock Confused

Same thing happened a different day and the only reason I didn't complain was because she also had a toddler who kept trying to bolt.

atacareercrossroads · 10/09/2012 13:20

Oh what a surprise I've had a message deleted for saying exactly the same as others that still stand

Glad to see that the issue of discrepancy on the deletion policy was sorted

LittleTurtle · 10/09/2012 13:20

It's usually longer than that when when you come out of a full train. And with that much baggage it feels even longer.

I would have even said more if it were a couple of male bankers, so it was not about women with the fashionistas.

I have seen people let a pregnat woman go ahead in the queue in her firs few months because she was about to throw up, she just showed them her pregnancy book (the white and blue book they give you at the hospital).

When you are disabled, you get that parking ticket from the NHS even when your disability is not very clear.

Pregnancy and having babies is not a disability ofcourse, but can women stop making as if all is great, when you are dying with nausea and are so slow you feel like your walking through sand?

When your juggling all those kids, your life is just not the same as when you could go get shit faced with your work bosses and make buddies with them to get that promotion.

OP posts:
Kayano · 10/09/2012 13:20

My bad lol

imonthefone · 10/09/2012 13:21

There may be other reasons OP is ushered away out the side/back of bus/train stations?? Grin

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 10/09/2012 13:21

Dear God, are you mad posting this in AIBU.....

esp when you are being so bloody U!!!

but I could not help but say to my husband, one of the fashionistas look great on the outside, but just cold on the inside. What kind of inconsiderate society have we become? - I dont know about inconsiderate but definately a judgemental society if your attitude is anything to go by.

So by your thinking, when I have had a long day at work and I get off the train and wait for a taxi so I can get home to my DS should I just let families go in front of me and I'll just queue for hours???

You are seriously nuts if you think that is how it works. And those fashionistas were very kind to let you go in front, I bloody wouldnt have done. How exactly did you need help?? You just wanted to get home and didnt want to wait in other words!

littleducks · 10/09/2012 13:21

Really???

My recent experience of France was a complete disregard for any kind of queue. In fact when our train to the airport for flight home was cancelled I had to send dh round to prospective taxi drivers with the sob story and offering to pay extra.....definitely no sign promoting us to the front of the queue, the only sign said taxi rank (which seemed to be being ignored by the line if private cars!!)

honeytea · 10/09/2012 13:22

Thank your lucky stars you don't live in Stockholm, people push me and my 7 month pregnant bump out of the way on a daily basis to get a seat on the metro.

Sirzy · 10/09/2012 13:22

Only repeating what has been said but I am yet to see a sensible reason why you can't stand in a queue like everyone else? Why is your trip more important simply because you have children with you?

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 10/09/2012 13:23

But OP, you are neither pregnant or disabled so why exactly should you go to the front??

MadBusLady · 10/09/2012 13:23

It's usually longer than that when when you come out of a full train. And with that much baggage it feels even longer.

Oh well, why didn't you say so? Obviously everybody else experiences the taxi-queueing process as a timeslip lasting a millisecond.

Toughasoldboots · 10/09/2012 13:23

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Inneedofbrandy · 10/09/2012 13:24

This must be a joke... Really...

Having children does not make you special.

LackingNameChangeInspiration · 10/09/2012 13:24

what the heck is the OP on about now?

are you now saying you were pregnant as well?

who the hell carries their maternity notes around town every day?

TudorJess · 10/09/2012 13:24

YABU to have such an entitled attitude. There will be many people with unseen disabilities or who are not feeling well, or perhaps they've just got back from the IVF clinic, visiting a sick relative or a funeral. I've been tutted at and nearly walked into when I was in pain and had to travel home, but my medical problem wasn't visible to others.

ViviPru · 10/09/2012 13:24

YABU

Ephiny · 10/09/2012 13:25

But what has pregnancy got to do with it (or are you pregnant, OP?), that's not what we're discussing, surely?

You sound very resentful of people without children, and how you imagine their lives to be ('fashionistas', promotions etc), is this really about you not enjoying motherhood and struggling with the restrictions it puts on you?

cakeismysaviour · 10/09/2012 13:25

OP, you are being very very unreasonable.

You chose to have children, you cannot expect the word to revolve around you.

I have a baby and am heavily pregnant and I don't expect nor need any special treatment in these situations.

You are going to have to learn to plan ahead a bit better and book taxis if you are unable to wait in queues with your children.

ExitPursuedByABear · 10/09/2012 13:25

I think you need to reassess your travel arrangements in the future as you seem unable to cope with your family.