dh suggested hanging up a painting BILS exwife painted

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We cannot quite agree.

I think it would be a faux pas.

It is not even very nice.

But it is original art work.

However, BILs new girlfriend is pregnant, and I really think it is not the right time to display any paintings BILs artist exwife painted.

I KNOW I am not BU.

He then suggested we give it to Bil and his gf for housewarming, but that would be even worse. I dont think he was serious, though.

The only problem there for me is the fact it's not a very nice painting.

Otherwise I wouldn't see a problem and don't see why his new girlfriend would either?

Unless of course it's a life sized nude painting of her...then she would be quite justified, especially in her pregnant condition

It is not a life size nude. The painting is freaking me out. Bils ex has munchausen syndrome, and various other mental health issues, and have spent considerable amount of time "institutionalized". But she is very nice! The painting is very gloomy.... I could not possibly hang it.

But I do think that Bil would be very snubbed. He left her the marital home, and all their assets when he left.

May we see a picture?

No. It looks like birds beaks floating in grey matter and darkness.

Bathroom? Dark narrow hallway?

Hen house?

Does your DH like it?

God no, not if it's crap.

And do you mean bil would feel snubbed if you didn't hang it?

Are you in touch with bils ex?

No.
Not more than the painted leather stretch picture of a farm we got from his mate.

;Sigh;

I think BIL would be horrified if we hung a painting painted by his ex!

How often is your BIL round?

Could you put it up when he's round then have something with a bit more cheer when he's not?

erm, only if we wanted to really put him off balance!!

We are clearing out the shed, and found the painting.

My instinct would be to give it to a charity shop.

Oh, I don't think I've followed what you're saying

You don't like it, your DH doesn't like it and your BIL would be horrified if you put it up - is that right?

where is the pressure coming from to hang this painting in your home ?

I don't quite understand

Not just me then AF

It is dh, he suggested we either hang it up, or regift it to BIL and his pregnant girlfriend.

Men.

So... a) you don't like it and it won't be 'decoration' b) it doesn't have happy memories because it's both associated with your BIL's hurt and the painter's poor mental health and c) she's not famous/it's not an important piece in the history of art.

I see no reason to give it house room.

I have hung one of DH's SIL's pictures (they all look the same) and we only have two, between the toilet cistern and the shoe rack in the utility room. That guarantees DH looks at it a couple of times a day . It's also classy and indicates a certain chic as I have a friend who has a Picasso I call it her Pissaco in the same place

So DH thinks that you should put up a painting that you dislike and would upset your BIL? Erm, no. Send it to the charilty shop.

Oh it's only an etching by the way.

You could try ebaying it?

You can't regift to your BIL and his pregnant DP, surely your DH might think that she wouldn't want to look at a painting by his ex? I think it needs to have a little accident.

Oh crap, you accidentally donated it.

If she is his ex why have you suddenly been given a painting by her? If you've had it for years and never hung it up now seems an odd time to plan to do so. I'd just hang on to it but not hang it. Does she have kids you can give it to?

Just seen you found it in shed. If no nephews etc I'd give to charity shop if you never intend to hang it.