to do a straw poll?

[newmummytobe79]

Alcohol at DC's daytime birthday party?

Not a piss up - just a few sociable drinks (will provide beer/wine and know some friends plan to bring a bottle anyway!)

1. Flat out no

1. Yes a couple didn't do anyone any harm

1. An absolute must (for parents and friends without kids who probably would rather not be there!)

1. Having mimosas for the adults at ds's 2nd b'day. I see it as a party for the adults as well as the kids.

2

2/3

2
if it's the sort of party where adults will have somewhere to sit about and chatter.

DF does for summer parties in her garden.
Glasses of wine would be out of place helping little DCs on the bouncy slide or with a craft.

Adult nibbles and tea and coffee are a 3 absolutely essential. You need caffeine and sugar to survive kids parties. I'm always driving and a small wine is not enough to dull the pain.

1,some will be diving the kids home.

3
3
3
3

fizzy wine and food and preferably a young and very dashing magician who will do tricks with the women when the kids show is finished.

2

Always had wine for mums when back in the day I still had birthday parties.
Curious too on the people saying 1.
Why?

I'd say

1

Having said that I've been to birthday parties where the adults have been given a small token glass of wine after a cup of tea/coffee which was quite nice, but I don't think alcohol has any place at a children's birthday party if I'm honest.

1,some will be diving the kids home.

Then presumably those people wouldn't drink it?

3

Those driving shouldn't drink!

2 if not 3! I firmly believe that you can have a good time without alcohol and I intend to make that obvious to my kids. However I also think it's important to model sensible behaviour for children. I don't really drink, but DP does. If our son sees DP & our friends having a drink or two at a gathering, no big deal, not getting drunk or anything like that, I think it can only be a good thing.

(We live in NL where you can legally buy beer, whether in a pub or supermarket, from 16 onwards.)

1. But if there are a lot of people without kids there then 3.

2 or 3

Oh possibly an important point: we live in the middle of a big city and nobody drives here.

Depends on the age. At first or second then a must (as much as alcohol is ever a must), it's a celebration for you more than them! But as the party becomes more about them then I would tend towards a little won't hurt, but hardly a necessity. Once they hit 5 or 6 then I think its a bit off to have alcohol at a kids party, but parents aren't likely to be staying then.

1

Depends on you and friends. One glass of something is fine (unless you're driving of course). If there's anyone who'd go beyond that - no.

Why are people saying 1? You don't want the craic, so no-one else can have it?

Surely if people don't want to drink then they abstain, and let the good times roll for those that want three one.

Loving the idea it should be 1 because some people might need to drive.

I am being overly facetious, just in case it isn't blindingly obvious but, newsflash, it is possible to have a glass of wine without the sky falling on your head.

3 most definitely. If I knew it was a 1 beforehand I would be pretty sure to refuse your invitation very graciously.

I suppose for me I just don't feel the need to punctuate every social event with alcohol.

I'm an adult. I like a drink. Sometimes I like to get a bit pissed.

But I do think it's a bit tacky at a children's birthday party.

The focus should be the child whose party it is and the safety/enjoyment of the children. I just don't see the need to have alcohol there.

Of course, I think it's important that children can see alcohol being enjoyed sensibly in a social situation by adults who are drinking responsibly and sensibly. But there are plenty of opportunities for that, and a children's birthday party doesn't need to be part of it.

2 or 3... they are adults, they are capable of deciding whether or not they want to drink, so some will, some wont..