To think 24 hours does not mean 18 hours?

[annabanana84]

Dp lived in this home for a year before I did. He's always had a tempuous relationship with the landlady and her husband. Basically, they don't do as much as they should, and Dp is very rude and mildly arrogant to them. In return the landlady can be patronising and sarcastic. I, however, since moving in have got on ok with the landlady/lord and tried to be the one in contact with them to keep things calm between them and dp. We can't move out as contract is two years.

They have just put a new bath in which is great, but the landlady wrote not to use it for 24 hours. We were out at wrk when they put it in, but they probably did it about 10am. I have an idea thy are returning tomorrow to finish off some bits and pieces.

Dp said he is having a bath before he goes to work in the morning at 4am, but I said he can't use it for 24 hours, and if landlady comes round in morning and sees shower has been used, it may well flare up their mutual resentment again. I said to Dp that we should text her and ask if it would be ok to have a shower before work in the morning, but he started swearing and said he's not asking her if he can have a fcking shower! I'm thinking of texting her thanking her for having the bath put in and asking if it'd be ok if we had a shower before we went to work in the morning. I hate living here very much lately :(

House sounds ok. LLs sound ok. Your DP on the other hand ....

If he uses it too soon, the sealant may not have set properly, and will end up separating and causing gaps, which means that it won't be water proof.

His reaction to you - swearing at you - is horrible - is he usually like this to you?

Hmm... DP doesn't sound too nice...

YANBU to think that if something needs to be left for 24 hours then you should check how strict the 24 hours is and not just assume that it will be fine.

Do you hate living there because of the landlords or because of your DP?

Baths have to be unsused for 24 hours to let the sealant set.

Your Dp sounds like he likes a bit of aggro..... I'd watch out if I were you.

The landlady/lord sound quite reasonable... your DP sounds nasty

Your DP sounds like an ass. And acts like a child.

Text the LL.

And then leave the bastard.

Yy re sealant.

Is your (D)P trying to sabotage what relationship he has with the landlord/lady??

What kind of bell end deliberately undermines improvements made for their benefit?

If I was the LL I wouldn't want to do any work to the place knowing my tenant wanted to damage it.

Exactly as the others have said, the sealant needs the 24 hours to set, otherwise he will break it and leave a gap.

Tell him to stop being stupid, because if he does damage it then no doubt he will be charged for it.

Does he think they have said it to spite him or to be controlling or something?

Can you try to find a replacement? Either tenant for the LL or DP for yourself.

I would say that having/not having a bath is the least of your worries.

Text the landlady and ask if it is ok to have a shower as this wont put as much weight waterwise in the bath.

Your DP is being a tit. And it's you that will have to deal with the LL when your bath leaks. Which it will. Because it takes 24 hours for the sealant to set.

So, if the bath leaks will DP get stroppy with the LL? Can you see where this is going? I think I'd be looking for alternative accommodation and leaving DP to his two year contract.

Can't he just have a stand-up wash at the washbasin? It is only for one day, after all.

Your dp is a nobber.

I thinkENormaSnob has put it most succinctly.

Does he have any redeeming features, OP? He sounds awful. Does he have a golden willy or a platinum credit card with no limit that he lets you go and play with or a wit that has you laughing till you wet yourself? If not, get rid, but stay in the flat with your lovely new bath.

Your do sounds like a nob.

Your oh is an arse hole. Waves red flags

Get out of that relationship while you still can, your dp's a dickhead. He's the type who'd make problems with a saint.

Yes LTB for swearing about the bath... Clearly he's abusive and is going to demean and verbally assault you until you are a mere shell of the woman you once were

Just tell him to remove the chip from his shoulder as far as the landlady is concerned and stay out of the fucking bath until the 24 hours are up. The landlady doesn't necessarily sound reasonable, we had a landlord that was an absolute knobhead and only fixed the sealant around the bath when I threatened to take him to small claims court because the dripping was damaging my sofa. So I don't see a landlord fixing problems as 'making improvements for their tenant's benefit'.

Even considering that argument, Desperately, it's now fixed.
The tenant by his very actions is likely to damage that repair.

That's not acceptable.

Is this a joke? Is your DP in fact your tantrum-prone DS aged 3? Sorry OP but he sounds like a lunatic

If the sealant leaks she'll know that you didn't wait the 24 hours and will probably expect you to pay for it to be resealed. Up to you whether you think its worth the risk.