to make my ds sell some of his toys for punishment/ lesson learning.

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ds1 is 6, alomost 7. has pire for breaking my mobiles. this morning, some time before 6 and 7 he had unplugged my samsung galaxy s3 phone from its charger, and dropped it in the toilet whilst playing a game on it.

it is pin protected but must have watched and remebered the pin. he has been told numerouse times not to touch my phone, espp as it is a pricey one. i have thankfully insured it and i am able to claim on my insurance via my bank. but with a £50 access fee. i have told him after school he is going to to choose some toys to sell to make up £25 worth of the fee. ( he has no other way of getting money , his piggy bank consists of £2.4 in pennys lol)

i was so so SO angry this morning and this was the best i could come up with. along with no xbox for a month and having to phone nanny and grandad and tell them what he did (he hates them to know the naughty stuff he does)

i know it was an accideant, but he is 7 in november and has been told not to touch it. but now iv cooled down a bit im starting to think iv gone a bit ott.. i guess this is a aiubn aswell as a wwyd.

WHEN I SAY PRIRE FOR BREKAING PHONES.. HE WAS UNDER THE AGE OF 4. SO COULDNT REALLY BE HELD RESPONABLE.

I don't suppose you could charge your new phone in your room or will he go in there and get it?

I don't see why he shouldn't help to pay for it's replacement.

I think you should punish him for not doing as he was told then move on. I think you're right that selling stuff is ott, but totally understand why you'd be pissed off! If he does it again though teddy gets it!

Actually I think you're being pretty reasonable. It will be a good lesson for him. (Stores idea in memory for future use. )

I can see why you were angry but I do think you've gone a bit OTT.

You've given him 3 punishments for what was essentially an accident. I think an apology, and no xbox is more than enough to be honest. At 6 he is too young to really understand how expensive it is.

At that age, I'd get him to do extra chores around the house to 'earn' the money towards the phone.

I don't really think it's fair to make him sell his own things, though. That will just upset him and seem unfair. By making him work to earn the money, every time he complains, you can remind him why he is doing it and tell him that this is why you are so upset because it's hard work earning the money to buy things.

I get where you're coming from (I threatened to take money from my dd's bank account to pay a parking fine if she made us late once!) but yes, it is OTT.

I think you should explain to him why you are so angry and how much your phone is worth in language that he'll understand ie all the food we eat for a month or 100 magazines then inform him what the consequences will be if he messes around with it again.

The whole sorting out toys and trying to flog them will drag it all out too much.

Hmm, yes, just thinking further. Perhaps give him back the x-box and don't make him call his grandparents.

I think the selling the toys is good though, or perhaps making him donate them to charity (especially if like most kids he's got loads that he doesn't play with anymore, that he won't mind so much getting rid of). While 6 is young, I don't think it's too young to instill a sense of the value of things.

I think if he does that, it will be lesson well learned.

it was charged in my room right by my bed acctually.

i forgot to mention that he didnt actually tell me he had dropped it. i can still call out on it but the sound is funny and the camera is buggered.

sorry to drip feed.

I actually think this is a far better punishment than banning the xbox (which isn't related in any way to what happened) and making him phone his grandparents? What is that going to achieve? Other than to humiliate him.

Make him earn the money to pay for the phone and leave it at that.

YABU. He is six.

Have you given him any punishments before for breaking your phone? If you have tried other methods of teaching him your phone is not to be touched and they have failed, then maybe YANBU. But if you have just let it go with a bit of a telling off in the past then YABU.

This time he sounds like he did it by accident. Do you sometimes let him play with your phone? If so, you are sending mixed messages and you only have yourself to blame.

I would agree with glen. I think 6 is a weeny bit young to appreciate the 'selling of toys against the value of the phone' point of it. It will be the fact that the toys are gone that will sting and you can do that by just taking them away for a while. ie: xbox. then you wont have to replace the toys by buying them again in the future when you've calmed down

I think you have gone a bit OTT as well. One of the punishments would be ok but 3 is a bit much. Also find the concept of having to phone your parents to tell them what he did a bit strange.

Dropping it down the loo was an accident- but he had been told not to touch it- and he took it without asking. I would be punishing for that, a not for the breaking. And actually, I think selling something of his to help pay is a perfectly reasonable punishment.

Have you tried burying bit in a box of rice, by the way? Take the battery out if you haven't and try. They sometimes come back to life if you do that.

Its a phone...he is your son...he is 7, to me the obvious answer is to remind him that the phone is not for him to play with, and then ban him from computer for a week. Selling his stuff will just scar him.

Yabu. You've obviously let him have a go at some point or he'd have no idea how it works. You shouldn't let DC near these stupidly expensive phones. He's 6 which is still small.

hmm it seems i have gone ott on the punishments.
i think i will stick with the selling of 3 toys (3 i knwo that he doesnt really play with anyway) if it doesnt come to £25, so be it but i think its a lessoin well learnt.

i will take away the xbox ban.
the reson behind the calling of grnadparents. is becasue he is very hardwilled and just doesnt listen to what he can and cant do. were going through a very hard patch where normall things liek tiem out, sweet restriction wall charts are not working. this is the only thing that seems to stick in his head.

oh and no i used to let him on old phones

he has tried to get hold of this phone phone befroe and been told off/ privlages taken of him for it. as for knowing how to work it. hes not stupied and it easy to see what a game looks liek by the icon.

So he had been told not to touch it. Repeatedly. But he took it from his mum's room, used the code which he must have acquired sneakily, broke it and didn't tell her.

And people think that's OK? Or at least worth no more than a "reminder"?

I mustn't let my kids read this thread, they'd be asking to be adopted by you lot!

numbertaker - you may be right about selling stuff scarring him. When you read the threads on here about people who are hoarders, many of them say they hoard stuff as they had their toys taken off them when they were younger.

Perhaps once he's sold the toys (or again, better yet give them to charity!) you can get him to call his grandparents and say that, while he disobeyed you and broke your phone, he was a big boy and helped you pay for a new one? Bit of positive reinforcement and he gets some praise from his GP's.

I think you're going way over the top with the punishment bit OP. Selling his stuff? really? that's cruel. No xbox for a "month" blimey.

I can understand you being rather cross. Did you dish out the punishments when you were still angry?

I learned never to do this.

I get the calling of the GPs OP. If that's what works then do that.

I got to the end of my tether once, in the school holls, with my 3 DCs under 7 fighting and arguing, and out of sheer frustration grabbed the TV remote (nearer than the phone) and pretended to ring the 'school police' on it to book them into classes instead of being home! Their faces! It worked

crackerjack. - i liek this idea. letting him phone them and telling them he is being responably. v positive spin! i will be using that.

and clippedphonex. i did dish it whilst i was still angry. i will talk after school and explain iw as very angry and went a bit to far. will take back the xbox ban.

YABU for buying shitsung galaxy maybe he dropped it down on purpose