to make my ds sell some of his toys for punishment/ lesson learning.

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ds1 is 6, alomost 7. has pire for breaking my mobiles. this morning, some time before 6 and 7 he had unplugged my samsung galaxy s3 phone from its charger, and dropped it in the toilet whilst playing a game on it.

it is pin protected but must have watched and remebered the pin. he has been told numerouse times not to touch my phone, espp as it is a pricey one. i have thankfully insured it and i am able to claim on my insurance via my bank. but with a £50 access fee. i have told him after school he is going to to choose some toys to sell to make up £25 worth of the fee. ( he has no other way of getting money , his piggy bank consists of £2.4 in pennys lol)

i was so so SO angry this morning and this was the best i could come up with. along with no xbox for a month and having to phone nanny and grandad and tell them what he did (he hates them to know the naughty stuff he does)

i know it was an accideant, but he is 7 in november and has been told not to touch it. but now iv cooled down a bit im starting to think iv gone a bit ott.. i guess this is a aiubn aswell as a wwyd.

no he really did memorize it! probperly from when weve been sitting on the sofa together.

i put a pin on it after he had got hold of it before.

I would take it out of his pocket or birthday money, rather than make him sell his toys. That's a step too far.

he doesnt get pocket money. he gets to h ave 10p a day if he been good so he can go to the penny sweet shop (its an old school one.. very cute) on a sat to buy sweets with.

i dont see the differeance between taking it from his birthday money then to his toys though..

thats just punishing him with out him knowing. bit pointless really?

Shove it somewhere warm in a bag of rice.

What seeker said again! one day I will get to a thread first and post before she does!
Naughty little boy. I think stop now with the punishments though OP.

I think the selling toys to replace your phone is an excellent idea, much more relevant than calling grandparents or loss of xbox. He should be learning to respect other people's property and this is a good way to make that happen.

And the punishment needs to be now not waiting til he has birthday money.

Dislike selling his toys tbh, think there's something vindictive about it. Re him knowing the pin no showing premeditation-really? I'd say most kids absorb pins they see being used. ..
Ringing grandparents to embarrass him again feels nasty to me. ..
Think I'd prob go with banning TV, x box or whatever. ..

Fucking hell, he took her phone from her room and dropped it down the toilet after repeated warnings!

The number of post on MN about kids stealing food from cupboards and everyone goes OTT about it, first sign of real stealing and suitable punishment and people are talking about going soft on him

And no telly or xbox is punishment for cheek in this house,I'd do exactly what the OP has done (except for the ringing granny bit, I think that was slightly over egging the pudding, but we're all experts after the event.) He needs to learn a lesson and I bet he won't do it again!

kinky, sounds like you have got it right, judging by your DS's reaction. Hope it has the desired effect

TBF he might do it again or he might do something else that he has yet to be caught for....seen as he's only 6 and a child. Personally, I'd rather my DC learnt some self control, empathy and ultimately limit inappropriate behaviour themselves. I was brought up like this as my parents wanted me to think for myself. I stole a rubber from a corner shop about the same age. My mum took me back to the shop and paid for it - the lesson being we don't steal things, we pay or ask to borrow them. I never stole again as I felt that it was a wrong thing to do. I turned out normal, fine etc my brother is equally a well rounded person. Some parents do use this methods described above, it doesn't make them soft it makes them different from you.

LOL your selling his toys to teach him a lesson, YOU paid for the toys.

just to update. i have made £25 from just two of his toys.

though ds1 is still adamant he wants to sell the other two to get as much money to cover. mm i may just sell them and keep the money for him.

Seeker makes sense

I think you've done the right thing OP.

Be harsh when necessary then you don't need to dish out other punishments for further bad behaviour because as you've said, it's nipped in the bud. Occasional pushing the boundaries need occasional further punishment reminders but it stops the constant lower level punishments that occur after a child does not improve behaviour.

One harsh punishment is better for you and the child than numerous constant moaning and small punishments that don't work anyway.

i just don't get the whole thing of letting young kids have lots of gadgets and battery operated/electrical stuff. keep all your own things out of reach, set the boundaries and make them play with lego and other real kid toys. bit harsh to make him sell a toy he- may not understand, will only think you are being mean and get angry and then you'll get frustrated and then.......gads children are hard work!

He is 7, not 17 months, of course he understands, credit children with the intelligence they deserve.

But yes, kids ARE hard work

As a primary school teacher - 7 is QUITE old enough to know not to touch things he's not allowed to. Most of the nursery kids at our school are reliable when it comes to not touching things they shouldn't, let alone a Year 3 child!

So yes - punishment. I'd be absolutely furious, and make a big enough point this time that he never does it again. So yes to the grandparents and the x-box (perhaps no x-box until you've got a replacement phone would be fairest, i.e. no fun for him while none for you!). Then I'd go for chores to 'earn' the money rather than selling his toys. He'll resent you for the toy thing, but the chores will be handy, more long-term and will make the point.

Oops missed your update. Sounds like he understands perfectly - well done him! Here's to him never touching your phone again!!!