To think, looking at the state of me right now that it really MUST be all downhill after 40? And to ask for you over 40s to cheer me up?

[NCForNow]

Im 40 tomorrow....I have an infected burn on my arm, a boil on my neck and a sore infected looking throat.

I think the boil is due to stress.

My face looks white and tired and we have no plans to do anything special as we're short of money due to DH's hours being cut and a number of my clients not paying me.

I DO have a lovely necklace on the way from DH but it's not going to be here on time and DH is grumpy.

He's grumpy because he's not got extra to treat me by taking me out or something.

I could cry. I feel like shit and I look like shit too. Is it because I;m 40 or because it's just bad luck?

Just bad luck.

Bloody hell, I am 47 and certainly woudn't think it was because if my age if I felt rubbish.

I just feel that something "Special" must happen to you...you suddenly become prone to more illnesses...

Anyway, you decide if I have gone downhill , there are pics on my profile.

Bad luck. I have had some lovely lovely moments being 40. At the moment 'tis also quite shitty here for jobs/money reasons too. Here, have a

Meh, just bad luck. Im 43 and I look great
We all look a bit shite when we're not feeling well though. Take some time out and relax tomorrow, dh can cook you a nice meal, you can have a nice bubble bath whilst you're waiting. You don't have to have lots of money to have a nice day.
Happy birthday for tomorrow.

Thanks for the encouragement. Lovely MIL has sent me some vouchers so will go and buy makeup and things.

Bella you KNOW you don't look 47 you bugger.

It is bad luck. I did a half marathon on the weekend - I was really chuffed with my time, but I was absolutely thrashed by loads of women well into their 40s, and some in their 50s and 60s too. There is absolutely no need to resign yourself to declining health and wellbeing; you are still a mere slip of a thing. You're just feeling low because you're ill, and it's your birthday tomorrow and no-one should be ill on their birthday. I'm sorry you're feeling low; big birthdays can be hard. I hope you feel better soon.

Ouch, your poor arm. No wonder you feel miserable.

It's bad luck. Why don't you spend a nice evening planning something you'd love to do when you've got the money, so you have something to look forward to? You don't HAVE to have a birthday treat on your birthday - you can save it for later!

I'm 40 next year and I'm quite looking forward to it. Instead of people looking at me and thinking, "She's only in her thirties? OMG!" they'll be thinking, "Ooh, she's not bad for a bird in her forties." At last I'll have an excuse for my wrinkles and grey hairs and flabby bits!

EmmaBemma my Mum says the effort you put into your fitness in your 40s and 50s is what sees you through in your 70s and 80s.

Anon Yes...good plan. I will do that and have a bottle of wine or two.

Aww its just a crappy coincidence that your feeling shite happened around your 40th birthday. I turned 40 in June and have never felt or looked better. Hope you feel better soon and Happy Birthday for tomorrow.

P.S. Happy birthday for tomorrow!

Pat lucky you! I looked a damn sight better when I was 20! Thank you Anon.

yes, happy birthday for tomorrow. Which has reminded me, I have had a birthday since my last name change....

NC I was frazzled raising a large family in my 20s and 30s and I looked knackered all the time, just before I turned 40 I decided it was time for me again and started looking after myself better :)

taa daa!

Happy Birthday for tomorrow. BTW do I "know" you? I take it from your name you have name changed.

Get yourself pampered, you will feel whole loads better x

I am 43 and I don't care if I don't look as good as I did when I was younger because I feel much more confident about how I look since reaching my 40's.
I am loving my 40's as I think I know myself so much better now and am not so bothered about what others think of me anymore. I can dance without being self conscious! It is very liberating. Embrace your 40's and have a very Happy Birthday tomorrow. Hope you feel better soon too.

Happy Birthday for tomorrow!

Someone very kindly told me just before my 40th this year that once you hit 40 it's like jumping of a cliff - needless to say that he got a swift kick in the shins!

I had a shit time when I was 40. Felt really crap about everything for about a year. But after thinsg just got better and better and I'm 45 now, and its still improving!

Thats life. Ups and downs. A pedicure always makes me feel better. And a gin and tonic.

I feel and look better since I turned 40.

Even with lack of sleep due to baby who arrived 4 months after my 40th.

I have to disagree - i think life DOES begin at 40! Im nearly 43 and ive never been happier. I have stopped worrying about being a perfect shape (its not gonna happen!!) I am far more content with what i have and who I am. Got rid of a cheating husband, found a job i love and put myself first. its not just about one day, its about the rest of your life.

It gets better x