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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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in wanting to know if DH has got this job?

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40notTrendy · 05/09/2012 19:39

Job situation for DH has been uncertain for a long time. 2 redundancies in 3 years, and current contract is due to finish at the end of this month. He's been job hunting and getting interviews, well, it seems like forever and now we are waiting to find out if he's got a job from an interview he attended on Tuesday.

Every time I promise myself I won't raise my hopes, but however hard I try I always seem to harbour more hope than I realise and it gets to this time of day and we haven't heard anything and I want to WEEP with disappointment.

They were interviewing yesterday and today, and said they'd let him know today or tomorrow. In teaching, you find out on the day. This job is for a university, admin role. AIBU in expecting a decision today, or can I still hope?

FWIW, he thought it went well. I think I might cry.

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MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 05/09/2012 19:45

I work in HR in a Uni, and no, it can sometimes take a couple of days for the panel to reach a decision, chase for references, argue salaries with HR, etc etc. Fingers crossed for him!

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40notTrendy · 05/09/2012 19:48

Thank you, a glimmer then?!

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MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 05/09/2012 19:53

Yup, definitely still a glimmer - after all, they haven't called and said a definite 'no' have they?

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40notTrendy · 05/09/2012 19:57

No, but..... (I tell DS off for using that phrase )
we always seem to get an email or letter the second day of 'we'll let you know on....'
Just fed up with the rollercoaster of finding jobs I guess. Really matters this time too, money getting exceptionally tight. Think a might be in order to stop my brain racing a bit

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Alibabaandthe40nappies · 05/09/2012 19:58

Sympathies - we are waiting to hear on a contract that DH pitched for last week. He knows it went well, the proposals are with finance and we are just hoping that it gets sign off.

I wouldn't give up hope in your situation, these things can take longer than you might imagine!

MrsReiver · 05/09/2012 20:03

No news is good news! DH waited a week to hear that he'd got his dream job, having been told by the interviewers that they wanted to move quickly and would let him know asap. He was completely depressed and convinced he was going to get a rejection letter, but then they rang and made him an offer!

So yes, there's still a chance. I have everything crossed for you - that "in limbo" feeling is awful.

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40notTrendy · 05/09/2012 20:06

It is MrsReiver.
DH also spirals into despair when he doesn't hear, it's hard work trying to keep him positive, well, realistic, whilst wanting to wail myself!

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MamaMumrOrangeTheGolden · 05/09/2012 20:13

I know what a roller coaster it all is, you end up investing so much in each interview. Don't despair, no news is good news! Good luck to you and your DH.

41notTrendy · 05/09/2012 20:21

Thanks

Naoko · 05/09/2012 20:36

Absolutely still a chance, DP got offered a job last week we'd given up all hope on. It'd been nearly two weeks, it was an internal vacancy, we hadn't heard a peep out of them except someone new started in the team that had the vacancy about a week after the interview so we assumed that was the person who got it, and they were just being shit and not letting the unsuccessful candidates know. Turned out the new starter was doing a different job entirely and they were just slow. DP starts in a week and a half. :o

AuntAlexandra · 05/09/2012 20:40

Fingers crossed for your DH, OP.
DS has been waiting almost 2 weeks after a 2nd interview. Maybe we'll both get good news.

41notTrendy · 05/09/2012 20:41

You are all being very comforting. Glad your DH got sorted Naoko. Will keep the hope going (very discreetly )

MrsReiver · 06/09/2012 13:18

Any news? Got fingers and toes crossed here!

41notTrendy · 06/09/2012 15:48

Nothing yet
He's emailed the lady who interviewed him but nothing yet. Losing positivity...

Paiviaso · 06/09/2012 16:00

I work at a university. It took them a week to get back to me after my interview and offer me the job.

I think it's a bit inappropriate to be emailing them about it only two days after the interview.

41notTrendy · 06/09/2012 17:34

I doubt he would have emailed unless they'd said they would let him know one way or another by today.
Personally, I think interviews are a huge personal investment and the least an organisation can do is what they said they'd do!
Although I'm jaded, fed up and increasingly skint so my view is slightly skewed

MrsReiver · 06/09/2012 19:43

As long as he's not heard bad news, try to keep positive. I don't think an email was inappropriate, they will understand that people are anxious to hear.

MrsReiver · 06/09/2012 19:44

Have you aged a year since you started this thread btw?

1stMrsF · 06/09/2012 20:39

God it is miserable isn't it? Disclaimer now: I can't promise to make you feel better but I do empathise. DH is in a similar situation. DTs are now 3 and he was only worked for half of their lives (benefits of being at home, bonding with them etc. I am not disputing) He was made redundant when I was pg, I took voluntary redundancy at the end of my mat leave, he worked 2 contracts then 9m unemployed then took perm job, let go again after 6m (no money this time as still in prob period) and now unemployed since June. I have started to look for work myself although we hoped I could SAH until they were at school, but I'm finding I've been out for long enough now that it's pretty hard. DH had 3rd round interview recently and heard nothing for 2 week (he had left mesages asking for feedback). Had been told was only and favored candidate. Finally, Friday 4.50pm I said it was not at all unreasonable to call them again so he did and they said no. Apology for delay in informing him was just because they'd 'been busy' that week. People are just appalling. Hope you hear soon :(

Themumsnot · 06/09/2012 20:42

I feel for you and your DH. I've had four interviews in the past few months and missed out on the job every time. It is such a rollercoaster, although at least with teaching jobs the preparation is time consuming and stressful as it is a whole day thing usually, but they tell you your fate the same day so there is not the nailbiting wait of other professions.

Waswondering · 06/09/2012 20:45

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Lambzig · 06/09/2012 21:02

I know exactly how you feel.

DH first went for an interview for a job he really really wanted in April. they got him back four times to meet more people, more discussions about the role and the time lag between each was huge (as he had to see the MD each time) and each time he had given up.

He finally signed the contract this week and starts in Dec.

Hope yours happens a bit quicker.

41notTrendy · 06/09/2012 21:45

MrsReiver, was on a thread last night about being 40, and realised I'm not anymore
1stMrsF, we are in an almost identical situation. Crap innit?
Thank you all for sharing your nail biting stories, wouldn't wish it on anyone!

41notTrendy · 07/09/2012 16:31

Update, DH rang today and was told 'we're not making a decision yet'
Not sure what that means! Not a no though...

ZiaMaria · 07/09/2012 16:43

It proabably means they are trying to decide betwen two or three very good candidates (and having huge arguments about it all). That your DH has not been rejected outright is a good think and he should take some comfort from that.

Fingers crossed for you both.

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