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to be a bit bored/tired of Facebook?

47 replies

GinGirl · 04/09/2012 14:32

TBH it is mostly the boasting (not even stealthily) by 'friends' that gets up my nose.

I know I have been guilty of it in the past but the whole 'thanks for another lovely day x,y and z' just to make the point that you've spent the day together somewhere lovely is grating slightly. Not helped that in the last year I was dropped unceremoniously by a group of friends and they are all over that site with their comments and photos...

No one ever seems to say (unlike on here) 'things are really tough/I'm struggling. And my friends from days BC are still always drunk!

WIBU to seriously cull the lot of them, to keep it to family and v close friends for photo sharing.

And most importantly, what would you say if someone asked you in real life why you had got rid of them on fb?

I can't decide whether I'm being reasonable or turning into a grumpy old mare in my 20s!

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Paiviaso · 04/09/2012 15:16

YANBU.

I loved Facebook when I was at university. It was still university only then (you could only view your university's content), and it was great for organising social stuff, getting involved in activism, tracking down people in your classes, and finding out who was single. The quality of the content was higher, because it all was relevant to me.

Now, Facebook is a different place, and I find its just full boast status updates, minute details of everyone's day, and pictures of food. I get seriously annoyed when I scroll down my "feed." I am so tempted to delete, but don't, since I don't live in the same country as the majority of my Friends-list and I would be cutting myself off.

janelikesjam · 04/09/2012 15:32

I don't have Facebook for all the above reasons.

It is good though I guess as a way for people to be able to keep in touch with you (though what if you don't want them to? Hmm)

PS. if someone asks you, you could just say you didn't have time for it in your busy, exciting life Grin. I know someone who really did give it up for that reason.

RuleBritannia · 04/09/2012 15:36

I join ed Facebook to see what 'friends' had posted thereon. It was interesting and I'd put a comment here and there but it became 'I bought some trousers today' and I'm not really interested. Reminded me of people on buses with mobile phones "I'm just at H bus stop so should be there in x minutes"

I look now and again but post very rarely. I never put any information about myself. If I want people to know something, I'll e-mail otherwise I'm telling the world.

Mintyy · 04/09/2012 15:39

Facebook is a place for boasting and being smug. If you are sensitive to other people doing this then leave well alone!

Ithinkitsjustme · 04/09/2012 15:48

I live on fb, but have 2 accounts. I use one for actually communicating with friends and the other for chatting to complete strangers about politics etc. I don't think I have ever posted anything on my wall, Grin. YANBU to be bored, but you would be unreasonable if you expected everyone to agree with you.

NameGames · 04/09/2012 15:53

YABU. That's not a problem with facebook, it's a problem with the people you've friended on facebook. Find yourself some nicer friends.

Jenny70 · 04/09/2012 16:21

Agree with NameGames, and either unfriend those you don't wish to see on fb, or you can block their updates, so you can still go to their page and see their news (Or brags), but they don't automatically feed to you.

Of course just blocking their updates means they still see yours, so they don't know they're blocked.

But I agree, after a time it is boring to hear endless updates on people (even family) about stuff that really isn't important.

NinaHeart · 04/09/2012 16:26

Agree with lots of this.
My own bugbear is photographs of baby scans or ladies showing off the size of their pregnancy bump. I just do not want to know. I suspect this might make me a bit unreasonable, but so be it!

everlong · 04/09/2012 16:30

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squoosh · 04/09/2012 16:47

Facebook encourages people to tell the world about the most inane shite.

No thanks I don't want to see a photo of what you cooked for dinner tonight.
No thanks I don't want to see a photo of your kid dressed up as a fairy.
No thanks I don't want to read your hilariously ironic post about Rick Astley/insert random 80's celeb here.

I block news updates from a lot of people.

I would delete my page but it would be just my luck to do that on the day someone actually posted something scandalous and interesting!

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GinGirl · 04/09/2012 17:43

Oh okay, not the only one, and not being as unreasonable as I thought.

May do a bit of a cull, or just stop logging in - that would solve the problem!

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JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 04/09/2012 17:44

I only use it for game play - I don't actually talk to people !!!!!

NettOlympicSuperstar · 04/09/2012 17:48

I am the worst food photo poster on FB, but then I think/hope my FB friends know that cooking is what I enjoy.
I post inane crap all day too, again they accept or don't, and are free to hide/delete me.
I post as I wish, and expect others to do the same.

YANBU though, but if you're not enjoying it, don't use it.

StepAwayFromTheORANGECakes · 04/09/2012 18:06

I would post asking all your 'friends' to reply if they really desperately want to stay as a friend, that you are cutting back on numbers to just closest so that you can photo share and unless they are really bothered will be cutting everyone who does not reply, no bad feelings on anyone just a numbers game.

LindyHemming · 04/09/2012 18:26

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LesleyPumpshaft · 04/09/2012 18:35

I only really use it to message DF who live abroad and friends who live far away. I also like to post random crap.

I recently had a clear of F/B friends, tbh I never actually liked them much when I lived in the same town as them, so fuck knows why I decided to add them on F/B.

I get annoyed by the baby scan/bump and endless baby pics. The updates that say things like I love my boyfriend/husband/kids etc also bug me. You're meant to lovethem, so why do you need to say it on Fecalbook? but then I am a grumpy old woman

Binkyridesagain · 04/09/2012 18:41

I'm thinking of a cull- 'family' because they're not they are only blood relations, anyone who thinks Christian grey is the ideal man, anyone who knows someone who knows someone who knows someone that faced a dragon and lived and anyone who post vomit inducing crap!
Stuff it I think I'm going to delete the whole account!

cornflower123 · 04/09/2012 18:45

I need to start culling. Fed up with all the food posts. Anyone to starts their posts with 'Oh my!!!!' in a 50 SOG manner is also to be culled.

valiumredhead · 04/09/2012 18:47

I'm very close to deleting my account - tired of it all tbh and I only have good friends and family!

everlong · 04/09/2012 18:55

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WoodlandHills · 04/09/2012 18:57

YANBU yes that So and So has been so and so cool place with X Y and Z friend having such a laugh and you weren't invited ha ha ha status really grates on me too

But worst of all I am sometimes guilty of it myself, I have a nice day with friends and I can't resist bragging about it on FB or loving it if one of the people that I was with tags me in a post like it Blush and :(

Its cos people want to look popular. Me included

SilkInsideAChestnutShell · 04/09/2012 18:58

I've had a big old cull and it's much better! Don't want to leave completely as I like seeing some photos, and some friends give very good facebook.

Off to cull some more now actually, but my dilemma is groups of friends. What if there are two or three who you never really see/like but they are friends with people who you want to keep on your friends list. Feels v petty and schoolgirly to delete some but not all. Sod it, will keep who I like and cull the rest.

LesleyPumpshaft · 04/09/2012 19:06

What if there are two or three who you never really see/like but they are friends with people who you want to keep on your friends list.

It's never stopped me. Life's too short to suffer fools.

HalleLouja · 04/09/2012 19:21

I have started the cull. Am culling groups as well as people.

This holidays have been awful with the everyone trying to out do each other on trips out.

SilkInsideAChestnutShell · 04/09/2012 19:26

I'm down to 90ish from 150ish. Can probably name about three of these (one foxy ex shag buddy, two ex colleagues), which says a lot.
Could cull some family but would piss my mum off (could just delete her too!) and some make me laugh without meaning to.