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AIBU?

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to not fancy my OH when he takes his beard off?

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whiskyfudge · 04/09/2012 00:00

I can't help it. He had a beard when we met and I fancied f* out of him. I'm all about the hairy men. He's a good looking guy, but when he shaves he's just not as good looking. AIBU?

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VisionaryGoat · 04/09/2012 10:14

DH has this thing about being clean shaven most of the year, but during the winter he grows a beard to keep his face warm. I don't care which he has, as fortunately for him he has the sort of face which looks fine furry, stubby or clean shaven.

Though he does get a bit lazy with the upkeep and ends up looking like Yukon Cornelius at times if I don't keep prodding him to trim the beard before a bird nests in it.

My ex otoh looked 100x more attractive with his beard, and really quite weaselly and weak-chinned without it. I went right off him when he shaved it off on a whim once and begged him to grow it back... so YANBU.

LunaticFringe · 04/09/2012 10:30

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Ithinkitsjustme · 04/09/2012 10:47

Each to their own, but I hate stubble, beards or any facial hair at all! Yuk!

nancy75 · 04/09/2012 10:53

Op yanbu, my dp looks odd without his beard, it's like being with the wrong person.
When I was young my dad always had a big beard, he shaved it off when I was about 3 or 4, I wouldn't go near him and cried to my mum that I wanted my other dad back!

Ithinkitsjustme · 04/09/2012 10:54

I've just seen a post about beard hats, they are really cool, but I can't post teh link. Google them!

SooticaTheWitchesCat · 04/09/2012 11:19

I don't like beards. My DH grew one once and it just didn't look like him! I was so happy when he shaved it off again and thankful it only lasted a few weeks.

SneakyBiscuitEater · 04/09/2012 11:22

I think YABU to not fancy him but YANBU to fancy him less. For me its all about the moustache. DH currently has a full beard which I love and we have an unwritten rule that he can do what he likes with the beard but has to keep the moustache for kissing and sexy time.

He can get rid of it altogether if he likes but then I ask him to shave twice a day as I hate scratchy sharp stubble.

We have both had very long and very short head hair and found each other attractive at both ends of that spectrum (his pony tail is now gone and my grade 7 bleached buzz cut it now mousey and waist length) but for me a moustache on DH is not just physically attractive but soft and comfortable.

On a side note another one here with a bearded DDad I was very pleased that although chemo thinned his head hair his beard and moustache remained intact - phew.

FarloWearsAGoldRibbon · 04/09/2012 11:28

I threatened to knit DH one of these and make him wear it to bed if he didn't grow it back straight away. I just couldn't get used to the change in the shape of his face having never seen him without it. Thankfully he grew it straight back .

WopBopALooBop · 04/09/2012 11:43

YANBU I'm the same!

skyrocketsinflight · 04/09/2012 14:09

I hate it when DP shaves and prefers it to be trims, he prefers to be clean shaving but is just lazy.

He shaves when he goes to see him mum as she moans if he hasn't, For some reason this really annoys me.

He had a goatee when i first met him, I liked it alot, he was 17 thou. He shaved and left a goatee recently it did not look good, it was promptly removed.

I dont mind moustaches either, but he only growns one for movember, I think its a lemmy this year. The tom selleck wasn't the best i prefered the handle bar.

DontstepontheMomeRaths · 04/09/2012 14:22

Yes my ExH had a weak chin and really looked far better with his beard. I'd never seen him without one and once we had joked about shaving it off and he did. He truly did not look as nice. Incidentally my Dad also has a beard.

I find beard's pretty easy on my face whilst kissing but stubble rubs me raw and gives me a red chin.

But I do not mind if a bloke has a beard or not really, as long as he looks neat. No ZZ top beards please

MooseLooseAbootThisHoose · 04/09/2012 14:26

Yanbu. I love beards.

My ex has one and everytime I see him without it I'm 'meh' then when he grows it back I'm all 'phwoar'

MooseLooseAbootThisHoose · 04/09/2012 14:27

Ooo and my dad has always had a beard.

greenhill · 04/09/2012 14:30

"when he takes his beard off" OP does it have hooks to tuck behind his ears like a Father Christmas cotton wool one?

I too was frightened, as a child, when my DF answered the door after shaving his beard off when we'd gone out. I cried for hours.

When Saddam Hussein was discoved in his bolt hole I told my DF to shave his off pronto as they could have been twins!

magicstar1 · 04/09/2012 14:35

DH has one because I talked him into growing a one when we started going out.

I've actually done the same with previous exes...love a goatee!

kweggie · 04/09/2012 14:37

My husband shaves his beard off once a year every Boxing Day. He hates his beard but he is so busy working the rest of the year he does not get time to have a shave.Personally I think it makes him look rather distinctive.
All the best,
Mrs S. Claus

BaronVonAwesome · 04/09/2012 14:38

YANBU, my DP is so handsome with a beard and moustache. Without it, not so much. He has a really weak chin and NEEDS the beard.

camdancer · 04/09/2012 14:48

My mum has never seen my dad without a beard. She has told him it is grounds for divorce if he ever shaves it off. They've been married for 40 years. It would just be too much of a shock if he shaved it off.

My DH sometimes lets his beard grow but it goes ginger, which really doesn't go well with salt and pepper hair, so he tends to shave it off after a couple of weeks.

LittleSugaPlum · 04/09/2012 15:14

Im not a fan of beards at all. DH shaves every other day.

My stepdad has a goatee. Hes a redhead and as hes in his early 50s, it is half grey and half ginger!

When i got married two months ago and step father was giving me away, i made him shave it off! I told him there was no way he was having that goatee on my wedding pictures!

My mum wasnt happy as she makes him have a goatee, but he did shave it off for the wedding!

Spuddybean · 04/09/2012 15:34

I love a beard. All 3 of my significant others have had beards and glasses. Which incidentally so did my dad when i was growing up. Dad worked outside a lot so would grow one in the winter and shave in the summer. Every spring he would just walk in the room beardless and i would cry. I remember him tickling my tummy with his beard. All very Electra complex.

I love dp to 'give me a good bearding' which is basically rubbing it over the back of my neck and nipples .

Bartusmaeus · 04/09/2012 15:44

My dad has a beard. He once shaved it off and my mum refused to kiss him until he grew it back.

When I was little apparently I beamed happily at all men with beards but didn't trust men without

DH is clean-shaven which is good cos I don't think he could grow a proper beard. He only needs to shave every other day. On holiday though he's much lazier and I do nag him to shave cos I don't like his stubble.

WineGoggles · 04/09/2012 16:09

YANBU. Some men look better with facial hair, others look better clean shaven. I prefer my BF to be clean shaven or only slightly stubbly - say max. 2 days growth - as he's dark skinned but getting pretty grey prematurely. It ages him if he gets too hairy. In his youth I would've gone wild for a goatee on him though.

Spuddybean · 04/09/2012 16:26

The fetishisation and fashion of facial hair on men is really interesting. Those liking and even trusting men with facial hair are now in a minority (however, i always thought the 2 most famous beardies - Father xmas and Jesus were quite trustworthy!). I studied the fetishisation of hair briefly at uni and it was very eye opening.

Political parties (new labour mainly) made their candidates shave as they wanted them to look more trustworthy and less of a 'beardy weirdy'.

Polyethyl · 04/09/2012 16:35

My husband has a moustache. He grew a beard when he was in Afghan, and the photos looked superb. I've begged him to grow a beard for me, but until he retires from the TA his Adj won't let him. He did grow it once for me, as a birthday treat, he looked so manly! If only he could have kept it.

TellyBug · 04/09/2012 17:08

"AIBU to not fancy my OH when she doesn't shave her pubes?"

Anyone done that yet?

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