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Not to let dh do pop just before I have bath

45 replies

roundynotsquary · 02/09/2012 23:37

In holiday cottage with two bathrooms. One has loo and shower but is next to baby niece's room. One has loo and bath. I said I wanted bath before bed to unwind after difficult day and he said he wanted to do poo first. I said do it in other bathroom and he said no because flushing loo might wake baby.

I said no I don't want bath in room smelling of fresh poo.

He got pissed off. I proved point by flushing loo in room next to niece and her not waking. He said I was childish. We both sulked. I had bath and he went to bed.

He's now asleep. I am bathed. And still cross. Veering between wanting to cry our holiday has silly arguments like this and wanting to laugh that it has silly argument like this. On mn as too wound up to sleep.

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Musomathsci · 02/09/2012 23:38

Life's too short! You made your point, and he's had a bit of a sulk. Enough already..

cybbo · 02/09/2012 23:39

LEAVE THE BASTARD

Casmama · 02/09/2012 23:39

He is being unreasonable. I would not want to have a bath in a bathroom that smelled of poo. You are however being unreasonable by letting this keep you up.

roundynotsquary · 02/09/2012 23:42

Grin cybbo

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JumpingThroughMoreHoops · 02/09/2012 23:42

I had bath and he went to bed

but did he have a poo?

snice · 02/09/2012 23:45

1)Have poo
2)Light match
3)Problem solved

cheesesarnie · 02/09/2012 23:45

yabu- he's going to explode from not poo'ing and it'll be all your fault.

i do hope that you can live with yourself young lady!

are you the poo warden?

CoolaSchmoola · 02/09/2012 23:51

This is seriously keeping you awake? Confused

RaisinDEtre · 02/09/2012 23:52

another vote too for matches

not to immolate DH, rather, strike after poo, snuff out flame, some alchemy magically does away with poo smell, hurrah

cerealqueen · 02/09/2012 23:53

A man and his poo should never be challenged. 20 minutes, the paper, it's like a bloody ritual. All hell could be breaking loose but A MAN MUST HAVE HIS POO.

Btw, YANBU.

PigletJohn · 03/09/2012 00:09

if only the bathroom had an opening window

Tiredmumno1 · 03/09/2012 00:15

Something similar happened to me many years ago now in our old house but -

I was actually in the bath and DP came running in desperate for the loo, ewww i just can't tolerate the smell, so I jumped out the bath, grabbed my towel and ran onto the landing which was wooden flooring, and yep you guessed it, I slipped, falling and cracked my face off the floor, I had the biggest black eye ever, and it friggin hurt. He hasn't done it ever again, he wouldn't dare Grin

Although it wasn't funny at all at the time.

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 03/09/2012 01:12

To poo or not to poo that is the question. Actually I wouldn?t say it that it is the question but it is a question and it is the one that is being posed here and if it is important enough for you to ask then it is important enough for us to answer.

The problem seems to me to be a question of timing and at the risk of getting graphic (although if anyone has read this far they should have a good grasp of the subject matter. Not an actual physical grasp mind you that would be a bit too much to stomach even in the wee small hours of Sunday night). Ideally what would happen to us humans is that we wake up in the mornings, do our business then bath/shower and go about our days refreshed and relieved. This is the perfect arrangement because (I?m going to be honest here) nobody hates the smell of their own brand. Sure you can recognise it as unsavoury or particularly potent but once you get in the shower it won?t bother you and by the time you are finished the smell has faded like a bad memory (which may be applicable to those reading the rest of this post). As said this is the ideal scenario (or maybe the ideal scenario would be.....oh nevermind that?s maybe too weird to share).

Clearly this ideal process has not worked and now you have to salvage the situation. What might happened here is the business could (and maybe should) have been carried out in the second bathroom while you had your bath but it seems a shame to spend time apart particularly when you are on holiday and as they say (or someone might once have said) the couple that the couple that poos together glues together (glues as in stays not making models of churches out of matchsticks) and so it would have been nice if you could have made this a shared experience.

I suggest in the future you get comfy in the bath, get plenty of bubbles and scented candles on the go and then let him come in and do his thing. If it becomes unbearable then some soap on the upper lip or dunking your head below the surface for a few extended periods of time should sort things out. A few well timed flushes and before you know it your problem will be solved you?ll have spend a good (insert a personally appropriate number of minutes here) minutes together and once he is done you can still have a nice relaxing soak.

Who knows once you try it you might find you bring it back after the holiday and make it part of your normal routine. Good luck.

Cynner · 03/09/2012 01:16

We have only one loo in our crumbling heap of a house..this why I make my husband do his pooing at work. Is there not a nearby service station you could have sent him to?

AgnesBligg · 03/09/2012 01:19

You twits. And yes he should've used other loo.

Cynner · 03/09/2012 01:22

Did you mean to call all of us twits, Agnes? How very rude.

TheNamesTheyAreAChangin · 03/09/2012 01:29

We need to know - Did he have his poo? And where?

AgnesBligg · 03/09/2012 01:41

Cynner eh?

I meant the op and dh argument made them twits. Obviously.

Beckamaw · 03/09/2012 01:51

I am not a twit.
However, XH used to wait until I was settled in the bath, crash in and POO.
Fucking rude bastard. VVVVFU of him.
I sacked him. I have hired a non-pooer. He is v nice.
I sympathise. YANBU.

Cynner · 03/09/2012 01:54

Agnes, my apologies. I certainly was the rude on.

Cynner · 03/09/2012 01:55

ONE..I was the rude One..jeesh..I blame my iPad..

MardyFish · 03/09/2012 01:59

Did he poo in your bath?

Some people pay good money for that.

AgnesBligg · 03/09/2012 02:02

no worries Cynner.
To be clear about my stance on pooing in shared bathroom: 1. Never ever poo while I am actually in bath (my children are exempt from this rule, if they reeeeally got to go). 2. Do not poo while I'm running bath, but ok can wait for smell to evaporate. 3. If 2 loos are an option use that one but for christ's sake don't wake the baaaabeee.

Cynner · 03/09/2012 02:02

PMSL..Mardy! I got an education about that from another poster on here..I think the term used was Cleveland Steamer..

roundynotsquary · 03/09/2012 19:39

Did he poo? I don't think so. This morning I found a brown explosion where his body had been. No shit!

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