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only taking some DCs to Disney land.

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:16

Me and DH have been talking for years about taking our three eldest to Disney land when they were old enough and when we can afford it. Next year they will be 10,7 and 5 and DH thinks that it would be the perfect time to take them as the 5 year old would be old enough to enjoy it and the 10 year old wouldn't be too old to be bored.

However we have Dtriplets who would be 1. We have people who would love to take them whilst we were in Disney.
We are just trying to gain information at this point and we asked SIL who went last year with her 4 DCs aged between 2 and 16. She was horrified that we would not take the triplets with us. She thinks we should take them all. But at 1 it seems a bit pointless. We could wait till they were older but then our eldest would be a teenager and she may not enjoy herself as much or she may not want to go at all.

DH is into the idea of going next year with the eldest then going in 7 years or so with the triplets and the older DCs that want to go. However we may not be in a position to afford it then.

So AIBU to take some and not others.
Does anyone have any experience of this at all?

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GoldandOrangeAnnunziata · 02/09/2012 20:18

Well, I do think they are very young and probably wouldn't remember it. Who would look after them though? Wouldn't you worry about them being so far away?

squeakytoy · 02/09/2012 20:18

YANBU, at 1yo they would not be able to go on the rides, you would also be restricted with what you could do too.

They also would not remember it anyway. Go with the older kids, who probably get left out quite a bit now since the arrival of triplets, and have fun!

MammaTJisWearingGold · 02/09/2012 20:18

The one year olds will not care, YANBU!! Make sure you do take them later though.

NotInMyDay · 02/09/2012 20:20

Seems perfectly reasonable to me. Could you plan to take triplets and maybe current 5 year old in 5 years or so?

CharminglyOdd · 02/09/2012 20:20

YANBU. I don't have direct experience but I agree with you about teenagers not liking Disneyland - I went back as a teenager with my (younger) sister and I didn't get half the enjoyment out of it that she did. It also was not as magical as my previous trips with my parents when I was under 10.

The triplets are too little to understand what they have missed and your older children may not want to go later or, if you can only afford to take the triplets, it would be perfectly reasonable to explain that your older children have had their turn and it is now their siblings' turn.

numbum · 02/09/2012 20:20

I agree with squeaky. I imagine the triplets take up a lot of time and spending time with the older three on their own will be fantastic. The triplets wont remember!

Do it - although be prepared for sibling taunting when they're older if you don't do the same for them when they're 5 or 6 Grin

5inthebed · 02/09/2012 20:21

YANBU.

We went to DLP last year and my 1 yr old niece hated every last minute of it, plus she wont remember it.

If you can leve your triplets with someone then go for it.

Idocrazythings · 02/09/2012 20:21

Just got back from euro Disney- DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT take your three one year olds. Personally I would never take a child under 5 again- I took a 7yr old, 4 1/2, and 2 1/2 year old. Was hard work and expensive. And the little ones did not really appreciate it.

Teeb · 02/09/2012 20:21

Yanbu, as long as you think you will be able to take the triplets in 7/10 years when it's their turn.

WhatYouLookingAt · 02/09/2012 20:22

Take the older ones now, go back in 10 years with the triplets.

But really, if you're happy, who cares what anyone else thinks?

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:23

We have some family and friends who are already asking.
I was worried about them being far away. However DH has pointed out to me that they will be 2 hours max away by plane if we needed to go back. Plus we would have internet to contact them.

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Ecgwynn · 02/09/2012 20:27

They'll be fine as long as they are with someone they and you know well. Use this as time to bond with your older children. Your triplets won't understand what they've missed and everyone will have a better time without having to stop to change nappies every 2 minutes!

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boodles · 02/09/2012 20:28

Do you mean Disney in Paris? Because if you do I would not bother and just save up to take all of you children, when you can afford it, to Florida. Florida is MUCH better than Paris and there are fantastic theme parks that your older ones will enjoy when they are bigger.

GoldandOrangeAnnunziata · 02/09/2012 20:29

Ah is it Eurodisney? I thought it was Florida, sorry. YANBU!

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:30

squeakytoy You are right the older ones do get left out a bit now and it would be nice for them and for me and DH to spend some time without the babies needing us.

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VonHerrBurton · 02/09/2012 20:31

What an amazing opportunity for you all - willing and I presume trusted family/friends prepared to look after three one year olds whilst you take the older kids - I would do it in a heartbeat.

Besides the obvious logistics of having three very young dc with you as well -they won't enjoy it, it will be exhausting inpossibly long, hot queues, the days will have to revolve around them to a certain extent, it's the extra money it will cost...

Take zero notice of SIL.

You asked if anyone had any similar experience. My sister has 4 dc under 10, the youngest at 3 yo has disabilities that more or less prevent him from being able to travel abroad for the foreseeable future. My mum and I more or less forced her to go to Disney Paris with her DH and the other three age 9, 7 and 6. The dc had a fantastic time and talk about it endlessly and the little guy had an equally fun time at home with us and his cousins.

I urge you to go.

lljkk · 02/09/2012 20:31

Last time we were in California DH took the children age 10, 8 & 5. The 1yo stayed with me. He'll get to go another time. Gosh, nobody questioned it. Just made sense to us.

Mrsjay · 02/09/2012 20:32

I would't envy anybody taking 6 children 3 babies anywhere Shock you are being sensible take the older children they will benefit before the older one becomes a teen and goes meh at disney we took ours at 10 and 5 and it was a perfect time for dinsey IMO dd2 old enough to remember , go and enjoy yourself are you confident enough to leave the triplets though you might get there and start to worry about them ,

ToothbrushThief · 02/09/2012 20:32

I took my eldest 2 to Paris Disney and the youngest missed out... never been a problem but she wasn't actually born to be fair Grin

I'd a) leave the 3 1yr olds or b) probably not go (sorry but it was hell)

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:33

Yes I mean Paris. I am not sure we would be able to afford florida, though I would love to go myself as I have never been to America never mind the DCs Grin

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wigglesrock · 02/09/2012 20:33

My parents are taking my two eldest children to Disney next year - they will then be 8 and 6. I have a third daughter who will be 2.5 by then - she's not going Grin.

My parents are going to take her and my niece (who's slightly younger) a few years after that. I have absolutely no reservation about the kids going separately at all. I know that by the time my dd3 and her cousin are old enough my parents mightn't be up to doing it or they may recoil at the idea again Grin

apostropheuse · 02/09/2012 20:35

You are definitely not being unreasonable.

You can take the triplets when they're old enough to enjoy it.

EMS23 · 02/09/2012 20:37

Definitely do it. It'll be lovely for the older ones, the triplets won't know and if you can't afford to go again in years to come, well that's tough shit, circumstances change, sure you'll do the best you can for them anyway.

Ps. Who are these saints you know that will look after triplets? Could I borrow them to have a night away from my DC's?!

GetOrfAKAMrsUsainBolt · 02/09/2012 20:38

I think it is a really good idea - really nice to consider your older children and to make some special time for them. The triplets won't know or care, and also I don;t think it matters a jot if you can afford to go again in 7 years or so or not.

Just ignore your SIL and have a lovely time.