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AIBU?

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only taking some DCs to Disney land.

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:16

Me and DH have been talking for years about taking our three eldest to Disney land when they were old enough and when we can afford it. Next year they will be 10,7 and 5 and DH thinks that it would be the perfect time to take them as the 5 year old would be old enough to enjoy it and the 10 year old wouldn't be too old to be bored.

However we have Dtriplets who would be 1. We have people who would love to take them whilst we were in Disney.
We are just trying to gain information at this point and we asked SIL who went last year with her 4 DCs aged between 2 and 16. She was horrified that we would not take the triplets with us. She thinks we should take them all. But at 1 it seems a bit pointless. We could wait till they were older but then our eldest would be a teenager and she may not enjoy herself as much or she may not want to go at all.

DH is into the idea of going next year with the eldest then going in 7 years or so with the triplets and the older DCs that want to go. However we may not be in a position to afford it then.

So AIBU to take some and not others.
Does anyone have any experience of this at all?

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Mrsjay · 02/09/2012 20:41

your sil hasn't got babies the same age even if she does have 4 children she knows nothing
@ the thought of triplets

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:41

EMS I don't think my saints know what they are getting themselves into.

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CaliforniaLeaving · 02/09/2012 20:41

YANBU the one year olds could go when they are older. Take the three older ones it will be wonderful for them. I took mine at 5 and 11 the one who was 5 only has vague memories of it.

CamelKnees · 02/09/2012 20:43

YADNBU
What a lovely thing to do - to spend time with just your older DCs who must get less of your time, attention etc since the triplets came along. Go for it. I would.

OhTheConfusion · 02/09/2012 20:44

Euro Disney with three 1yr olds would be a nightmare. DH and I have taken the DC's twice, first time DD was only 3 and it left her grumpy and exhausted. First night she fell asleep in planet hollywood and third night she missed dinner because the rainforest cafe que was so long (she survived on a banana and a cereal bar ). She is a great kid but it was just too much each day.

2nd time DD was 6 and she loved it. If you took the babies one person would be on buggy guard and miss out on the fun. Take your three LO's when they are older.

Also, pack a bag full of drinks and snacks for the kids as everything on offer is sugar filled and sooooo expensive!

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:44

Well if the 5 year old wants too go again (If we get the chance). We would take her with the triplets. She would love it now though and I am not sure if she would enjoy it as much when she is older.

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Lonelynessie · 02/09/2012 20:45

Go and have a great time. Me and dh went to Disneyland Paris when my daughter was about 18 months old for a break and we loved every second of it .

We have since been back with dd1 when she was 5 and dd2 was about 10months, and tbh I wish we just went with dd1 as dd2 got quite frustrated and bored.

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:46

Thanks for the tip OhTheConfusion

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Floralnomad · 02/09/2012 20:46

I have a 7 year age gap with my DC's and we have taken lots of separate holidays and still do . My eldest went to Florida twice before we all went as a family and although we also took holidays as a family I have taken my younger DD to Rhodes and Disneyland Paris without the older one. It has never caused an issue with my DC's ,which is surprising as they manage to argue about everything else

littleducks · 02/09/2012 20:48

I took my kids (6 and 4) to disneyland last week, the days are really long. we didnt do any restaurants, as the veggie options are poor but the special fireworks show started at 23.15 (we ended up leaving after midnight).

I would leave the triplets at home, bring them back a nice cuddly toy each from one of the many gift shops and they will probably appreciate that much more than going! The babies i saw there mostly cried when they 'met' characters and couldnt go on rides, even the small rides would need a higher adult to child ratio than you would have.

TheHumancatapult · 02/09/2012 20:48

Do it , I've never took my eldest two but next year I'm taking two youngest and my older two don't want to go (18 and15 now ) yet people are shocked that I'm leaving them

But if they not going to enjoy it what's the point of the cost etc and yes know slightly Differnt but it means you can do things that based around your older two .

Same way needs of my younger two can be met going without my older ones complaining

RabidAnchovy · 02/09/2012 20:52

I would leave the Triplet at home, we took our DSs when the youngest was 2 and he has no memory of it at all

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:52

We will go on family holidays all together in the UK as we always have. But I would also like my DCs to have the chance of flying and going abroad. As well as getting to go to Disney land.
I didn't go abroad till my honeymoon and I just didn't know what to expect and nearly broke DHs hand as the plane took off.

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Secret7 · 02/09/2012 20:54

I seem to be the only one who is going to disagree. I would rather not go at all and take them all in 2/3 years time.

I can see the logic in everyone's replies but don't like the idea of leaving some of the family at home.

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Justhadenough · 02/09/2012 20:57

Secret7I understand what your saying. It's what I said to DH but he said, and judging by the replies he was right. They would still be too young at 3. Plus we would probably need at least one other adult to come with us.

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oldraver · 02/09/2012 20:59

Noo I wouldn't take them, one of you would always have to stay with them while the others went on rides... it would take twice as long to get round.

Take the older three now and the triplets in a few about 10 years

HeidiHole · 02/09/2012 21:00

I think you should leave the 1 year olds.

They won't remember it, they won't be "offended" to be left behind, your older children will have a fun time without the carnage that 3 one yr olds will inevitably bring (I presume they've had to share your time quite a bit over the last year!!)

If you genuinely have people who you trust and are happy to look after the little ones I think then do it.

As you say you can take the triplets another time.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 02/09/2012 21:06

Yanbu, euro Disney is great but there's nowhere to put babies down for a crawl or toddle.

LilyCocoplatt · 02/09/2012 21:07

YANBU to want to take the older ones, if you have people at home that you trust with the triplets then go for it. If you were to take them wouldn't you need another adult for the plane anyway, wouldn't it be one baby per adult lap? Easier to do as you planned, go now with the older ones and take the triplets when they are older.

Mrsjay · 02/09/2012 21:11

I see what your saying secret71 but it is going to be so expensive to take 8 people all at once in a few years time there is a chance her eldest child would be charged as an adult or not even like disney by then, and it would also give the other children time with mum and dad away from the babies

2beornot · 02/09/2012 21:17

I was ready to say that you shouldn't treat your kids differently but in this case YANBU. For all the reasons everyone has already mentioned!

LittlePicnic · 02/09/2012 21:20

YANBU- in leaving the younger ones. I would add though that I went when I was 16 and loved it.

FakePlasticLobsters · 02/09/2012 21:24

I'd go now and leave the triplets with someone who can cope with them and enjoy them.

They won't know or care about Disneyland yet, or remember it if you take them. You can do it again in a few years with them so that they can enjoy it too.

blisterpack · 02/09/2012 22:20

YANBU. This is not a case of treating children differently at all! The triplets are not going to enjoy being there, and will be difficult to be kept entertained and happy so leave them.

Tbh I don't think it's a huge deal even if you don't take them at a future time (if you totally can't afford it obviously). I don't keep a list of what we do as a family, to be ticked off one by one later with future children or those that are too young to enjoy it now.

Hulababy · 02/09/2012 22:28

1y is probably a bit too young tbh.

DD did a day at 18m and it was fun and she had a great day, but obviously she gets more out of it the older she gets, but I reckon 2y+ is better. We did DisneyWorld for a fortnight when DD was 2y4m and she had an amazing time.

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