to think that being in a mobility scooter means that your excuse for abusing parent & child parking is COMPLETELY invalid rant rant rant

[flibberdyjibbert]

So I pulled up in parent & child parking, & as we were getting out, so did a car with 2 adults. I pointed out that this was parent & child parking, noted the scooter in the back of the car, & helpfully self-righteously pointed out that there were plenty (about 10 times as many) of disabled spaces a mere stones-throw away.

Them: 'Oh, but they are a long way from the store & it's a long way to go when you are disabled'
Me: Yes, well I'm ok with mine (1 & 3), but it's a long way to go with a newborn baby if you can't park here'
Them (tone of voice changes from the previous slight whine): 'Fuck off!'
Me: [stunned silence that anyone could be so blatantly rude & inconsiderate in so many ways at once]
Them: 'Go on, go away. Fuck off!'
Me: 'You are rude. You are very rude.'

So I've since established that a disabled badge means you can park wherever you like, including parent & child spaces, because these are only 'courtesy' spaces, not legally just for parents with children.

Which is fine. I have no problem with that.

But this person was using the space because it would otherwise be a long way to go 'for a disabled person'. And were then later observed by myself to be transporting themselves around Sainsburys IN A MOBILITY SCOOTER. It would have had to use an extra 2 minutes of battery to come from a Disabled parking space.

And they were SO RUDE

Must go, the chilli's burning.

Welshmaenad - I could never begin to imagine or presume to know in any way what it must be like. My comment about caesarian sections was not intended to demean or belittle the difficulties that many people must face, in dealing with disability (either their own or that of someone they love & care for), in any way. It was meant only in reference to the specific case of someone able to travel around in a mobility scooter. And I am fully aware that that doesn't mean it's easy to get in & out & around in a scooter either. We're all sometimes a bit too quick to make judgements about people, and I know that I'm guilty of that too. Sorry.

Women have been having babies and getting on with life for hundreds of thousands of years - not that you'd never believe it on this forum - it's not a new phenomenon - and frankly if you cant haul your sorry arse, new born and toddlers then I pity you as poor excuse for a woman human. Next time you decide to have a baby, do a risk assessment first to see if you can cope when you need to venture out for a pint of milk.

There was really no need at all for you to make a comment to them. With all the people out there in the world doing selfish twatty things, this was low down on the list. IMO. They didn't deprive you of a space, they were entitled to use the space. You said that yourself. They are disabled. No-one's child would reasonably be expected to get mown down crossing a car park under supervision.

Al rather pointless. I wouldn't have told you to fuck off, but I would have thought it.

Hmm, working 82 hours in 9 days (including 4 night shifts), then having to do the weekly shop with children in tow... some of us do have to live in the real world you know, & do do a bit more in life than having babies.

Glad you've had second thoughts OP, I admire people who take on board the results of AIBU :)

I'm not letting AIBU take all the credit - quite a few people have issues with their manners on here too

I am howling with laughter at 'Mown down! Mown down!'

Eh? Eh?

Ok, so I am definitely going to play bingo and maybe chuck a few bun's soon, but I think what op is getting flamed for trying to say is that she had already parked in her lovely convenient space and was asked to move, quite rudely, by someone who could have quite as easily parked in another space.

I find it enormously irritating when ppl abuse P&C spaces. (Accompanied by no kids, teenage kids, dog)
It's just cheating (like queue jumping or tax evasion) and it bothers me more than it should.
I don't challenge ppl on it though because I hate confrontation and the chance of making a mistake (previously unseen baby/toddler appears) is too high leading to unbearable embarrassment.

However, It would not occur to me to have a problem with someone who was disabled using P&C space. I sort of get what you're saying as there were disabled spaces available, and he was rude, which isn't nice, but even I, with my fanatical (possibly unreasonable) hatred of parking space abuse would have not been bothered by this.

hey ho.

Princess . No, The OP had her cosy space already. She chose to comment to the people parking alongside her that it was P&C parking, having noticed they were disabled

YABU. Obviously. And I am stunned by the comparison of a c-section to a disability

And if it's was a mobility scooter belonging to the supermarket you are often not allowed to take them out of the supermarket, and you have to walk into there to get the key, so it does matter how close the space is

If you were already in a space not assigned as disabled parking then Yanbu particularly as there were disabled spaces available.

They were also rude

Oh sorry - no you should not have pulled them up on parking in a p&c space - sorry I thought you meant they had asked you to move out of your space

Olivia... You keep posting it, it aint ever gonna happen my love.

Have some gin, it's ok ive watered it down with some vodka to get you through the next few hours.

Peace and love.

Hang on OP, I thought you were 2 weeks post Csection? Now you''re working all the hours under the sun for 9 days nonstop?

Which is it?

JamieAndOscar - I thought 'mown down! Mown down!' was an echo of the hysteria from the last mobility scooter thread in which there was much talk of people hither and thither being mown down by fleets of speeding mobility racers....is that not what you meant?

amazing

feels slightly like she's stalking amazing today

I have a mobility scooter AND a baby. Would you like to talk about who has the harder deal? I'm uniquely placed to judge.

Beyond your wildest dreams, the disabled person.

Sounds as if the store have not positioned the disabled bays correctly. These should be close to the store. P & C spaces should be on the edge of the car park with safe walkways. Or got rid of all together. If you want space to get out - use the spaces furthest away from the entrance where no one parks.

Olivia:

A Proposed Road Map Toward peace and Love on MN:

1.Do away with AIBU

1. Put an automatic filter on the words 'P&C Parking', 'mobility scooter' 'Blue badge' 'free car for disabled people' 'my mum's friend said...' and anything followed by the word 'brigade'.

Bobs yer uncle. Sit back with a prosecco and meditate on the MN Philosophy.

Oh I am so stupid, well then op I'm afraid yabu, I thought they wanted your space. Yes never ever tell anyone where they can or should park cos it's none of your business,

Blu - The mown down was just me comedy repeating what the OP had said in her earlier post.

The "Eh? Eh?" wasn't to you. (Sorry, we X posted) It was in response to the OP's comment of 19:48:48 (a poorly veiled attempt at bringing SAHM/WOHM into the thread).

Blu

I agree AIBU has really had its day

do we give scores for made up threads?
if so 0 out of 10 for this one,
too many holes in it to be real.