how many of you post on AIBU then realise that YABU and thank posters?

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I had to tonight because my head was in a bad place and i nearly complained about someone who was only doing their job to the best of their abilities and thanks to mumsnetters did not make a twat of myself by filing a complaint. Now I see another lass who realised SWBU, but still getting harrassed!! Now that is BU. How many folk on AIBU are willing to suggestions really, and admit BU? Ok some will say YANBU but those threads where mostly everyone says YABU, do they admit/take advice or do they just post for effect and dont care and do it anyway? BYW i think i may have addiction to mumsnet, help!!

YANBU!

I'm addicted too, but I wouldn't dare post in AIBU, because I'm never unreasonable terrible at apologizing .

Can't help re your addiction unfortunately but YANBU

My first ever post I was told I was BU, I apologised and admitted I was wrong. The flaming continued. So I gave up talking to the loons reasonable posters and hid the thread.

i wouldnt even know how to hide a thread, but if im wrong, i say im wrong, Im not scared to make mistakes and i thought that what AIBU is for...but some people go on and on like ariston...showing my age now

I did! I was upset about something, got told I was BU, and after a while I agreed with the posters. I still kind of agree. Some people just take AIBU too seriously and start flaming others. With all that is going on today it would be good for everyone to remember this is only an internet forum.

I'd never be an OP in AIBU, my ego is far too fragile for the battering I'm sure it would get. If I have problems or am unsure of things I'd rather post about it on other boards where I'd feel I was more likely to get advice. I think of AIBU as more the place for people to have fun being judgmental rather than people to seriously ponder about their own behaviour. But I'm sure others must get some use out of it, and hopefully do take the suggestions on board.

A thread about a thread. Have you read all the goings on relating to the thread you're referring to? Best have a look.

I've only posted once in aibu. Most posters said I was bu.

I posted 'oh ok I'll accept I was unreasonable'.

But really I still thought I was right!!! I did take the course of action advised by mumsnet but grumbled under my breath about it.

Ive only posted a few bits on here, on the ones where i was tld IWBU i was also told by other IWBR so i took on board what was said by both parties.

I have thanked people when they have provided me with information i didnt know.

Is it possible to look back over your own posts/threads on here?

YANBU.

It has happened to me. I posted something about a toy that my nan had got for DS. I thought it was a bit young for him and had said to her (we have a great relationshop). I asked on here and got a bit of a pasting and I realised I was wrong. I told my nan I thought he would love it and she gave it to him.

It's because so many people don't read the thread, they read the first post and give their opinion without realising the OP admiited being U 5 pages back, and everybody is now talking about puppies.

PEACE AND LOVE

I did.

I did the epic "mobility scooters shouldn't be on the pavement" thread and then realised I was being a twat and apologised ad said what I should have said was they should be regulated more / locked at a lower speed.

But in my defence some woman had just ran over my foot and fractured my ankle so I wasn't in the best place for making thoughtful posts!! (Sorry).

Sort of. I did a "I regularly do X because I think I might be judged at the school gate if I don't, AIB paranoid?" and was clearly told that yes I was being paranoid and shouldn't bother, to which I replied "Oh, OK, I'm being paranoid, thanks for telling me, but I'm going to continue doing it anyway just in case, because it's not a big deal"

That sort of counts doesn't it? except that all the other posters were wrong because I've subsequently seen several threads where people have been judged to high heaven for X.

Not me ive posted on AIBU and usually opinion is divided, to which i've always come to the conclusion that I was right and nbu and everyone who thought I was were clearly deluded!

I've posted in AIBU loads and never felt persecuted.

Even when people really disagreed over whether I was BU involving my mum.

In fact Vallhalla, Hec and all the others were really supportive regardless of their stance on the issue.

I think AIBU is what you make it. I genuinely needed rational opinions and got them.

I don't mind doing an about turn if I realise I'm 'wrong', that's the reason I've posted a thread in the first place.

On one I posted I was really fucked off at the start, and posting calmed me the fuck down and made me realise there were angles on the situation I hadn't thought of.

Although I don't like it when OPs explaining the situation a bit more is taken as drip feeding or not accepting what's been said in the thread. You can't get everything into the OP without boring the pants off posters, so you have to say things that come up, especially if you'd never even thought of what posters are suggesting.

Why the shouted 'peace and love'? Should that be read more as 'PEACE AND LOVE PEOPLE, REMEMBER THAT?! '?

I am never being unreasonable, so i wouldn't know

I posted in AIBU for my first post (I was new) and it gave me an outsiders POV of the situation which I really hadn't considered. I took on board what posters were saying and I made changes but I never went back and thanked people on the thread, was I meant to?

Agent, again I totally agree (am making a habit of it tonight!)...

I posted a few days ago about not being appreciated for celebrating DH's birthday (he hates birthdays), and bar one poster, everyone was lovely. I guess I expect people to be very honest when they post, so also accept a certain degree of harshness if it necessitates. It's when posters turn personal that it crosses the boundaries..

Also re 'drip-feeding*, it's sometimes very difficult to write absolutely EVERYTHING in the OP, so invariably some things get added later which makes the op seem like a troll...

I'd be interested in why the people who refuse to acknowledge there could be something in it when every poster says the same thing, feel it's a personal attack on them as a person.

Maybe it's when the thread gets on a bit and people start to feel justified in being a bit shitty because they're obviously 'right' that all politeness goes out the window? Which I don't think I'd feel comfortable with.

WEll once I did have my perspective, em, widened ..... and I acknowledged that, (that happened twice actually) but I was really angry about the way people piled on to be nasty, sarcastic and supercilious. I hope I'm never Doh-on-speed on AIBU. I just tell people whether I think they were being U or not, and why.

Well I don't really understand why people post on AIBU if secretly they feel they ARE being reasonable?

Are they seeking reassurance?

I've posted when I've genuinely not known whether I have or not, and assumed all people did the same.

I read your thread and thought you got off lightly it went well for you.

I think some posters would benefit from a 'Get That Through Your Thick Skull' emoticon to save OPs from the harshness (not sure what form that could take though.)

In reality, it's probably more about the thrill of the kill, if you post in a place where there's a high risk of getting a roasted arse, deciding to take your chance can get the adrenaline going.

And for the people posting because they're bored that's OK, it's when OPs are distressed in the first place that makes it uncomfortable reading.

It's happened at least once that I can remember - and people were very lovely and sweet about it. They told me to lower my expectations in the kindest possible way - and it was just what I needed.