To think my mother should spell my DD's name correctly

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DD is 9 months old. Not an unusual name yet she spells it wrong every time. It isn't even a case of her using an alternative spelling. It's just spelt wrong.

I've pointed it out politely many times and she still does it.

The thing is I wouldn't be precious about it if it was a friend although all my friends spell it properly but it's my DD's grandma and I think she should make the effort to spell it correctly.

It's really starting to grate on me now. AIBU?

What's the name?

You have to tell us how she spells it

MIL always gives us a bit of a giggle spells DDs name incorrectly

it's no biggie, honest

And why does she have to keep writing your DDs name?

Is she generally a bit rubbish with spelling and/or writing?

my son is nearly 20 and MIL still spells his name wrong!!

Start spelling name wrong.

Start spelling her name wrong

She probably won;t notice but it might make you feel better.

My ex MiL spells no2 son's name wrong - he is her grandson, and she loves him dearly. It's an ordinary name, millions of people have it, but she puts an a where there should be an e. We just let it go though, because she's well, just not that literate for want of a kinder way to put it - it's not that she's stupid, far from it, but she left school at 14 and was married with three children by the time she was 21, and devoted herself to them, and has never needed to be able to spell and stuff.
If it really, really pisses you off, or you think your DM is doing it deliberately for some weird reason of her own, keep gently reminding her (or throw an epic wobbler and get her told) but if it's not, it's just a "blind spot" she has re the spelling, let it go.

Should have name changed so I could say her name! If we call her Alex my DM would spell it 'Alexe'.

pagwatch it's when she emails or texts me although it's wrong in her birth card too.

pom I think you are right and I'll get over it! She is educated to degree level so in think it's just a blind spot but it's unfortunate it's her granddaughter's name!

Oh, and it's great to know it is not just my DM who does this!

Perhaps she thinks she is giving it a specially grandma twist - like a nickname.

If it helps my mum gets my name wrong too

My much. Doesn't even say dd2's name right!

She still loves her and tbh we just laugh it off now.

We get this too. I find it a bit irritating, but I think people are just being a bit lazy, so I let it go. I'd be more annoyed if I thought they were doing it on purpose because they didn't like the name we'd chosen

My mother write cheques to B. (surname) for birthdays when my daughter is called Rebecca... yes we call her Becky but the bank doesn't know that.

I just asked my DH to spell our daughters names... he's manages one on the second attempt, but the No1 daughter's name seems beyond his grasp... he also can't remember which one had which middle name.

It's no biggie, he always calls me up to check before he fills out paperwork with their names (thank goodness).

it happens............. my xPILs spell my daughter's name the French way. We're not French. They're not French. We don't live in France. She writes thank you letters from 'the english spelling'. Ten years on...... same mistake! or is it a mistake or is it a complicated coded message?

Is it Isabel? And she writes "Isabelle"?

When ds was a baby, fil insisted on calling ds by a shortened version of his name that was not one we would use. I ended up having stern words.

Body....but don't his schoolmates do that anyway? I was a bit precious about DD2s name at first...it's Rose and people kept calling her Rosie which I just don't like. Reminds me of Sally from Corrie "Our Ruursie!"

But when she began preschool some kids call her that affectionately...there's not getting away from it really.

My father in law insists on calling 22 month old DS William even though everyone shortens it to Will. No biggie except he asked me if I was concerned about his hearing or general and development because he didn't seem to be responding to his name...

SHe's got a blind spot about it -- she is either convinced that is how it is spelt, (by which I mean, how you have told her how it should be spelt, notnot that she thinks that's how it should be spelt) or she cannot see it when she makes the mistake. And once you've got it in your head that what you have written is right, it's hard to see your mistake!

I'm a bit like that with spoken names; if I make a mistake and call someone Sally instead of Sarah, I still think of her as Sally, even after being corrected. It just kind of sticks in my brain. (And I'll probably continue to call her Sally.) Embarassing.

No, they use a different shortening.

My mil calls dd2 a completely different name because she's 'heard of that one' and dd2's name is fairly unusual. The different name is only one letter different but it is the wrong name.

I think dd2 will spend her entire life spelling out her name to people as nobody seems to spell it properly, even though it is spelt phonetically, they all seem to want to add an extra letter or make it complicated.

My brother always spells DD1s name with an ie instead of a y and DD3s name with a y instead of an ie, DS (affectionately) gets called knucklehead in all communications and DD2 has never been called by her name at all (not even by me), we have a nickname for her that everyone uses (so I guess I can let him away with that one). I find it funny more than anything else.

My mum mispronounced my dd1s name for the first 3 weeks of her life, she got herself into such a tizz about it - we look back and laugh now - 7 years later

I spelt Sophia - with the F and this just threw her completely. Our conversation went like this :

What is the capital of Bulgaria? Sofia

Who is the Queen of Spain? Sofia

Who is your first grandchild? Soth, sofae oh feck I got it wrong again!